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MummyFreckle 
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Posted: 25 September 2007 at 9:34am |
I have been thinking about this post a lot…and after laying awake at 3am this morning thinking about it I decided that I had better to write it – even if its just to get it off my chest.
One of the things that I love about Oh Baby is that we are a diverse group of people.
We have a wide range of interests and views, which translates into a wide range of opinions which we are happy to share with each other.
In life, we all form our opinions based on our own personal experiences, our own values, our upbringing, our religious & cultural views and the opinions of those closest to us. I think its important to remember that when we share our opinions or views – we are not proclaiming that ours is the “right” or “only” viewpoint on a matter, but it is OURs, and as such we should respect each other for sharing it.
It is always fun to engage in debate, and I suspect that sometimes we all say things to be a little controversial or stir things up, or prompt a debate – that’s a good thing, it can result in some really interesting discussions, but we have to recognise those topics or discussions where we just aren’t going to agree – and to “walk away” or just accept that we have a difference of opinion. I don’t think that anyone on OB is out to “convert” or evangelise anyone to their way of thinking – I just think that we all need to know when to stop sometimes.
Some people may feel that this post in itself is controversial, and that’s fine, but it has been on my mind for a couple of days and wanted to share my feelings.
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Posted: 25 September 2007 at 9:48am |
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well said ......
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Posted: 25 September 2007 at 10:15am |
Good for you simsam, couldn't agree more. I've always liked OH Baby cause no matter what you say, opinion or otherwise, everyone is at least polite to each other which I think is important.
I also love the support, and kindness that is shown time and time again by the ladies and gents on this forum.
I hope now you are able to sleep better. 
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Maya
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Posted: 25 September 2007 at 10:26am |
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*nods in agreement*
Now get some sleep while you still can Sam!
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Posted: 25 September 2007 at 10:29am |
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I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived!
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Posted: 25 September 2007 at 11:03am |
Yep!!! 
BUT for me when you stop; is when you stop growing!!!
Ill lend you some of my sleeping tabs if ya like
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Posted: 25 September 2007 at 11:32am |
Well said SimSam. Knowing when to stop and how to put your own thoughts across without negating or belittling others' opinions is a feature of this forum I think should be championed.
Just as important as providing our own perspectives is listening and considering others' ideas, and not assuming anything about why they think the way they do. That doesn't mean you have to agree with them or change your own opinions, but it also doesn't mean you have to challenge everything either - which I guess is where your point comes in about knowing where to stop and respecting others.
Then again, this is all my own opinion!  
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Posted: 25 September 2007 at 11:38am |
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Well said. Now, I don't usually comment about this type of thing, but I just shut a thread out, as I felt one poster was harrassing another as thier opinions differ, and it was making me feel pretty uncomfortable. Now I am not one for shying away from debate or difference of opinions, but sometimes (and to quote the great Black Seeds) Sometimes enough is enough..
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Posted: 25 September 2007 at 11:45am |
What i dont understand is when you give an opinion or point of view/story & get dissed for it... You walk away; coz you know why!!!
You can still respect others & dont have to agree & can continue to speak you truth quietly & clearly.
Coz everybody has a story even the loud & arrogant have a story. BUt do you really listen?
Or just agree to disagree??
Or smile & nod as they say
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Posted: 25 September 2007 at 11:47am |
 well said
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Posted: 25 September 2007 at 11:57am |
 SimSam wrote:
I just think that we all need to know when to stop sometimes. |
and also when to stop reading if you are getting upset at another person's opinion.
There's been many a time when I've sat here and thought WHAT THE?!?! or How could someone say such a thing?!?!? 
but then I have the choice to close out of that topic and move on. Same as IRL "nod, smile and walk away"
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Posted: 25 September 2007 at 12:18pm |
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Posted: 25 September 2007 at 12:27pm |
Well written Simsam!
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Posted: 25 September 2007 at 12:42pm |
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I agree but I must have missed something cos I cant recall any 'touchy' subjects at the moment
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Posted: 25 September 2007 at 12:55pm |
LOL Robyn we've all been having fierce debates over domestic violence and circumcision But it hasn't gotten nasty, at least not IMO...
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Posted: 25 September 2007 at 7:57pm |
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Posted: 26 September 2007 at 7:24am |
oooh right, ive avoided those threads incase I put my foot in it, i have reasonably strong opinions on the subjects
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Posted: 26 September 2007 at 8:56am |
I don't think anyone should have to think twice about posting their opinions (unless it would obviously offend another (i.e. race comments etc), people should think before they post that they are offended (and I mean that in the nicest way honest! I'm just bad with words LOL).
A lot of problems have come from people not agreeing with another post and making it personal which was never intended by anyone. There's nothing wrong with having a differing opinion from someone else, it opens your eyes to both sides of the discussion.
I am totally against circumcision, but my very good friend is for. That doesn't mean I'll stop being friends with Emma We'll just agree to disagree and move on.
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Posted: 26 September 2007 at 8:59am |
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Posted: 26 September 2007 at 12:03pm |
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i think people DO need to think twice about how they post their opinions. as we are not able to see people's faces and hear the tone, often the meaning can be misunderstood. Now I also think that some people can sometimes misunderstand and get upset without first clarifying with the original poster, but I also think that we, online friends, have to be careful about how we say things. i like to think most times we do.
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