the role of the stay at home mum/wife

Hey all my DP has just got a new job as a personal trainer and is not working fulltime. Im still part time at uni, so at the mo we are sharing the care of DS and the house. Most of the time i cook but DP is also a great cook and likes to cook, we share the housework on the weekends we also share the washing and dishes etc. Its quite good at the mo because his afternoon shifts dont start till 130pm so he takes DS for a run in the mornings so I can sleep in bliss. Eventually when I graduate I would like us to both work part time so we are both home with DS so i presume we will always share teh house routine. As DP is doing personal training he can work whatever hours he wants to work around my job which will be good

I was a "housewife" before DS came along - it's my official occupation on my visa We're very "traditional" but it's partly circumstance, being in Singapore, and partly that I enjoy being a 1950s housewife so I didn't look too hard for full time work here.

Before Callum was born I was basically in charge of EVERYTHING other than earning the $$ - cooking, baking, cleaning, planning holidays, planning our wedding back in NZ, paying the bills, getting the house set up when we first arrived etc etc etc. Up till about 2 weeks before I had Callum I worked part time as well, but casually so I could say no if I had too much else on.

Once I got pregnant DH did more of the chores, especially on the weekends and he did a lot more cooking. Now we've got Callum and I'm a "SAHM" but DH does more around the house now thank goodness! He cooks if I am feeding Callum, does the laundry, and loves helping out with Callum when he's home.

I imagine if we moved back to NZ the chores would be more evenly divided and more based on what we LIKE doing. I'd still do all the cooking!

DH is our SAHD so the roles are reversed somewhat.

Looking after Isabella is his primary responsibility but he also does the housework. He looks after us both really well!

I cook every night but its more because I enjoy it.

On weekends I'll do the dishes and try be the primary caregiver to Belle.

He does all the cleaning, washing, ironing etc.

We share responsibility for the finances. He does the shopping, he hates it when I come with because I overspend.

We share night-shift with Belle but if he knows I have a particularly stressful day at work the next day then he picks up all of it.

I dont do any "cleaning" over the weekends though unless its really bad. I think weekends are for relaxing and I am only too happy for him to put his feet up. If he is going to get in a tizz about the place being untidy then he can clean it himself.