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mummy_becks 
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Posted: 02 February 2008 at 7:11pm |
Do you have much to do with your extended families??
When I was younger my mums family would always have get togethers, but tehy stopped when I was about 9 due to a family issue and it has never been the same since.
DH's family have never been that close and now MIL thinks it strange that me and DH's cousin are seeing each other often (once a week). Now her hubby is also away in Waiouru so is bored too, and their children are the closest things Andrew and Josh are going to have cousins (infact they are now referred to as their cousins).
Its not strange is it??
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AliaDawn
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Posted: 02 February 2008 at 7:32pm |
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It depends on your family members - If (as this seems to be the case) they are people you'd happily make friends with anyway, then why on earth not? If on the other hand you don't get on with them very well I wouldn't bother.
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Posted: 02 February 2008 at 7:35pm |
And especially cos you are both in the same situation at the moment - DHs in Waiouru and with little kids. My family doesnt do a heck of a lot together which I find quite sad and wish was different cos its not like we dont get on. I have actually started spending a lot of time with my aunty (tho she is actually my cousin, but raised by my grandparents and she is about 13 years older than me) but she has kids the same age as mine and they live just around the corner, literally 5 houses away. 
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Posted: 02 February 2008 at 7:48pm |
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I don't think its strange at all, if you guys get on then thats awesome. My family aren't that close - not because we don't get on I think its mainly because of distance and age differences. Anyway DH's family are quite close and see extended family fairly regularly, which is really nice, kind of makes me realise what we've let go in my family ...
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Posted: 02 February 2008 at 8:10pm |
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it depends. as children, we used to get together a lot, but not so much now - last time was for my grandfathers funeral - both sides. On my dads side, i highly doubt that we will ever all meet up again, and I will not talk to my cousins due to them being greedy horrible people. and for my mums side, my cousins are a lot younger than me, so i don't see them that much.
Lewis' famiuly are a lot closer and I adore some of his cousins. They are grew up very close to each other though - to the point where Lewis said he was forever scared he would bring a girl home and they ended up being a cousin or something.
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Posted: 02 February 2008 at 8:26pm |
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I don't have any family in Auckland. Actually, that's a lie, Dad has two sisters and a brother here and I have an assortment of cousins but they are so bloody hopeless I don't even bother with them. The only time I ever see them is when Dad is here.
Willie is close to his brother and sister so we see more of them.
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Posted: 02 February 2008 at 8:37pm |
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I wish I could see my side of the family more they have get togethers all the time and I'm closer to them than Jesse's family.
Jesse has nothing really do with anyone in his family apart from his parents and sister and her three kids. We see them about once a week as they all live in the same suburb.
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Posted: 02 February 2008 at 8:45pm |
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All my side are so so rich and everything is posh with them so its quite hard to find stuff in common (I'm the black sheep who had babies out of wedlock)
Ben is a bit closer with his cousins and I get on quite well with his cousins gf and we refer to our kids as cousins.
My and my sisters are very close and I spend every Friday night at my parents so I hope this generation is a bit closer.
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Posted: 02 February 2008 at 8:53pm |
I think we might be an exception. We often see B's extended family, we have get togethers and all that (except when we are too slack to orgnaise them properly! Sorry Red! Sorry gemsmum!!!!).
I don't think it's strange at all. B's family rock so I really enjoy getting together them. (and I'm not just saying that because they're on here too!!  ). But seriously, I didn't grow up with family other than my mum and dad so I love how close B's family is and it has meant a lot to me in the past when I've been able to text them and talk to them about problems and whatnot.
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Posted: 02 February 2008 at 8:57pm |
I get on ok with my brother and sister, I am closer to my sister as I lived with her till I moved out of home at 15/16, but I get on longer with my brother without picking at each other - probably mostly because we never lived together. My Dad I am slowly growing closer to - Met him when I was 7, and have seen him a few times since then (is also my brother's dad) And me and my mum get on pretty well still (my sister's mum)
My MIL is pretty neat, and FIL is a bit weird, but not all that horrible (in small doses) he has type 1 diabetes, so can get a little cranky sometimes...
My cousins (the whole 2 of them from my mum's side - don't know my dad's well) well let's just say the 15 year old boy is a drinking, pot smoking, self-proclaimed "emo" and the 17 year old girl is a heavy drinking, pot smoking, too-cool-for-school type 
I think my mum got the better deal than her brother - She got me the non-dangerous rule side-stepper, who moved out as soon as I could and far far away, and my sister the Angel A+ student who developed late and practices everything in moderation...
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Posted: 02 February 2008 at 8:57pm |
We are the same Gen. My DH's family are awesome. It is a really big family and we see lots of them. My BIL has 5 kids so lots of cousins for Sam. We have regular get togethers and loads of laughs. My MIL used to be just awful to me, but we are now really close and she is like a Mum to me.
My family are completely useless. They live close but I am expected to be the one that always goes to see them and they only ring me when they want a favour or money! That side used to be really close until my Mum died. Turned out she was the glue unfortunatley 
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Posted: 02 February 2008 at 9:20pm |
LIz your dad was so funny with those cousins you have mentioned.
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Posted: 03 February 2008 at 2:06am |
When I grew up we were constantly at my Aunts house (Mums sister) so I am really close with my older cousin. Hes like my big brother- was usher at our wedding and is Kates godfather. In saying that, when we lived in Wellington we hardly ever saw him! I think it was more because he was living the 'lad' lifestyle and we were doing the family thing. I would love to have close family with kids the same age to do stuff with. Unfortunately geography doesn't allow that at the moment and the extended family I do get on well with, is at different life stages.
I think its lovely that you're seeing lots of them 
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Posted: 03 February 2008 at 6:56am |
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Our extended family was close when we were young but now we've all grown, had families & moved away - it makes it hard. I try to keep up with the siblings so my kids can be close to their cousins.
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Posted: 03 February 2008 at 8:27am |
Sadly no! I see my parents every other day but not much of my brother, I would not see my nephews if my mum did not bring them over as she has them after kindy and school while their parents work, I hate it and dh's family all live up north  and it's not for lack of trying on my part
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Posted: 03 February 2008 at 8:49am |
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becks - i am so sorry about that. the conversation gets rather heated when their names come up. i have learnt to avoid it like crazy!
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Posted: 03 February 2008 at 8:51am |
I am really close to my family, but they live in Sydney! Which is my fault really, as I moved here with my then DP...but we talk every week and see each other at least once a year!
I am really close with DH's family. My 2 SIL's have babies and we all get on really well, same with his parents...we probably meet up at least once a fortnight.
I think its great having close relationships with family if you can
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Posted: 03 February 2008 at 10:24am |
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Im close with my family but i wouldnt say very close.. we know eachother but we are different people. its only in the last 4 years that i got to know my biological father properly.
On mums side i dont talk to anyon, the ones i am clsoe to are my dad and his family.
I have s sister who is 8 years younger who i grew up with and love to piecess. and a few other half siblings that i dont really see.. i try to keep in contact with them tho.
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Posted: 03 February 2008 at 10:52am |
We are very close to DH's family and have alot of get togethers which I am really grateful for because I have no family in Auckland. We are close to my family too but harder when you don't see them as much. The kids enjoy the time we spend with the family and I hope it continues unitl they are older and carry it on with their kids
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Posted: 03 February 2008 at 10:55am |
 lizzle wrote:
becks - i am so sorry about that. the conversation gets rather heated when their names come up. i have learnt to avoid it like crazy! |
Don't worry, it's true about them thou. I don't think I would like to be on the receiveing end of him when it is all sorted out.
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