I hate my breasts - No more breastfeeding

I have no advice sorry, just starting on the BF journey myself, but wanted to give you this



Good luck with the weaning xx

Thank you kiwisj, and good on you for breastfeeding. Usually I'm a breastfeeding advocate, and any future kids I would still like to breastfeed 100% without fail....but err after 21.5 months I'm really over the whole ordeal atm. Very draining to say the least. My boy is on/off throughout the day & night and I've let him have his way for far too long.

as a personal trainer the best thing i can suggest is chest press or bench press (if you belong to a gym) if not, then press ups, if you cant do a full press up do it on a swiss ball to start with. anything straining the chest will help your boobs lift back into place. search the net for chest exercises or go to mynewbody.com.au and find their body map and look for chest exercises on there. should help heaps

Sounds just like my breasts. Infact the only reason I have any at all at the moment is because theres still some milk in there, I am not looking forward to stopping after Maddi as I am pretty sure there will be nithing there at all

I lost a lot of weight after having Keira and I think my boobs went a long with all the rest. One day if im rich I maybe will try get them back at the moment I will have to do with push up bras and extra padding

 

Gosh you are amazing carring on as long as you did Well Done!

I stopped feeding Keira at 18 months and I did it quite gradually. She was already drinking cows milk during the day so I just dropped 1 feed at a time and once she got used to one less feed I would drop another one, it maybe took a few weeks all up. We gave her water in a bottle if she ever woke in the night and at first she may have protested but after a few times of waking up and not getting milk she never bothered waking again. We have only just stopped giving her the bottle of water when she goes to bed (I think that was harder to stop than the bfing)

Good Luck!

NaturoPharm has a product called Milk Stop, which could help.

As far as nights go, is that just a lately thing or has he always demand fed 2-3 times per night? I suggest that you go in there with a bottle of water - warm if you like. Don't put him in the feeding position, sit him upright on your knee. He will not need any food (not even cows milk) in the night and after a couple of struggles you should find that he gives up on night waking altogether - because it's no longer rewarding.

The sags and bags - you'll need to not worry about these for a little while. I'm not sure that him being rough with you has any bearing on them being saggy, it's pretty normal when you are near weaning for them to go like that. Basically it probably confirms that he is really to be weaned because he is not feeding adequately to really keep the milk store high. About two weeks after you have weaned him, get a new bra fitting and wear push-ups for a little while, they will at least help your self-image as far as the boobs go.

It's not too difficult to wean off bf, although I did it with 11mos not 21, and 11mos forget much quicker. Whenever he nuzzles in for a feed, either turn him around (with his back to your chest) and read him a story, or say "are you hungry?" and get him a drink and/or a snack. You will probably feel that in the first few days you are on your feet a lot, changing the demand bf to demand "pantry" feeding, but it will pass quickly.

From there, and especially near 2yrs, you should be able to get him into a food routine (if he isn't already) with three main meals a day and morning and afternoon tea. Remember to offer him a drink of water with his meals, he will notice the thirst a bit more having just weaned. Also if he is used to a night feed, at his age it's probably just as easy to wean the whole lot rather than introduce a bottle of milk now.

Hope that helps!!

Thanks for your replies everyone. I appreciate it, I also apologise that my original post was a bit woe is me. I was having one of those days iykwim.

I think we will be able to wean pretty easy, its just that with living at my parents still ....we are sharing a bedroom still, his cot is basically right next to my bed ...can they smell your milk? Just makes the night waking a bit harder, and the fact that he's made a habit out of waking, climbing out of his cot, climbing into my bed (all whilst the lights are off, and most the time im still asleep ) and he just pulls my top down and helps himself ...some mornings I wake up and I have no recollection of him getting up during the night, but he's next to me all snuggled in tight with my boob hanging out.

I know he doesn't NEED it anymore, his appetite is FINALLY starting to pick up where food is concerned ...and I think half the problem with his eating is that he expects/has far too much breastmilk and always has been a big milk drinker. Not that it has harmed him, by all means but he's too old now and to be quite frank I'm sick of it. Sick of feeling so drained and tired, sick of having my breasts yanked etc.

I gave him a feed before bed, I think I will keep that one feed before bedtime for the rest of the week and combat the night time waking and during the day milk snacks first. Might be too drastic if I cut it off altogether, plus its an emotional thing (on both sides) too. That bond, i'll miss it.

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That sounds like a good plan to follow. When I weaned Kahtrell @ around 14 months I dropped to night feeds and then after a while he didn't need them anymore. You are a definite trooper!...and yea it's a little sad when you don't have that bond going anymore, but lovely cuddle suffices! lolz

My mum had what the docs called "Chronic Withering". Not pretty at all. She had implants as she couldn't handle it anymore.

I made DH agree that I could have mine fixed after all the babies were done and dusted. He really had no choice as I said No Boobs, then No Babies! Strangely enough he didn't protest very much.......

Good on you chick for keeping it up for so long. You've done a bang up job and I think you're right in putting a bit of focus back on to yourself.

How did you get on with the night waking/feeding?

I'm all ears as I'm thinking of doing the same soon. I don't mind the bedtime feed, but I'm beginning to dread the middle of the night ones.