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Mrs Ana a lot of people get on their high horse when they aren't currently going through the situation. In reality if we followed every rule that is prescribed to pregnant women there would be very little we would be allowed to do or eat and we would have be be happy smiley people all the time - its ridiculous. The reality is we are all human and that means that we can't be perfect all the time. Also, there is so much research out there on what we should and shouldn't do and a lot of it contradicts each other. All we can really do is what works for us at the time and (excuse the expression) to hell with those who try to make life difficult. Each person is different, do what works for you. The sad thing is that in reality for a lot of people pregnancy is a negative time, it doesn't mean that you don't want whats best for your baby or that you will be a bad mother. In reality a huge number of pregnant women get depression and when you consider the life changes and lack of emotional support around it, its no wonder. There is a lot of publicity about PND but not much about the antenatal version.

Sorry guys if this has turned into a bit of a rant, its something I feel strongly about. Pregnant women (as you obviously all know ) do whats best for them and their children, there is no point making pariahs out of them when a little support can go such a long way.
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Mrs Ana.....I freely admit that I disliked pregnancy intensely, and I was the same about it while I WAS pregnant. Let me assure you, my girls are the most happy, contented little girls who have suffered absolutely no ill effects from my dislike of the pregnancy! Just because I hated pregnancy, doesn't mean I hated them...in fact I even plan to do it all over again next year maybe!! I'll still hate pregnancy then too
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I am another one who is struggling with pregnancy and being pregnant, and like you don't understand it, especially when it was so wanted. I think this is the main reason as to why I haven't been around OB in a number of weeks now, i've just been so negative- and it makes me feel guilty!

Honestly though, I don't know how people do this over and over, if I could have twins right now i'd be so happy for that would mean i'd have my two babies and would never have to be pregnant again! And it's not just the physical feelings of being nauseas and tired that are effecting me either, I am struggling with my weight increasing, with my hips getting wider, with my boobs growing (and I thought I would love this!!), not being able to play sport, etc etc.

I wanted to love being pregnant but I feel anything but love about it. Of course I love my baby but that is as far as it goes right now.
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote minik8e Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 24 March 2010 at 8:24am
LA - the whole weight thing is hard....I struggled with not being in control of my own body, really really struggled. I was lucky, never got MS at all, just nausea, and people told me I was lucky (which I was!!), but it was more than just that. And wishing for twins....a twin pregnancy is a lot harder, trust me!!!
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So just home from the Dr, he's put me back on anti-d's, starting to feel the same way I did before my last bout of clinical depression, although last time I didn't know what it was...

So I'm trying to be positive that I'm seeking/getting treatment and I'm going to get better

Then... pulling into my driveway someone decides to cut in the left hand side of me, turning left in my driveway so I hit their stupid car! GRR!


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0mrs, i'm working with a therapist as well and find this the most beneficial thing. I feel so lucky to have this opportunity. I hope your anti-d's kick in soon and things start to look up. I just came off mine cold turkey when I conceived.
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