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Andie 
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Posted: 01 January 2008 at 10:18am |
OK so yeah, I know what one is. But we all draw the line in different places. I'd call a BBQ where all the men get competely trashed, light a bonfire (every time, I tell you!) and laugh at the same joke over and over for a few hours a pi$$-up. Seems lots of other people call that just a normal ol' BBQ. Well, I've had enough of turning up at what's meant to be a BBQ to find it's of the boozy variety with Metallica pumping away - it's not my scene and not something I want to take my baby girl to. I'm desperately waiting for our friends to give them up, but realised last night I don't think the guys ever will (it was meant to be a family-friendly 'we're grown-ups now' quiet BBQ), so I'll just bow out of every one and we'll only see them when we have people over here for tea. We don't even have them all together, because then it turns into what I call a pi$$-up, and I'm not into those. OK - I can't bear them. Could when I was younger but hey, I'm not young now, and even before I became a parent I was over the whole scene. What, am I some old-skool nana that I think that's a party and not a family-friendly barbie?!? Old-skool or not, I'm not comfortable with a baby around that sort of behaviour and that much drink (not to mention the recreational habit that may rear it's ugly head amongst a couple of people depending on who else finds out about the BBQ).
I'm firm in my resolve that that's not an environment suitable for my baby, but I'd welcome any honest comments on whether or not I'm being too precious, as I think I'll invite hubby to read this as well, because he and I don't see eye-to-eye on this. And you know how it goes - wifey can say this and that but it can all so easily be put down to 'her just being a petal'... My mind's made up, regardless.
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Posted: 01 January 2008 at 10:22am |
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Ugh. I pretty much never drink now and I don't want to expose my girl to things like that. Lots of our friends/workmates don't have kids and are still into that whole scene - hard when we want to just hang out (without the full on drinking!) but I'd rather do nothing than have to attend bbqs like that.
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Posted: 01 January 2008 at 10:24am |
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Well I'm with you babe...I wouldn't be going near those sort of things. To me a BBQ is a bunch of friends getting around for a relaxing time with some good food a COUPLE of drinks maybe and thats it.
Getting trashed is a p1ss up for sure and I wouldn't want my child around that either. It's not a family friendly party at all!!!
I can't even see the pleasure in getting that drunk and feeling like hell the next day not to mention I feel strongly about the drinking culture in NZ - to me it causes so many issues, people can't seem to have fun without being trashed. Not my thing at all.
Stick to your guns girl.
From a fellow old skool nana!
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Posted: 01 January 2008 at 10:24am |
We have recently made a similar decision.
Alot of our friends are still childless and have very different ideas of what child friendly is! Even my brother who has a little girl who is only just over 1 has the idea that it is ok to drag his daughter around people who are drinking and smoking till all hours of the morning!
I personally feel that I don't want my child exposed to that enviroment and we are now just sticking to the family daytime/early evening BBQs, dinners etc.
People still come and visit us during the day for lunch etc and Sam gets quality time with them outside of that type of enviroment. It also means that the majority of the time her routine is unaffected which means a much happier baby 
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Posted: 01 January 2008 at 10:41am |
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Its amazing how much you change when you have kid's aye. I totally agree with you Andie. Its not a good place to have children. Like you say its not always only the drink. Oh and my SIL call's that a bbq wewent once with outh the boy's and there not eating going on thats for sure. Stick to your gun's chick.
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Posted: 01 January 2008 at 11:02am |
We went to a bbq a few weekends ago. It was a bbq and a few drinks. DH took the kids home (as did others with kids) and then it was just adults left. It turned into a pi$$-up but we had no kids there. Its a once in a blue event for us and we don't do it in front of our kids.
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Posted: 01 January 2008 at 11:29am |
Im with you Andie. I havent since I had Lesieli ever drunk around any of my kids but that is just personal preference and I also dont mind if people are at a bbq and have a few quiet ones with dinner but nope I have not nor will I ever like my kids around those sorts of things.
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Posted: 01 January 2008 at 11:37am |
I'm so with you Andie, I don't mine a couple of beers being had by a few people but I can't stand it when people are smoking around the food and kids 
We actually went to a first birthday party a couple of months ago and everyone was sitting around smoking while all the kids were dumped with a blow up slide. The kid whose birthday it was spent pretty much the whole time in a highchair playing with a toy because the mum wanted to get drunk. This is not my idea of a birthday party and we left pretty quickly. These are all bens friends and they think I'm a B*tch because I never go to their so called BBQs.
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Posted: 01 January 2008 at 11:42am |
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Go for it and I totally agree, we have quite a big coffee group and a few members love the drink, well we had a family friendly bbq at ours last night and the guys all had a few drinks which is fine in my book, the kids ran riot and the mums chatted, I'm not a big drinker so would not go anywhere nor take my kids to it, another bbq was going on on the otherside of town with some other families and the kids would have been there and yup they would of all got pretty trashed not my scene and i think as parents we should be responsible around our very impressionable children.
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Posted: 01 January 2008 at 12:22pm |
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we are actually having a BBQ tonight - with friends who have no kids, and with whom we used to have huge nights with pre-kids. The guys are all early 30s and fabulous with our boys - I was so surprised. they have about 5 beers each - tops and we sit down and have a chat. We've been able to move easily into this and it's been lovely.
last night my gf and I were chatting about booze ups and just how we weren';t into them anymore - no kids from her. and hubby an dhis mates were having the same conversation at his bar. funnily enough.
When there is copious amounts of alcohol involved who WANTS to have their kid there? Next weekend we are planning on having a big night - so after 7, the babysitter arrives and the kids will leave. i don't need my kids seeing that, and personally, i wanna relax when drinking and not worry about the kids, so I would prefer them to be GONE!
totally agree Andie.
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Posted: 01 January 2008 at 1:01pm |
Neither me nor DH do the piss up thing. We just can't be bothered, not only is it expensive (drinks wise) but who really wants to deal with a hangover the next day when you have a lil one to deal with in the morning who won't let you sleep in?! I can't stand piss ups anymore, I'm sorry for anyone who loves them but laughing at the same jokes over and over again is just plain boring! And half the people I know and have seen drunk I can't stand their behaviour and then there are those who can't seem to have fun without getting totally pissed is pretty sad.
We had a BBQ here the other night. It was great, everyone hung out and chatted, there was alcohol yes, we had good food. No stupid behaviour, no hangovers and Daniel smiled and giggled until his bedtime.
ETA: Some people say its nanaish to not like piss ups, but I'm 22 and hate them now and I'm no nana!
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Posted: 01 January 2008 at 1:04pm |
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I am so with you Andie - our idea of a bbq now is having a few mates over everyone brings something, our kids have fun and we sit and relax and have a nice dinner and desert, mostly we don't even have any alcoholic drinks, if there are its usually 1 each with dinner then nothing else. It's more about relaxing, getting together and having our kids play and have fun.
I was over the "sit and get pissed for no reason" thing when i was 19.
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Posted: 01 January 2008 at 3:37pm |
Yep I'm with you Andie I don't mind if people have a couple of drinks with tea but would never have James around people getting drunk just for the hell of it.
Stick to your guns girl. 
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Posted: 01 January 2008 at 3:56pm |
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I totally agree Andie.
I can remember seeing family and friends drunk at a Christmas party as a kid and I was really uncomfortable and scared seeing them like that. I don't want Ella or Benjy to feel like that around our friends so I just don't go if its going to be a boozey or 'other' kind of night.
One thing that bugs me is when we have people over here and they think that just because the kids have gone to bed its ok to get wasted. DH thinks its a bit uptight of me to be like that but I just don't feel comfortable having people that drunk or 'other' in the house with the kids.
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Posted: 01 January 2008 at 3:56pm |
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Eeek Andie. I couldn't stand being there... let alone Hannah!!
My flatties sometimes have parties here but usually I slink off to bed anyway and they all bugger off to town at about 11pm.
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Posted: 01 January 2008 at 3:56pm |
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Totally agree, its all been said so well already...
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Posted: 01 January 2008 at 4:17pm |
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what’s a p1ss-up?
