has been having so much trouble at work. First of all, he's starting to come to terms with not being around for the birth and the first few months of bubs life, and then his bosses wanted to put him on an in-work course for 2 months which means he would miss scans/appts etc. He's already missed all but 1 (I've been having more than normal as going through a spec).
Normally it would have been fine but he begins training for Timor straight after and can't be excused to go to anything baby related then either. So he had to have a big meeting with the 'big cheese' who went nuts at him (this course is to hurry along a promotion).
Now they've taken him off the course (yay!) but...
They've also given him 2 options. Either he:
a) moves to another area of the army and takes a demotion, as well as losing all of the progress he's made with the current guys, but doesn't go to Timor and therefore gets to bond with his baby (although he would go again in May-Dec next year). OR
b) stay where you are, don't get the promotion until you get back from Timor (june next year). Keep making progress, go to Timor and get quite a lot of $$ for your efforts.
Now, I probably sound money-hungry but there's no way I want him to choose (a) just because he'll miss the birth etc. Heaps of guys do it all the time (including a lot of our friends). And we've pretty much already spent that money
He's got until next week to decide. Decisions, decisions! And if your still reading, thanks
My poor DH...
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what a decision you & DH have to make. You sound like you've both been "preparing" for the fact that he won't be around for the birth so maybe looking to the long-term might be the best option. I know you have your families & friends around so you won't be completely on your own. It's still a tough decision though & I really feel for you but you sound strong...
It's no where near as bad by the sounds of it. Although I guess it would be if DH was currently posted to a ship.
