How did you know you were ready?

So I know we want more than one child - I always thought that I wanted 3 and DH says 2 if we get a boy next. But how did you know you were ready for another child?

At the moment Im pretty sure I'm NOT ready, the thought of more sleepless nights scares me, of looking after two kids (how are you meant to get tea ready!) and when I get really tired I start stressing myself out and get a bit anxious and nauseous. I don't want too bigger age gap but just don't think I could cope with another right now!

So yeah, I know Im not ready but did others just get this sudden feeling of knowing it was the right time to have another?

What she said I think!

DP wants 2, I want 2-4 lmao! Anyway he wanted to wait quite a few years but we went away recently and he got talking to his family members who were asking about more kids and now he wants to try end of next year for #2.

I have mixed feelings of being ready for another, and tbh I could do it but dp wants to wait so yeah, probably doesn't help you sorry!

Hmmm well I totally wasnt ready for another one when i fell pregnant with Isabella, Caden was only just over 5 months when I got pregnant.

I didnt really freak out though...just kinda took it in my stride, and it wasnt until just before she was born I thought FARK, Im going to have two soon and 14 months apart! Then I started getting panicy and anxious, but after she was born things just kinda fell into place.

Getting dinner ready is a challenge some nights, especially now that they are both toddlers but I manage! Some nights its a quick meal, some nights I manage a full on roast etc, each day is different and has its own challenges!

Anyways, you will just know when your ready and even if it happens when your not quite ready, you'll be fine

I think 3 was always the magic number for me. We have the twins who are 2 and a half now and about 6 months ago (I know this will sound cheesy) everything just felt right. We had been talking about a third since the girls were about 6 months old but the timing just never felt right. I think it's true that there's never really a right time to have a baby. You just know in your gut when your ready to go through pregnancy and those awful early sleepless stressful months of the newborn stage lol. For me I was having a shocking day with the girls. They were going through the terrible twos times two and nothing was going right but at the end of the day I sat down and thought bring it on I could handle more. Because when you already have one or more (espcially toddlers lol) I think the big question you have to ask yourself is when your having a especially bad day could you handle a lack of sleep and a screaming newborn on top of that?

Plus I figure even if I were to get pregnant right this second the timing with the twins couldn't be better. They will be just young enough for there not to be too big of an age gap but they will be toilet trained, speaking whole sentances, they will want to be envolved and have a better understanding of whats going on. Plus they will be 3 years old meaning they will get 20 hours a week free at daycare!

I always wonder that, I go through phases of really wanting a baby and then it subsides...been happening for the past 3 years lol. Then I wonder how can I love another little being....beings the same way I do my son. Like all my love is reserved for him.

I've just always known, after current bubs came out that I def wanted another one. I feel I would cope and if I got preg I would HAVE to cope. I want another one now but DP wants to wait :(

I've always been ready before DH, even now I'm just waiting for him to say the word.  The older DD got the more worried I was about the age gap there would be between children.  I never would have chose a 3+ years age gap but I love it.

It's a great age gap isn't it Kellz, especially when number 1 is a girl (although mine is a neurotic little mummy to her brother).

I was definitley not ready when DS turned one, no way I could even think about it, and I hadn't been back at work long, didn't quite have my figure back, and hadn't stopped BFing long before that so I was only just starting feel half normal ....... by the time he turned 15 months I was ready, DH said OK, we knew that would be a 2 year gap (the smallest we wanted) so we tried and got ph that month, so have 2yrs 5 days between our kids! lol

I think I would like DD to be closer to 3 but DH feels that we should start early next year so shes closer to 2. Will see how I feel in Jan I think I think what I need to remember is that its only the first 6-8months that is the total hardest and my friend told me yesterday she has found having her 2nd so much easier than her first! Lets hope it's like that lol