Ungratefully wife

DH is wonderful. He is just great with DS. He does more of the night waking stuff than me. Changes stinky nappies. Washes dishes. Vacuums. Cleans toilets. Cooks about 1/3 the dinners. And loads more.

He however does not have a blinking clue what food is in the kitchen. Can't put a thing on the shopping list. I don't even think he could write a shopping list because that would mean knowing that you need to have food in the cupboard/fridge to make dinner. Like I said he cooks - there's about a few meals he cooks, and if I say "you're on dinner tonight" he'll cook it (and it's yummy) but I need to make sure the right vege/meat is available.

How ungrateful does that sound? He does loads of stuff, why does it irk me so much that he hasn't figured out where food comes from.

Have you actually sat down with him and gone over this with him?

Don't sweat the small stuff.... Communication is the key!!!!

Don't make me get the phone books out

Haha, I understand that feeling completely. My boyfriend does everything I ask of him without delay or complaint....BUT it drives me insane that nothing gets done unless I ask him. The other night he asked "do you want me to...." and it got me really angry. Do it because it NEEDS doing, not just because I want you to dammit!

I do mega appreciate his help, but a little initiative would be nice.

Lucky! My DH is great with DS and works pretty hard during the day, but when he is home he 'relaxes'!!

Never has cooked dinner once, not that I mind that but doing washing once in a while wouldnt hurt him. He does do a big clean once a month, but likes to shove things in cupboards rather than put them away.

kebakat wrote: thesaff wrote: Haha, I understand that feeling completely. My boyfriend does everything I ask of him without delay or complaint....BUT it drives me insane that nothing gets done unless I ask him. The other night he asked "do you want me to...." and it got me really angry. Do it because it NEEDS doing, not just because I want you to dammit! I do mega appreciate his help, but a little initiative would be nice. Snap!

Snap too!! Except he doesn't do it without delay/complaint.

Same! My DP is wonderful pretty much all the time, but little things pis$ me off!

We're like Huntersmama (Emma), DP is great with Lily, works hard during the day, but comes home and 'relaxes'. He won't change a nappy unless I ask, even if he hears her fill her pants!

Is it not possible to separate out all of the chores? We did that years ago and it works really well for us so that we both know what we do and don't do. Eg: I do all the washing, DH doesn't touch it, DH does all the gardening, I don't touch that. That way there are no arguments.

lilfatty wrote: Little_Red wrote: Is it not possible to separate out all of the chores? We did that years ago and it works really well for us so that we both know what we do and don't do. Eg: I do all the washing, DH doesn't touch it, DH does all the gardening, I don't touch that. That way there are no arguments. I think that only works if the other person actually does their chores.    SD has stuff that really is "his job" but I give up waiting for it to be done and end up doing it myself.

Same. When I first moved in with DH he told me that one of his older friends and his wife had this deal where he looked after the outside of the house, and she looked after the inside. DH thought this was a brilliant idea and wanted to do it but I'm like nah lol.

We have to wallpaper our living room. Its the one room that is DH's job which he has known about for months. I don't wallpaper but DH does and does a good job of it. Hes meant to be starting tomorrow yet he hasn't even put any size on the walls yet so I highly doubt that its gonna get done tomorrow. Nevermind that we are trying to get our house ready asap to put on the market *rolls eyes*

I think you do need to pick your battles, Dh refuses to do the grocery shopping without me, he can't manage by himself.  Its something we just do.

He cleans the shower  which is great, and helps out with the cleaning etc he does his own washing.  Dishes is a bone of contention in our house as he only does them when they've piled up and then complains there is so much to do.

Dh cooking involves buying takeaways. I guess I've gotten used to the way our distribution of chores works and get on with it - if DH moans about the mess I tell him to clean it up.

Thats why I didn't like that deal at all. Doing everything by yourself on the inside takes quite a bit of effort. Whereas doing the lawns and gardens and outdoors stuff doesn't take long at all really. Plus I just hate housework! lol