What do you argue about?

What do you and DH/DP argue about?

Willie and I hardly ever argue, it seems to be only when we are tired/frustrated/hot/kids are playing up. We had a big blow up this afternoon coz I asked him to cook mushrooms for dinner (he does them a special way) and I was trying to make salad and the kids were under our feet so I asked Maya to take the gremlins into the lounge and she erupted so the gremlins started howling then Willie started yelling at me that it's not fair to expect a 4 year old to look after the babies, even tho all I asked was her to take them out of the kitchen and play with them so I yelled back and so on and so on.

But it got me to wondering, what do other couples argue about? We never argue about serious stuff like money, trust etc. coz we're both pretty independent and trust each other, we just seem to argue about petty, stupid stuff.

Yep us too. silly little stuff, mostly over pretty quickly cos we tell each other to pull our heads in and usually the other ends ina bit of a huff but sees the point once they're a bit more level-headed. Never in front of the kids, especially in regards to the princess parenting thing (oooh my god if he was any tighter wound round their fingers they'd fall off!) cos it just feeds into the knowledge that they can get mummy and daddy to disagree.

Mainly disagreements about fairness and parenting. ie.. mike says yes, never says no really, I am the mean mum who has some idea of trying to have a few more rules, and yeah sometimes he does pull me up when i am unreasonable but lately it's been a fair bit more and feels like he's undermining me - ie Paris now looks straight to him instead of actually doing what i ask, she stops and waits to see if he'll bail her out. To which i enlightened him and told him to stop treating her so much like a princess. Ie: when my sis was down recently i decided we'd take her kids to the movies as a shout for their birthdays (one turned 13 that day the other has birthday in march and i won't see her) i said to paris that because it was going to cost a fair amount for movies, that we'd get lollies and a big thing of popcorn from the supermarket and we'd take our own instead of paying $8 for a skimpy thing of popcorn each. I then have her telling me the next day that She will be getting movie popcorn, because dad told her supermarket stuff is gross and that he'll buy her movie stuff cos it's better. I went off my nut at him cos 1, I had already told her that was how it was going to be, and 2, out of fairness to the other kids I told him under no circumstances would he be doing that, yep when it's just us fine, but after paying out close to $70 just on tickets for us, they could make do with supermarket popcorn, especially since I'm the only breadwinner in the house right now so money is kinda stretched during study break, he's got expensive tastes and tends not to worry much about money, till it's all gone and he asks me for more. (see, silly little things)

oh, that and disagreements about my incessant needs to have a baby even though in my head i can plan it all out what we're supposed to be doing in the next few years and it doesn't pan out and it would be so expensive and i know he'd not be happy. I tried to explain to him that i have no idea why i want one i just do, and well, that didn't wash. So again, we are back to the no more babies thing. ARGH i give up. Something we're never going to agree on, and in our disagreemnt on that he wins out really. I shouldn't be angry at him, but i am - he's sensible and down to earth and i still have head in clouds and it's nearly a year on.   so yes a bone of contention there.

lol and the laptop debate... he Needs one apaprently, lol I think not.

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LOL Pearls I remember when Willie and I hadn't spoken to each other for days, can't remember why but something stupid, and he was sleeping in the spare room and I went in at 1am to talk to him coz I wanted to sort things out and you could see he wasn't listening to a word I was saying, he was sitting there trying to work out how long he had to listen for before I'd let him get his leg over. Men!

Janine - the baby thing is a hard one. Willie was adamant no more after the gremlins (and who can blame him, I was a complete wreck for 18 months) and I felt this desperate need to have another baby to 'fix' eveything that went wrong last time with bonding etc. We did eventually agree on one more, altho not quite as soon as it happened! I hope you and Mike can come to a resolution that you are both happy with. Much as I despise Little Treasures, there was a great quote in their latest issue - "you never regret the kids you have, you regret the ones you DON'T have".

LOL at the popcorn thing tho, Mike and Willie sound sooo alike. I am the Big Bad Wolf.

Oooh us too on the food thing, altho it's more the mess he leaves in the kitchen when he gets up for work at 4am and then I get up at 7am with the kids to find empty corned beef tins and raw onion etc. on my kitchen bench while the girls are all hollering for breakfast. Generally tho I'm over it by the time he gets home lol.

We hardly ever argue, in fact the 8 years that we've been together, I can't really remember us having a real doozy.

Until yesterday. I found some photos of him and a girl at BDO and she is gorgeous, young, blonde and they looked really good together. I was so angry and so sad, it kind of gave me a wake up call, that maybe I'm holding him back. I'm 7yrs older than him, and I think he misses his old life. I lost the plot out of jealousy etc; as a result we aren't talking, we went to bed angry and he's gone to a stag do, and I am dreading him coming home.

The stuff that we do tend to niggle about is his parents. Their attitude to Conor, in fact his whole families attitude to Conor. But that's another long sad story. We also niggle about his and Conor's relationship.

We argee over the little things - but it has been 3 weeks since one .

We mainly argue over the house work (I like to leave it to the night time and do it all at once, he likes it done in the morning).

lol forgot to say though, i love him for it, i love i don't have to battle to get him to do it. I'm just a bit of a sooky-la whinger, lol

I can't post in here because DH lurks HAHAHA no, we don't argue much at all. Usually, it's about insignificant little things that matter at the time but blow over after a couple of hours, if not minutes.

baalamb wrote: I can't post in here because DH lurks HAHAHA no, we don't argue much at all. Usually, it's about insignificant little things that matter at the time but blow over after a couple of hours, if not minutes.

So should we all be sayig hi to Krsten' DH. I would love DH to lurked now and then just get a btter idea that I not as abnormal has he seem's to think I am. LOL

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Must be the day for it, Emma