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babycrazy
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Posted: 18 November 2014 at 8:55pm |
Yes soda I would agree putting on the brave face and keeping on going is what's most tiring. Go easy on yourself chick otherwise it'll come to a head in all the wrong places. I definitely find that the more upset and tired I am about personal stuff the worse work problems feel (not meaning belittle your work situation at all by saying that!) and having to put on a ' life is dandy' face day in and out with kids is blooming hard! I admire you working with little kids all day I don't know if I could. Hope tomorrow is better.
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Posted: 19 November 2014 at 10:41am |
Hi Soda, I feel for you must be extra tough putting on a brave face and working with little ones. Hang in there.
NZVeggie soooo happy to read that your first scan went well, very exciting.
Welcome Hopeful.
I had a cuddle of my friends grandaughters 6 month old twins soo cute and luckily didn't make me feel sad about my own situation. Anyways after I left,the mother of the twins was told that I was having fertility issues and offered to be an egg donor. She's 27 and with twins obviously has no fertility problems. I don't know her that well so I feel like it's too huge an offer to accept but another part of me wants to. Do you think I should maybe let her know what's involved to see if she's prepared to go through with it?
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babycrazy
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Posted: 19 November 2014 at 11:01am |
Totally go for it Tulip. Have a chat about what's involved then give her time to seriously consider. I'd go in thinking that she won't go through with it to avoid disappointment - does that make sense. A friend offered to be our sperm donor but we decided anon was better for us. You'd be surprised at who and how many people would offer if they knew what ppl like us are going through. We had a few guys offer once they knew our issues. If my situation was different I would totally donate eggs especially having experienced all that I have and I think people who offer genuinely just want to help someone else.
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Posted: 19 November 2014 at 11:16am |
Thanks BC. It wouldn't be until next year that we may need an egg donor but if I let her know now what's involved and if she does back out then at least I don't spend the next few months thinking she's an option.
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Posted: 19 November 2014 at 7:58pm |
Wow tulip what an offer! Definitely worth looking into id say! I would do that in a heartbeat if I could.. So today my one friend was going on on fb about how shes going on maternity leave in 3 days, another friend announced her pregnancy and another is constantly complaining how tired pregnancy is for her right now. Boo hoo to her. Im sorry thats really stink of me but its how im feeling right now, I feel awful im becoming this person..im happy for my friends, esp the newly pregnant one, but I cant help but think its all just so so unfair.yet I dont have the desire to even try anymore.. I know you guys understand. Am wondering if its just worth it to make a private appointment with fert plus and get the ball rolling..just to give me something to look towards..though it might just be a matter of a few weeks in it to go publicly. I just really hope my appointment is soon and I can at least have something to look towards..never again I tell ya..one more baby then thats it. A large family is not worth my sanity anymore!
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Posted: 19 November 2014 at 8:15pm |
Phew Soda that's some full on times on FB. Totally get it hun!
I say just book the appointment and get it done (if you can afford it). We did that for our first couple appts and were already well on the donor list, and had checked off some of the jobs on the list (that need doing before treatment) before I even got the public appointment. It was 5 mths from referral to public appointment. Best few hundred I ever spent. But for us we were in a position where we could afford to do that. And I get your large family comment too....jeez I wanted 4 of the lil beggars but now I'm looking at settling for one (or begrudgingly 0 - urgh I hope not!).
Good on you Tulip. Definitely good to look into the option now and know where you stand.
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Posted: 19 November 2014 at 9:24pm |
Yeah think ill ph them tomorrow.they are useless at answering the ph though, ive never had a real person answer and have to leave a msg..and working full time I cant answer my ph at work...but both times we have had success with clomid so all I want is a few rounds of that to keep us going before the next appointment... so annoying a gp cant just give me some!lol
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Posted: 19 November 2014 at 9:30pm |
Yeah I get frustrated having to play phone tag soda. Same deal as you at work - I usually ring when I have a spare moment but leaving a msg sucks.
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Posted: 20 November 2014 at 10:00pm |
Evening ladies, just thought I would let you all know that today we had the horrible dreaded phone call to let us know yet again our FET hasn't worked - not so 7th time lucky... So we are totally gutted as this was the last frozen embryo, and are now looking at having to pay for a 2nd private cycle, and I was just really really hoping this would be it - that it was FINALLY our time for some joy, excitement and good news!... I don't know how much more of this disappointment i can take!! Sorry to be a downer, just thought i'd share, as i know i think of you ladies lots... Hope everyone else is having a better week than me! xx
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Posted: 20 November 2014 at 10:23pm |
Oh Charlie hun... im so so so sorry this wasnt your turn im so gutted for you and had everything crossed this was it for you.. no words.. but lots of HUGS! xxxxxxx hoping 2015 is a better year- for all of us!
im starting to wonder if my hormones are going wonky again... after my really depressed few days ( like, REALLY down..totally not like me to get that upset all the time!) today i feel much better and more positive again! and I had a weird bit of spotting which is totally bizarre. very very light, but i never get spotting randomly! so maybe somethings going on with my hormones again to make me all emotional? ah well, im feeling more steady today lol so thats gotta be a good thing! loving hubby right now, he phoned me from work asking if he was "needed" in the next two weeks.. i said yes ov is approaching, so he said "ok ill tell my boss i cant go away for 2 weeks then!" hed been asked to go down south for a couple of weeks from monday but said no, just so we can make babies! love that man
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Posted: 21 November 2014 at 5:13am |
Awww Charlie I'm so sorry!!! That sucks butt.
Soda your bloke is awesome!!! I really hope you make one before Xmas comes.
AFM - hmm nothing to tell. Day 7 of pill popping feels like an age before my Fet -1.5 wks to go.
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Posted: 21 November 2014 at 8:58am |
Charlie-:( That is sad news. I hope 2015 is better too. When I feel down, sometimes getting something baby related keeps me positive. As if I am telling myself, it is okay, this will happen. I don't know if that will help.
I have been lurking the last few weeks, I have my first appointment as FA in two weeks now and I still haven't gone to get the bloods done beforehand. I went yesterday but they had sent the wrong forms through so now I need to go back again.
Tulip, I think you could suggest they get in touch with a donor coordinator to find out more. It is a huge thing to do but you undergo counselling and get lots of information so you can make an informed decision. It is something I have considered. However I have no eggs of my own at the moment.
My plan is to see if less training (I run lots and lots) and stress will help get my cycle back. If in six months nothing then I will look into getting some medical help. I have tried running less the last few weeks and gained four kilos this year but still no eggs :(
Babycrazy: Stick Baby Stick! I really hope you get good news for Christmas. I would be terrible at keeping a secret. How hard those 12 weeks must be for people? Sorry but with all the acronyms I can't keep up. Did you end up doing ICSI with a donor?
What is AF? What is Colorado Protocol?
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Posted: 21 November 2014 at 10:31am |
Hi Bambeana, thanks for your suggestion I didn't know there was a donor coordinator. What a pain you were given the wrong blood forms, bit of a worry as you really don't need or want any slip ups like that. Less running might be a plan, you never know what will help, everything's worth a try. I wish they had a link on this website for abbreviations. I'm pretty sure AF is period. Colorado Protocol is particular medications given with IVF. My specialist prescribed it for me as I've had a couple of MC it involves taking steroids and antibiotics etc I guess to help prevent MC. So sorry Charlie. Soda your hubby sounds really supportive, my DF could take some lessons from him. I gained a few kg's while taking IVF meds has anyone else had that problem?
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Posted: 21 November 2014 at 10:34am |
This is long but I found this:
AF Aunt Flo — menstruation/period AP attachment parenting BB or BBS Internet bulletin board BBC BabyCenter BBL be back later BBT basal body temperature BC because, or birth control, or before children BCPS birth control pills BD baby dance (sex) BF breastfeed, or boyfriend BFN big fat negative (pregnancy test) BFP big fat positive (pregnancy test) BIL brother-in-law BM breast milk, or bowel movement BRB be right back BTDT been there, done that BTW by the way CD cycle day CF cervical fluid CIO cry it out Circ. circumcise CM cervical mucus CWIM see what I mean CS or C/S cesarean section DC daycare, dear child DD dear daughter DF dear fiancee DH dear husband DP dear partner DPO days past ovulation DS dear son DSD dear stepdaughter DSS dear stepson DTD do the deed DW dear wife EBF extended breastfeeding, exclusively breastfeeding EBM expressed breast milk EDD estimated due date, or expected date of delivery EWCM egg white cervical mucus FF formula feeding FIL father-in-law FT full time FTM first time mom FTR for the record FWIW for what it's worth FYI for your information GOAT Said when member has read all the previous responses before commenting HPT home pregnancy test HIPPO Said when a member is commenting without reading previous responses HTH hope this helps IC incompetent cervix IMHO in my humble opinion IMO in my opinion IRL in real life ITA I totally agree IUI intrauterine insemination IVF in vitro fertilization JJ or J/J just joking JK or J/K just kidding JMHO just my humble opinion, or just my honest opinion KWIM know what I mean L&D labor and delivery LO little one LOL laughing out loud LP luteal phase MC or M/C miscarriage MIL mother-in-law ML maternity leave MM mother's milk MYOB mind your own business NMS not my style NMSAA not my style at all NP no problem O ovulation O'd ovulated OMG oh my gosh, or oh my god OP original poster OPK ovulation predictor kit OT off topic PG pregnant, or pregnancy POAS pee on a stick (i.e. pregnancy test) PP previous poster PPD postpartum depression RE reproductive endocrinologist ROFL rolling on floor laughing SAHD stay-at-home dad SAHM stay-at-home mom SAHP stay-at-home parent SD sperm donor SIL sister-in-law SO significant other TCOYF Taking Charge of Your Fertility, by Toni Weschler TIA thanks in advance TMI too much information TTC trying to conceive US or U/S ultrasound VBAC vaginal birth after cesarean section WAH work at home WOH work out of the home
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Posted: 21 November 2014 at 10:43am |
Tulip, I have had dealing with the donor coordinator when I made inquiries about being an egg donor awhile ago. You get given lots of information and they do counselling with the donor and the couple.
Awhile ago, as in I thought that it was no big drama to get the eggs going and thought I would have some in egg-cess.
I believe the process is quite different for egg donors. Compared to sperm donors. Apart from the obvious difference that they would just put in "in a jar" whereas eggs are extracted. I think it would be a beautiful thing to be a part of someone getting their BFP.
I know of someone who used a known donor and they explained it to their existing children as a special gift that was given to them by him so they could have another child. The donor lives in a different city so I think that helped -having some distance. They wrote a children's book about it, so you can help explain it to existing children and the child who was a result of the gift.
They live in Vancouver but I am interested in finding that book.
I don't know about the no running. It is making me cranky and that isn't conducive to a stress free environment. I started painting the orange feature wall in our room. I thought that could be a contributing factor.
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Posted: 22 November 2014 at 6:14pm |
Just managed to catch up on where everyone's at, having a lovely lazy day today with my "fur baby" kitty curled up on my lap
nzvegie so happy for you! you made me lol when I read "messaries" - I'm not looking forward to that part
babycrazy good luck with this transfer, I really hope it works out for you
Charlie so sorry to hear that!
soda glad to hear you're feeling a bit better, it's such a roller coaster with all the hormones surging around. My cycle has been messed up with all the drugs this year, last month I was feeling really depressed and upset, and hubby asked if it was just PMS. I angrily told him it was 6 days too early for that but next day I had to tell him he was right, AF had arrived - my shortest ever cycle. Funny that he knows me better than I know myself but I was actually relieved to realize it was probably the hormones talking (or in this case crying)
I've been pleasantly surprised at how I've felt on the IVF meds, was expecting awful mood swings but so far so good. Have had lots of headaches but work understands so I've been coming home early most days for an afternoon nap with the cat :)
Trigger shot tonight then collection Monday morning. Feeling a bit apprehensive but if the drugs are anything like the ones I had when my wisdom teeth came out I probably won't even remember it! My estradiol yesterday was above 6000 and the clinic nurse today said I should read their info on overstimulation syndrome. Hoping I don't get it but not going to worry about it for now - just looking forward to getting on with collection
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Posted: 23 November 2014 at 9:03am |
Hey team. Sorry have read back but been away fundraising (the story of my life!).
Anyway.
Charlie I'm sorry this time didn't work out. Actually my heart breaks for hun. I know no word I type will make you feel better but know we are here for you.
Delphie - def read the ohss stuff. Have they mentioned freeze all if they collect heaps of eggs? With my first ivf I got 26 eggs and it was quite painful so was glad to not be putting anything back in straight away. I don't say that to scare you more prepare you!
Bambeana - Colorado is meds they give to prep body for best implantation and hopefully prevent miscarriage. Involves steroids to lower immunity, antibiotics incase of infection, Asprin to increase blood flow. I'm doing a manufactured cycle which means I take progynova 3x daily to override nature and build my lining up. They can then choose which day to transfer that way and means they can manage their workload better lol.
Speaking of manufactured cycles - anyone out there got some advice? I'm currently fighting a headache and possibly thrush. Do you think it's linked to the meds? Could just be over tired and maybe eating crap food though.
Thanks for all your good wishes - feels like time has slowed to a snails pace. Still a week and a half to transfer.
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Posted: 23 November 2014 at 12:27pm |
BC - Antibiotics can give you thrush, as they kill off the good bacteria too. I'd really recommend eating plain unsweetened yoghurt each day and drinking cranberry to help your body with the negative effects of the antibiotics.
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Posted: 23 November 2014 at 1:17pm |
Just found out my progesterone levels peaked too soon which means while we're still doing the egg collection Monday they (I hope, not "it"!) will be frozen, with the first transfer being in early January.
I'm disappointed at having to wait longer, but after 3 years what's another month? And if there was a chance of OHSS it's better not to get pregnant right away. Will be good to let the body recover from the IVF hormones. Looking on the bright side I'll be able to have a glass of bubbles (or 3) at Christmas too! It gives me extra time to get a whole bunch of DIY painting jobs completed too, without having to worry about the effect of paint fumes on an embryo. DH is disappointed, he told me he's been thinking about baby names today. It's hard not to get ahead of yourself!
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Posted: 23 November 2014 at 1:19pm |
Thanks mushroom - haven't actually started antibiotics yet but will remember that for when I do cos I always get it with them.
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