When you want to tell someone to jump!

Who else has someone who tries to makes them feel totally incompetent?

There is this one woman in my office who has a 2 year old and seems to think this means she knows everything and only her way is right.

I’ve been frowned upon for eating McDonalds, shocked that my doctor is not sending me for further testing for Down’s Syndrome (bearing in mind my results said a risk of 1 in 8 000 and 1 in 11 000 or trisomy 13), castigated for putting on weight (she stayed stick thin and in fact lost weight – partially illness related granted and never showed until 6 months), believes the whole metallic taste in mouth thing is people just talking themselves into it, aghast that I'm using public health care instead of paying for private care so baby has the best like hers…the list goes on.

I was really quite hurt because I was commenting about how having seen my god-daughter born I felt like I was somewhat mentally prepared for what could happen. I was told this was also wrong because all births are different. I know that but I still feel somewhat prepared knowing it isn't going to look like a Hollywood movie and there will be blood and it could take ages and the baby is not going to look perfect and clean when it comes out!

I’m sure she means well but ohhhhhhh I want to tell her to shove it sometimes. It’s so hard sometime to nod and smile sweetly. I appreciate some of her advice but her opinion that only she can be right and I apparently know nothing is grating on me.

Does anyone else have one of these people in their life?


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ohhh ill join ur bad group for eating maccas if that was me i would have told her to go jump! i was such an angry stressed person at work lol

Yep id tell her to go jump. How Rude of her. Id like to know what she thinks so wrong about going puplic for maternity care.

That would make me sooo angry!!!

Tell her please to keep her opinion to herself!!!  Everyone is different!!  You can say it in a nice way!!

Ive always been told you can listen to peoples advice but you only know whats right and wrong for you and bubs.

good luck!!

Urgh, I despise those kind of know it alls. Tell her to naff off.

i ,m witheeveryone here tell her to naff off

I'm glad it's not just me!

I'm trying to just smile simply because we are generally a close office (only 7 of us work there) so I don't want to cause a huge scene and I can't even just walk away most of the time.

I'm thinking maybe I could try just using the "I appreciate your advice but this is what is working for me" approach. And remembering to breathe!

Ahh Paws, I guess some people think they know better, I personally would go for the "whats working for me approach" I am sure she may mean well but it doesn't sit well with everyone.

Hugs Hope it gets easier for you.
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lolol, say to her - "well, if it sooo hard, then i don't know how you ever got through it!" lololol.. no that's mean. but well, if she knows "best" then she should also know about how hard it is to be a first time mum. telll her that, and then ask why, instead of being supportive, she insists on making you feel stupid - maybe she had someone do the same to her when she was preggers so feels that's the only way to go.

by the way, having said all that above, i'm not making any excuses for her at all cos she sounds pretty uppity and nasty to me.

god, she doesn't know what she's talking about! i'm sure i wouldn't be able to hold my tongue around her