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    Posted: 08 February 2008 at 8:49pm
on tuesday i had the most obnoxious child in my class - claimed not to have a pen cause he didn't have his stationary list yet. pain in the bum.

anyway, for homework they had to write one page about themselves. most wrote about themselves, family etc. His story well, broke my heart. I actually asked the principal about it, and was all confirmed.

basically it talked about each of the scars on his body and how they were caused by his parents - as a baby he cried too loud as he was born drug dependant, so his parents stubbed cigarettes out on him. then he has a cut on his knee from a broken window when he and his sister ran away from a foster home and broke into people's houses to eat (he was 4). the scar he has from hitting the man who was "hurting" his sister (the principal told me his sister was actually sold into prostitution as an 8 year old). he went on to say that he loves the school cause he can stay there during school time and he knows he is so comfortable and happy. he didn't like the holidays cause he had to go back to the foster family.

I nearly broke down in tears reading it, cause it was written in typical 15 year old boy fashion - very matter of fact. it took all my strength not to rush in and tell him to move in to our house.

After being so harsh on him on day one though, he has been really well-behaved since then. the principal said he has very little respect for women because of his mum,, so I needed to be really tough on him.

the teaching part of this job - it's kinda easy - it's all the other stuff that makes it hard.

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oh my god that poor boy
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That is so sad, that poor boy
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Wow, I didn't think that still happened - poor boy.

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OMG that's terrible! That poor little guy
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That's so sad. It's great you found out about it so you could handle it properly. The people who have these poor children need to be ..... (too rude to print!)
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he's actually really bright, but quite obnoxious. I just hate hate HATE the matter of factness - like "oh yeah, this happens to lots of people" kind of thing. kids shouldn't think like that. i've been sitting here hugging my kids thinking "how could you?" I mean, my kids can be little horrors sometimes and there are times where I could almost quite cheerfully chuck them out the window - almost...but in seriousness, how could you?
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I know what you mean liz. When that 18mth old was abandoned in the bush by her mother, Ollie was about that age, I just couldn't imagine doing that to him (or any child). They trust you completely and to betray that trust is awful. Oh man, now I'm crying again ...
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Poor guy!!
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That is so sad! Probably helpful that you know that background to him at the start of year. Sounds like you may have your work cut out in winning his respect. I presume that if the Principal knows this stuff that he has already had some form of counselling? I suspect his obnoxious attitude is some cover for not being "able" to be vulnerable to adults or something.
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Wow! I'm stunned! So terrible for him to have had that happened to him. It's sad to think that SCHOOL was his safe-haven, going home was a nightmare - even to his foster home.

Very very sad.
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It's so horrible when school is the only constant, reassuring thing in a kids life.

I had an 8-year old at one school who was strangling kids and starting trying to beat me up. Turns out he was so upset and frustrated because... his uncle had turned a shotgun on the family during the holidays and had the armed defenders not taken him out, he would have killed the whole family

Like everyone said.. how could you? I look at my wee boy and it just makes me cry to think that people are so evil that they could harm something so innocent.
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Wow. Makes me wonder if he already respects you because he shared his story with you.

Maybe you'll become the one steady influence in his life.

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oh that is so so sad, that poor boy. you have to wonder how many children that end up before the courts have stories similar to that one, if you knew the background would you still judge them as harshly? (general you, not you liz!)

i think it is great that he shared that with you, i hope you have a fruitful year together, he stretching you and you empowering him to overcome his beginnings.
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Liz I have that same feeling as much as Andrew drives me nuts I could in no way do anything like that to him.

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Oh that is so sad. There is so much going on in some families like this, and we just have no idea - its a totally different world to what we live in. Hope all goes well with him this year Liz
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Eeeeeek. Shivers.

Sounds like you can make a real difference - and that's what being a teacher is all about yeah?

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That is so sad, poor poor boy. Hope his sister is OK, is she around?
    
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