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 Posted: 12 April 2006 at 6:13pm |
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They were cruzy with saying oh well hes better in than out! |
I'm guessing you meant "better out than in" ... ? 
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Posted: 12 April 2006 at 6:42pm |
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if your mils complain about that, tell them you are going to ban visitors for the first 6 weeks...... that will shut her up!
my couz did this, didnt let anyone meet her son for the first 6 weeks as she and her hubby wanted to "bond" with him. am seriously considering banning my hubbys family from being around for that length of time too - not coz we want to bond, just because....
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Posted: 12 April 2006 at 7:26pm |
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Hey Jez you might be surprised and want people to come visit. I know I was left by myself about an hour after he was born and it was horrible. I wanted to talk to someone about my baby and show him off but had given hubby strict orders not to leave Kobes side while they worked on him and mum was shattered and had to go to work aswell, midwife had to go and do the paperwork so I was just left by myself. Cos of the epidural I couldnt even get up and go and ring everyone, just had to lay there till someone came back.
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Posted: 12 April 2006 at 9:14pm |
sorry yep, better out than in!
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Posted: 12 April 2006 at 11:27pm |
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I had hubby, midwife, and a 2nd midwife for about 10 minutes as Ella was born. I had a 1st year midwifery student but decided not to call her.
This time, Im thinking hubby, midwife, and 2nd year midwifery student (if I feel comfortable of course - havent met her yet!) and *possibly* my mum, depending on when she gets to Dunedin and of course how I feel on the day!
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Posted: 13 April 2006 at 7:00am |
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Syd if your MIL takes it fairly hard and doesn't listen to you and reckons she is still goin to turn up, talk to your M/W. When going through your birth plan your M/W should ask you who you want to be there with you and what you would like to tell people who are not welcome. M/W are used to dealing with situations like this.
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Posted: 13 April 2006 at 12:47pm |
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when i was in labour with james i had people come and go but they always asked me (midwife)if i wanted them to come in if i didnt they were asked to leave and if she cant do that(your mil) then theres no wonder u dont want her there!!!
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Posted: 13 April 2006 at 1:01pm |
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my MIL was absent! ok, we live in different places (even in different islands!) but she didnt even fly down after. i dont mind though. she has since disowned us.
oh, so she doesnt even know im preg with this baby. i feel bad for hubby and the girls but i figure its her loss.
anyway, for this birth i expect it just to be hubby and midwife (and any help for the midwife needed)
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Posted: 13 April 2006 at 2:22pm |
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With Maya it was just me, my best friend (who had done the antenatal classes with me as Willie refused to be at the birth) and the midwife there when Maya was actually born, but two registrars kept popping in and out to check on us during the labour.
With the twins I imagine there will be a lot more 'medical' type people - especially if I have a casear. aside from that, I'mplanning on it just being Willie and I - I guess trying to make up for the fact that we didn't get to experience Maya's birth together.
The MIL thing isn't an issue as mine passed away a few years ago, and my Mum lives in Oz so she caught the first flight over after Maya was born which worked out well as it gave me a few hours to adjust before she arrived.
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Posted: 13 April 2006 at 2:54pm |
i'm going to have hubby, midwife and my mum. i am guessing it will be a hell of a time and i'm gonna want to have my mum there with me 
my mil wanted to be there with jack but thankfully he was a c-section and this time they will be up north when bubs is due, thank god as there's no way i'd want her to be in there
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Posted: 14 April 2006 at 8:01am |
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Phew..... Hey ladies, a quick update for you. I spoke to my MIL last night and she was fine, very understanding so that is cool! She was actualy very apolgogetic saying she didn't mean to worry me. thats a load of my mind! Glad it's sorted now!
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Posted: 14 April 2006 at 8:25am |
hey syd that's great that it worked out for you!
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Posted: 14 April 2006 at 9:08am |
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Thats awesome that you got it sorted and she was very understanding.
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Posted: 14 April 2006 at 9:12am |
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what a nice MIL!
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jax
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Posted: 14 April 2006 at 9:34am |
Hey that's great ! Glad she took it well, one less thing on your mind 
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Posted: 14 April 2006 at 9:55am |
Heck yea!!!
Life is too precious to worry about all this sometimes "trivial" stuff that people can bring!
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Posted: 14 April 2006 at 2:02pm |
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yeah so true....glad it worked out for ya
just a question, has anyone whos had a child before had them at the birth? might be scary for the young ones a?
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who will be at the birth with you?
