Would you bother?

Hmmm, thats a toughie. On the one hand your baby girl is entitled to know her grandfather, and have a relationship with him. On the other hand, why would you want to encourage that when he is your FATHER and you clearly don't have a relationship with him?

Personally, I haven't a clue what I'd do. My father passed away when I was just 6 years old, and at the risk of sounding like a cliche, I would give anything to have been able to know him as a person, rather than a photograph and a collection of other people's memories.

If you're not interested in having a relationship with him, then maybe there's no point trying to forge one between him and Kylah?

You'll know what to do when the time comes.

Unless its something important to you, why bother.

You don't have to have a relatonship with someone just cause their a relative.

As for Kylah, in my experience kids don't miss what they never had.

I met my birth mother when I was 20, (14 years ago) and while it was nice to fill in some of the blanks, I don't have a relatonship with her and probably never will.

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Short answer: no

kebakat wrote: Short answer: no

And I agree with the fact that you dont have to have a relationship with someone just because you are related.

Who needs the stress?

Do you know who your half-sisters mother is? Maybe you could arrange to see her thru her mum and not your dad so you don't have to contact him?

I don't know my real grandfather on my mum's side. He walked out on my nana when my mum was 6 and it has been no great loss.

i went through this with my daughter. DHs mum didnt raise him but flew in and out of his life as she pleased. We've tried to get along with her twice now but all she does is cause us grief.

she told people that our daughter smelt and that i must not be taking care of her. That was it for me!
we gave her one more chance last year but she blew it.

Wished we had never started as janaya is always pointing out at her grans house to ask if she can go there now.....

It's going to take a lot of time and visits etc to build that relationship so you can really only do it if you yourself are keen to rebuild the relationship between you and your dad. Cause you're gonna be there whenever she visits.

Give yourself some time, babies don't recognise people from month to month until they are past 1yo.

i say no james has never seen his dad and hes not missing outt on much and when the time comes james can contact him when hes ready

Thank you guys.. you opinions have really helped