SIL again

I may be over reacting - so please tell me honestly what you think - i won't mind (I may write down names heheh

SIL is getting married in January. Initially I said to MIL I would book a motel and she said no, we are family, we stay together. they are getting married back in Gissy and the family home is still there. MIL mentioned a lot of people are staying at the home - it ahs a huge section so heaps of room for tents. She asked if we would mind (keep in mind this is last xmas we talked this over). I said no as the boys would no doubt escape. the back isn't fenced and leads to a creek - small, but still. And last year taine escaped onto the road when Lewis' uncle left the gate open. I said we would need a room.

fast forward. SIL rang and was asking us where we are staying for the wedding. DH said at the house - she said there may not be room as she has invited a lot of her friends from sydney and they have small children who will need rooms rather than the tent. She asked if we could stay with friends instead (who live down the road). i was upset at this. Our boys don't tend to sleep well away (remember the wedding in rotorua I went to where they recfused to sleep and we missed the reception). So i said for a week i would probably be stuck at someone elses home trying to settle the kids while DH went out with the family - or vice cersa. IO said this was not my idea of a hoilday.

DH rang his mum and asked her about it. she hummed and haahed and said it may be an issue. he has told her that either we get a room in the family house (keep in mind th house is three bedroom plus sleepout - in his family there are his parents, SIL and her bubba, other SIL and her bubbs - hubby in Iraq) and the other bro isn't coming) - or we will come just for the weekend and book a hotel. MIL is a bit upset at this, but I know that a phone call from SIL is coming where we are called unreasonable and "wrecking the wedding". So....do you think we are being reasonable or not???

Oh, i kinda got that wrong....I mean,m we would book a motel and not bring the kids - that is what she is upset at. We don't really want to do that as we had envisioned this a time to catch up as a family (everyone else lives in Oz), but don't want to comprimise the kids saftey (i.e. by sleeping in a tent)

oh yeah i double what BS said...

A toaster or a platter...either would be good. Hehehehe.

But seriously, I don't think you're being unreasonable. You've politely made your intentions and needs clear from the start so really they have no cause to complain!

we aren't giving her anything! she has specifically aske for money donations as they live in aus. DH is refusing to book hotel, and is really pissed over friends being given priority over us, but of course with th in laws no one wants to confront her. or make her mad (seriously scary) so it's either all of us at the house, or just me and DH - and we'll stay with friends - they have room for us two, but have just had twins so no room for our boisterious boys.

No I don't think you're being unreasonable to ask to stay in the house - how come her mates need the house and not a tent??  You've got kids, I wouldn't fancy the idea of tenting with preschoolers either - they could at least offer you guys the lounge.  I'd go for the motel (which gives you a nice getaway to kick back if you've had enough of the family dramas anyway) and maybe ask the grandy's to babysit for a couple of hours too so you and DH can go on a date!

I totally understand you not wanting the boys in tents. We just went to a wee girls birthday party and they couldn't understand why I wanted the gates shut, until Jack managed to get out a hole in fence.

Oh my you really must be so glad you don't live up there anymore if it was me I would be booking the motel leaving the boy's with your Mum and that way you can have a nice weekend away and not worry about being round family 24/7.

Liz, can you turn up before all the other people arrive and just set up in one of the rooms in the house?   I think you guys have every right to be feel put out. Family is way more important than friends.