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FionaS 
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Posted: 03 December 2007 at 1:14pm |
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Michelle was blind and very physically and mentally disabled but was such a joy to know. It really was her time as her body was worn out from years of fighting. Although I'm pleased to know she is at rest and free from the confines for her body, I will miss her dearly.
Over the years my Mum invested every ounce of herself into seeing Michelle be the very best she could be. Over the years both Mum and I spent weeks and weeks at Michelles side as she fought for her life. Thankfully she was at her IHC home when she passed away. No more needles, no more pain, no more suffering.
I'm very worried for my Mum as she has always said Michelle is her only reason to live. Anyone been there before and got any ideas of how I can support her?
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Posted: 03 December 2007 at 1:16pm |
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Posted: 03 December 2007 at 1:25pm |
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Posted: 03 December 2007 at 1:41pm |
Sorry to hear of you loss Fiona- 
Thinking of you & family at this sad time
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Posted: 03 December 2007 at 1:43pm |
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I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I have no advice for you only huge hugs.
You guys are in my prayers.
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Posted: 03 December 2007 at 1:44pm |
so sorry to hear of your loss fiona
As others have said just be there for your mum as much as possible, and let her know that your sister may be gone but you still need and love your mum so much
again,sorry to hear of your loss, am glad your sis is no longer in pain
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Posted: 03 December 2007 at 1:51pm |
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Im sorry to hear this as someones passing is never an easy thing to deal with...even if it was her time.
Make sure your mum has things to fill her time with too as the time she went to visit her each week will seem empty...took us a while not to turn off to the resthome or think we had to go for quite a while after grandma passed.
thoughts are with you and your family
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Posted: 03 December 2007 at 2:03pm |
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Big hugs Fiona - sorry to hear that.
I agree with BS, once everything has quietened down your mum will have a big hole to fill and will need something to do.
Thinking of you and your family.
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Posted: 03 December 2007 at 2:07pm |
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Im so sorry to hear your sister passed away. its a double edged sword isnt it, when they are finally at peace yet you will miss them so much. big hugs to you and your family
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Posted: 03 December 2007 at 2:47pm |
i,m so so sorry for your loss big big hugs 
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Posted: 03 December 2007 at 2:49pm |
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Posted: 03 December 2007 at 2:52pm |
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So sorry for your loss, I lost my sister and my niece 19 years ago in and accident, my mum and sis were the best of companions and spent alot of time together, I'm with the others once things have quietened down just be there for her maybe take her out for a coffee and just spend time with her on your own if that is possible.
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Posted: 03 December 2007 at 3:19pm |
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Big hugs and definitely be there for your Mum she will need you
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Posted: 03 December 2007 at 3:26pm |
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So very sorry for your loss Fiona.
Lots of love and hugs to you and your family xxx
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Posted: 03 December 2007 at 6:20pm |
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Oh wow Fiona, sorry to hear that.
I don't know from experience, but once your mum has had some time to grieve, maybe encourage her to get involved in some hobbies? Or maybe even attend meetings for those who care for IHC people? (Unless that'd be bringing up too many memories?)
Much love and hugs
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Posted: 03 December 2007 at 6:23pm |
I'm so sorry Fiona.
Thinking of you and your family at this saf time.
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Posted: 03 December 2007 at 6:25pm |
to you and your family
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Posted: 03 December 2007 at 7:33pm |
Sorry for your loss s for you and your family
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Posted: 03 December 2007 at 7:57pm |
aww fiona sorry to hear about your sister - big hugs. I agree with what everyone has said on here BUT also that you need to be able to grieve as well and not feel like you have to be the one to hold it together. It has probably opened the door for you to get closer to your mum as special needs people do take alot of time and I am sure some time in your life you have had to step aside with time for your mum and sister... 
Thinking of you and your family
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