Oh my god I just had a hissy fit!

Do you enjoy having vistors? My hubby's sister has arrived ffor a week long visit in the 24 hrs since she has been here is has done nothing!!!!    Hubby works long hours so I am the one left at home trying to juggle all that needs to be done. I have been looking after bubs, housework (she told me I vaccum really well - talk about almost wearing the vaccum cleaner), taking us out for lunch ... I can't believe she has done nothing - oops sorry apart from distracting bubs especially at feeding time by trying to enter into conversation and flipping magazine pages over loudly!! Bubs has been unsettled since someone else has been in the house (not feeding well/not sleeping). She had the nerve to ask today when bubs wasn't very happy if I had burped her! Last night she had the nerve to ask what time dinner was - don't mind us we have a bubs to bath and feed! Oh and why would I mind paying for almost everything at the supermarket - of course I don't mind you eating our food (my chocolate), buying you a nice piece of cake - for you then to turn around and tell me the coffee you have brought you will be taking home with you!!!! Rude. Well hubby arrived home tonight and I lost it - in front of her, I told him to back off but he kept pushing (tells me I'm moody is sure to push buttons big time) - I said I'm sick of being the house maid around here and having to juggle everything and how it would be nice to sit down and relax!!! I have other committments I need to take care off, he kept pushing so I threw the damn tomatoes on the floor and told them they could ****** sort dinner out and walked out of the house. Well back home I'm the bad guy nobodys talking to me - I think she is going to stay elsewhere for the next few days if all goes to plan - after all she is on holiday and why should she think of putting herself out - suits me then I can have my SEAT back - she asked where we sit and we told her, why would I mind being the one to sit elsewhere I can't even sit in my normal spot and relax with my craft work!! She is sitting there texting with someone about the drama - I mean after the stories we got about the dramas up home the other day I can't wait for this to get back to mother in law - gosh will my name be mud and I'm the big baddy. Hubby throws in my face how my parents can come and stay - big difference as far as I'm concerned at least they help out with housework, groceries and in other ways and at least they can go out by themselves. Why should I have to amuse her and why does she her to be a cling on! I wish she would just decide she is going to go of and explore by herself for a while and leave me and bubs in peace. God I feel bad and mean - sitting here thinking I should kinda of aplogize!! Well does this ranting make me feel any better - not.

Edited by hannibal

Good on you for not just biting your tongue...at least you'll have her out of your house

My MIL stayed this weekend and did nothing. My mum rung up and politely mentioned to her that perhaps we could use a hand rather than her just sitting there asking for a cup of tea and asking what time DH was making dinner!! I completely understand. She vacuumed and you'd think she had saved the world or something cause I was supposed to thank HER for it.

Good on you for speaking up. DH should have supported you.

Oh, I feel your pain!
I just had family staying here for two weeks.
While they helped with groceries, DH and I still did the cooking and I did ALL the cleaning and baby feeding (and giving up our baby-free room to bunk in with miss snores-a-lot!)
A holiday is a holiday, but if you're staying at someone elses house it's only courtesey to help with the housework and cooking!

I hope she finds somewhere else to stay!

Must be the time of year for inconsiderate visiters.

We just had friends stay from napier 2 adults 2 kids they were here for 4days, she came to the supermarket with me twice and didnt offer to pay for a damm thing, they left there stuff all over our house despite having a huge rumpus rm for themselves did no housework no cleaning and to top it off we even had to feed there baby, they didnt even bring food for her. Needless to say they are not staying here again, I wouldnt cope.

Go you hannibal!! I probably woulda thrown the tomatoes at them! You only reacted like any normal person would!! Hope it gets better for you soon!

Me being me I still tackled hubby again tonight - I asked him if I was being unreasonable - he said maybe it wasn't very nice as she had only been here one night apparently she asked after I had walked out what that was all about - go figure - seriously at 36 honey get a clue (seriously single and still living at MIL). I enjoying my couch again hehehe.

I guess that I was brought up differently - I would never just go and off load and expect someone else to run around after me or pay for everything. I would never dream of rocking up to someones house for a week to sit there and do nothing (seriously she won't leave the house to do anything by herself - there is a BS right outside) and pay for nothing - we are on one wage and I have to give up things so why should I be the one paying for someone else to have a holiday when perhaps I would like one - all expenses paid too. I don't expect to have her do my housework ... but it would be nice if she would ask can I do that for you - seriously to watch me wash all the dishes and 30 seconds later she puts a dirty plate in the dishwasher!

Well that is the thing, maybe you were bought up differently? Not that I am pointing fingers saying that someone is doing something wrong or not that I am getting at you, it's just a different way of seeing things.
Instead of getting angry, sometimes it pays to say something and saving yourself the anger. I mean by the sounds of it you are upset enough to get angry and have words with your husband but not talk to someone and ask for help.
It just seems like you're creating yourself a whole heap of hassle and work? And I am sure with all of the things you have listed so far dishes, dinner, ferrying someone around, being a mummy. Asking for a little help is simpler than having an all out warfare.

Good on you! It's not fair that peoples holidays should ruin your evryday life!
IMHO biting your tounge is unhealthy - leds to stomach ulcers, big knots in your back, migraines etc. etc. (At least thats what I tell myself )