any ideas?

Growth spurts happen so much in the first weeks, months... so you will just think you have a routine and then it all changes again!

topsy thanks for the advice..i shall try that..why dont they have a class with this stuff in it..nzpiper..i put him from bouncer ( i was so into controlled crying till it was my baby and LC said it's not great anyway) into bed and he stayed asleep so i could have a shower.. normally i do it straight away when he goes back to sleep.. he is so good at day sleeps 3-4 hours.. !!!!

topsy yeah i hope so....LC said its totally normal to feel super distressed at first..make syou want to get up adn look after them instead of go back to sleep:) but I'm slowly getting used to it..though like at 2am i just lost it as i couldn't stop him(it'd only been going like 10 mins) and didn't know what to do.. waking up Dh wasn't the best option...lol even though he told me too!I find that hard too..I'm not a crier and i cry once every couple of days now!!!!

Make sure he donates blood when he's older (i'm AB-) BTW he's really cute!

nzpiper wrote: I couldnt let him cry either and was reassured when I read that some studies say it is ok (even good) to go to them when they cry as that tells them that the world is safe and mum comes to me when I am upset. In fact I have only just started to let Tom cry now (and only when its his protest cry...never if he is really upset - the different cry didnt come till about 3 months and it was obvious what meant what)

Yep I was totally the same, I also read at lot that basically said that if you leave a baby to cry they end up crying more not less.
Funny about the 3 months thing, I remember telling my mum that I couldn't believe that a 3 month old was capable of trying it on, if i had been told that before it happening to me I would have thought it mad.

I never had the luxury of a baby that went longer than 3 hours between feeds but I would also be inclined to wake him up so that he gets all his feeding done during the day and has his big sleeps at night, it might seem mean to wake him now but give it 3-4 days and he will adjust and will wake up for them rather than you doing the waking.

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missangel yeah we will..i am a big believer in donating blood..just had a look..he can only donate to himself but that's all good... I am a+ Dad is B+ so he could have been absolutely anything apparently..! gran just visited of course he's been an angel all day but at least i got some sleep:) and she did the washing , dishes and we went out to buy a safety sleep and the baby dept of farmers is closed..typical..still was nice to get out for the first time!

nzpiper...i guess thought she means after everything is done and even cuddling wont settle him to let him cry to sleep..i understand the theory we will see..i know i wont be able to listen to it.. so hopefully he will just start settling a little better.. as far as 3 month olds..they are definitely capable of trying it on..:)people never bleeive it but it's totaly true..

as far as crying(shes coming to see me again friday) i will try leaving him for a little bit but I won't be able to leave him for too long.. as far as expressing will buy electric if i have to keep pumping..its exhausting having to sterlise everything and pump every second time..!! she said he;s growing well..gets weighed on friday.....already put on twice what they thought he would so i guess he's doing ok:)I tried the pressing on nipple and it worked:) I'm too scared to go out in public though! maybe last night was hard too cause i drank heaps of diet coke.and cause i was stressed(today is anniversary of DandC last year ):( as far as head up a bit that's a good idea..might try it.. dummy seems to work sometimes he;s very clear when he wants it and when he doesnt..

does everyone else parents hang around waiting for bub to wake up....it's very annoying:) he's a baby..he sleeps!:) Dad was here for an hour waiting for him to wake up..I'm like come at 2am he's awake then:)

I'm trying,..i think i expect too much of myself.. at least I'm not feeling depressed anymore!:) and thanks..he is adorable (luckily) :)

shana...yeah we tried that yesterday and it seemed to work..plus making more of a big deal about day time..and bathing him at night and i didnt drink any coke(been having a few glasses of diet a day) and he slept 2/3 hours all day and 3-4 at night:) i cant stand waking him up...luckily dont have to very much..