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lizzle
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Topic: siblings Posted: 03 July 2006 at 8:18am |
Jake has started to get jealous of Taine. I think it's because taine has started to be interested in toys- toys that previously Jake assumed were his. So he yells "NO! MINE!" and grabs things back. A few days ago he bit Taine really hard on the leg. I think we are dealing with all that okay, but what I wonder is:
For those of you who have brothers or sisters, what did your parents do that you liked? and what did they do that you didn't? My girlfriend has already contributed that while she has tons of photo albums dedicated to her, her brother has one and she always felt bad for him. I'm an only child - well I have two step-sisters but they didn't appear on the scene til I was 16, so a little different.
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AnnC
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Posted: 03 July 2006 at 1:01pm |
It is very important to learn to share - can't remmeber back to my childhood to what my parents did but as I have two other children I can understand. Josh is 5 years older than Brooke so understood more when she did want to play with his toys. We did have 'just Josh's' toys where brooke was not to play with like special toys but he had to share the bulk of them. But also Brooke had to learn to share as well and didn't just get the toys cause she was the youngest. I went on the first in first served, if Josh was playing with something Brooke wasn't allowed to just take it off him and the same the other way. There is loads of ways that we had this 'challenge' most important is to remember is that Just cause Jake is the oldest and understands more doesn't mean he has to give up the toy to his brother all the time or else he will resent his brother and taine will not learn to share himself.
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mrs frantic
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Posted: 03 July 2006 at 1:58pm |
I have a brother that is 18 months younger than me, and I remember he used to get away with so much more than me! I was excpected to always share and understand but cos he was younger he was never expected to share - it was just assumed that cos he was the "baby" he didnt understand or worse, couldnt understand. While I agree there is a period of time the baby doesnt understand I think it is important to recognise when that ends and then to start expecting the baby to play fair too..thats just what I can remember thinking...
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Lulu
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Posted: 03 July 2006 at 2:07pm |
I'm the youngest of seven, so I definately had it the best I think. My parents were way softer on me than my siblings. I reckon they were worn out by the time they got to me and couldn't be bothered arguing! Definately noticed more photos of the eldest child than of the rest of us, but that's just life I reckon, I don't take it personally!
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Posted: 03 July 2006 at 2:31pm |
My siblings are 11 and 13 years older than me, so dont really remember them living at home. But I see my brothers kids (9, 7, 4) and how they treat the eldest so unfairly. Hes always had to give up his toys because he's the oldest and you can realy see that it affects him. Poor kid...
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crazy_crazy
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Posted: 03 July 2006 at 5:41pm |
i am the oldest of 4 and i gotta agree all though i had harder the my brothers and sster u relly have got to be as hard on the oldest as the youngest
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Posted: 14 July 2006 at 5:58pm |
I'm the middle im 20 my sisters are 22 and 16. There are about 3 pics of me as a baby and about 3 books for each of my sisters. I remember me and older sis used to get in trouble for everything little sis did which sucked. When little sis was a baby i used to get her up and read to her and my parents bought me this great big book set which i loved.
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meow
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Posted: 14 July 2006 at 8:37pm |
crazy_crazy wrote:
i am the oldest of 4 and i gotta agree all though i had harder the my brothers and sster u relly have got to be as hard on the oldest as the youngest |
are you and Lu sisters? I thought you were younger than her?
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Posted: 15 July 2006 at 1:53pm |
Kat, I think Lu is using her account
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Posted: 15 July 2006 at 1:55pm |
P.S. Liz... I have just re-read your post and have decided that it a lot to do with age and stage. Hannah doesn't have any brothers or sisters (obviously) but is exactly the same when people come around to play.
You do what you can, but to a certain extent you just have to wait for him to grow out of it! Hopefully sooner rather than later. (Would be handy for me if Hannah grew out of it otherwise people will stop bringing their kids round!  )
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Posted: 15 July 2006 at 10:26pm |
Hehe, there's 13 mths between me and my brother, and all up 4 of us in 5 years, so we were pretty close. I didn't get on with any of them when we were growing up, but my youngest brother and sister played together really well. We're all friends now tho - just as well we didn't kill each other when we wre kids!
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Posted: 16 July 2006 at 2:11pm |
i was using pips account till ohbaby let me back on woo hoo for me i am the oldest and pips the bubs of the familiy
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Posted: 16 July 2006 at 2:59pm |
we were all really far apart so i have no idea and the dynamics in our family are hella weird... not even gonna try and explain lol. i do know that Paris still does that and it doesn't help now that ayja has decided she HAS to have everything paris does. I think what helped us was teaching paris to play WITH ayja and to show her, make it seem as if "Taine is really just learning to use the new stuff, but oh, big Jake, he already knows how to use it, how about you have one each and you can show taine what to do"
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Posted: 16 July 2006 at 3:20pm |
I'm the oldest of three, and my siblings are 10 and 12 years younger than me. The youngest, our brother, has special needs, so my sister and I had to allow for that. K found it hard as she's only a couple of years older than him. Being so much older, I was the one expected to be the peaceful one (so unfair when you're a hormonal 14yo and there's a 4yo blaming you for pinching you, when you haven't touched her!  ), and share nearly everything. At least I had a lock on my door, and Mum and Dad were really good about letting me lock it while I was at school!
Kiya is learning to play nicely at the moment. I regularly went through her toys taking away the ones she'd outgrown telling her that they were "for littler kids to play with when they visit"... once Josiah was on the way it became "can we put these away for Baby when it's bigger?"... she liked the idea of giving her old things to Baby, but now we struggle with getting her to let Josiah play with them - especially if he had it first! Doesn't matter if the toy used to be hers or if it was a gift to him! "I'm just showing him how to use it, Mummy"
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