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Topic: How old is too old to be pregnant? Posted: 06 December 2010 at 2:06pm |
Would love some thoughts, I know as long as youre healthy age shouldn't matter, but long term when the kids are older, would love some thoughts on all the pro's and con's.
I am about to turn 38, and have just had my third bub's who I am enjoying more than ever, my other two kids are at school. I've been thinking I could do this all again but am worried about the 'down the track' thoughts, ie I'll be 58 at my now youngest's 21st! How old is too old ...
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Posted: 06 December 2010 at 2:32pm |
well I definitely don't think you're too old! I dunno what age I think is too old for others, for me I don't think I'd want to have one over 40ish cos I'm so scared of the increased risks of things going wrong. I am 35 and having my 3rd, if we could afford it and I didn't get so sick and stressed out being pregnant I'd definitely consider having another... I mean what is a few extra years!
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Posted: 06 December 2010 at 3:07pm |
I think God tells you when your too old ... its about the time you cant get pg anymore.
I dont think you are too old .. no where near it!
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Posted: 06 December 2010 at 3:09pm |
38's not old to be having a third, mums are having babies at an older age these days. I was the youngest at my antinatal class and i was 28yrs old. Most first time mums were 35 - 40. So it just depends.
I saw in a mag that toni marsh is preg with no.1 and she's 42 i think. So it's really up to you and your family i guess
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Posted: 06 December 2010 at 3:15pm |
lilfatty wrote:
I think God tells you when your too old ... its about the time you cant get pg anymore.
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Posted: 06 December 2010 at 3:26pm |
I'm not sure what would be too old. I think it would be a personal thing. I would definately be thinking like you though-more about the long term (how old will I be when they are in high school or graduating and could I keep up).
Certainly people are choosing to have there children at a later stage in life. I had my first son at 24yrs and I am still forever being told 'Oh you are a young mum'. I think you just have to do what works for you and your children.
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Posted: 06 December 2010 at 3:30pm |
Oh, 38 is fine! I'm not really all that sure about 60-year-old ladies having babies with the help of IVF, I can see some real issues there, but I wouldn't stress about 38! I'm not really sure how old Mum is (I could work it out but can't be bothered) but she must have been round that age when she had my youngest brother.
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Posted: 06 December 2010 at 4:10pm |
My Mum had me 3 months before she turned 40 and my Dad was 43. I am an only child (not an issue in your family) and both my parents are still alive - Mum is 75 and Dad is 78.
My Mum has more energy than me - no I am not joking. My Dad's health is not so good, he had a stroke 14 years ago and as he gets older he is getting weaker. However there are lots of 78 year olds a lot "older" than my Dad IYKWIM!
I say don't worry about it - it is all about you and how you feel, a lot about age is in the mind I have decided after having the parents I have got
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Posted: 06 December 2010 at 4:11pm |
My mother in law had her tenth child at 43, it certainly hasnt slowed her down. My other friend who is 40 has a girl who is 8 months and two older children about 20years old. Go with what you want to do, and I agree with Lil Fatty, once you dont get preg, its your bodies way of saying, no more babies.
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Posted: 06 December 2010 at 5:42pm |
If you are fit and healthy go for it. I know there was a huge difference in my ability to cope/tiredness from being 19 with my first to being 29 with my 3rd. I think mums in their 30's deserve a medal as my body just decided to go to the pack with my 3rd. She was born two months after turning 30. But if there is no reference point to compare to then no-one is the wiser. IYGWIM.
My mum was 38 when she had me and back in the day that was unusual. My dad was 47 when I was born. I do remember calling him grand dad at netball once as I didn't want the other kids knowing he was my dad. He was 61ish. Awful I know but the things teenagers do. Its not like he could hear me because he was deaf as a post by that stage. He also was a very old person. Old fashioned and acted way beyond his years. Knee length walking socks in roman sandals with shorts. Hehehe bless him.
The only downside to having older parents is that they haven't been able to be active grandparents to my kids. Dad had a stroke and has no speech and is in a nursing home. Mum is 72 now and due to arthritis and some cancer she is too frail to really interact with the kids much. My sister (she is 20 years older than me) now has grandchildren and it is lovely to see her running with her grandkids and enjoying them. But I still don't see that as a deal breaker. Live for today and do what you want. In the end it is about you and your family.
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Posted: 06 December 2010 at 5:49pm |
I think the stories you hear about 60 year old woman becoming pregnant with twins after intensive IVF etc are just mental, but i don't know these woman and they might be excellent parents so i shouldn't judge.
As someone who lost a parent at a young age, it sucked and i wish my Dad was around to see me achieve things like graduating uni or that he was around to see his first grandchild so i personally wouldnt want to be having kids at a late (55+) age just because you'd miss so much.
I thought it was common for woman to only be starting to think about pregnancy in their late 30's or early 40's? I wouldnt think you are too old, not at all!
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Posted: 06 December 2010 at 5:51pm |
lilfatty wrote:
I think God tells you when your too old ... its about the time you cant get pg anymore.
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Posted: 06 December 2010 at 7:39pm |
37 when i had my third  ....
LOVING IT!!!!
so much more into him..unsure why, maybe when i had my other two life was meant to be hectic and busy. now that we are older i just dont sweat the small stuff, things make me laugh instead of stress and now that we have a 16 yr old i know that most things are temporary and EVERYTHING has to be easier than a teenager  ..
i do agree on the body going to the pack though!!!!! talk about 10x the effort to get back to some sort of shape thats not all over the place!!
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Posted: 06 December 2010 at 8:11pm |
It's such a personal thing I think. I'm 36, we are trying for no 2 (DD is 22 months) and I personally don't want to keep trying for more than a year tops as I don't want to be close to 40 and having another.
Most people I know who have had babies older find things a bit rough, especially the sleep loss and the business of a toddler.
I wish we had started a few years ago but we were too busy having fun. I guess because we didn't know it would take a while to get pregnant (last time and this time) we figured it would happen really easily.
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Posted: 06 December 2010 at 8:24pm |
I'm 37 and have just had my first its fantastic I'm loving motherhood and genuinely think things are meant to be.
Everyone is different for me starting my family later works for me.
If we ttc #2 I'll be getting close to 40 which is the cut off for me.
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Posted: 06 December 2010 at 8:53pm |
I had my first two at 35 and 38. Then we tried again and I also had a cut off of 40 but 40 came and went with no pregnancy. I think it is good to have an age in mind but its also easy to extend should you need more time. The other thing you have to watch out for when getting pregnant passed 40 is the increase of multiple births which happened to me. I had twins at 41 and although it freaked me out at first I now think it is great.
Go for it!
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Posted: 06 December 2010 at 9:10pm |
You're only as old as you feel, right?
But there are a range of things to consider... Other than your age; because age is just a number. My friends parents (both Asian) one - her parents were 45 (mum) and (57) dad when they had her and my guy friend his parents were 45 (mum) and 50 (dad).
But when I think about it, I reckon the things you may consider due to being old could be things to consider at any age.
Sorry, probably doesn't make much sense but I say go for it...
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Posted: 06 December 2010 at 9:33pm |
I guess it depends how old you feel, my step mum had my half sister at 42.
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Posted: 07 December 2010 at 8:46am |
I think 68 is too old (I think thats the right age for the oldest person in the world to have a baby from my baby shower quiz).
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Posted: 07 December 2010 at 9:28am |
its funny people say your to young in your 20's to have kids and people are worried when they hit 40 they are to old to have kids. it doesnt give us much time
i think as long as it feels right for you go for it! its a very personal thing
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