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fattartsrock 
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Posted: 22 May 2008 at 8:58am |
Heartfelt thanks for all your kind thoughts following our tragic news the other night.
I feel a bit stupid for comign on here and posting randomly but it was lateish and I didn't know who to ring or whatever and just needed to get it off ym chest.
I am at home today but we head back down to CHCH this arvo for the funeral tomorrow. I will de down again in a few weeks to help my brother with sorting her things out etc.
Its still a huge huge shock and now I know the full story, such a tragic sad sad tale about how the system lets people down. I rung the after hours crisi number for CHCH on monday night and they didn't want to go out and help my brother as he would be hostile with them apparently. I said to the stupid woman well if my husband was asking, beggign for help and you turned us away and he killed himself, I would be damn hostile as well. If He does ANYTHING to harm himself I will be going to the media. She just said thats your choice! 
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Posted: 22 May 2008 at 9:01am |
Huge hugs Annie. We rang the crisis line here on the weekend about SIL and was basically told we had to wait until Monday and then ring ourselves. We got no advice or anything with how to manage until then. It is so so sad that people are asking for help, and just arent getting it... 
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Posted: 22 May 2008 at 9:05am |
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wonder why they cant have people who come to your house after car accidents not sure what they are called..they come when u need them.. i dont know the whole story but the mental health system here sucks ...mostly when you ask for help you dont get it:(
what a rude bitch:(
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Posted: 22 May 2008 at 9:09am |
KA, Victim Support?
I was going to suggest them.
that's really maddening.
I hope your brother is OK (well, as OK as can be expected).
Travel safe. You're in my thoughts
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Posted: 22 May 2008 at 9:16am |
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Posted: 22 May 2008 at 9:52am |
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Didn't victim support go to your brother after he found her? They turned up for me within 20mins of me calling the police and ambulance. They then were at my parents house the next day...
Annie, speaking from personal experience you are all in for a really rough ride over the next few months and please PM me if you need ANYTHING!!!
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Posted: 22 May 2008 at 10:28am |
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Mel, I will pm you after tomorrow as I really want to pick your brains.
Victim support as far as I am aware haven't been in touch.
I'm really scared for him. I want to pick him up and brign him home.
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Posted: 22 May 2008 at 10:35am |
Surely mental health professional have training on how to deal with people who are hostile? What a load of sh*t.
Huge hugs to you, I hope you are able to get your brother some support.
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Posted: 22 May 2008 at 11:01am |
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I'll be thinking of you all tomorrow. I'll talk to you soon. Take care.
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Posted: 22 May 2008 at 11:01am |
Awww Annie that does suck big time. You are in my thoughts hun.
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Posted: 22 May 2008 at 11:15am |
Oh honey this is sooo tough. Know that you are always welcome to came on here and share/vent/ramble/meander through your thoughts. That's what we're all here for.
 fattartsrock wrote:
Victim support as far as I am aware haven't been in touch.
I'm really scared for him. I want to pick him up and brign him home. |
Can you do this? Would he agree to it? Would you be able to look after him and the kids? Would DH agree?
Thinking of you.
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Posted: 22 May 2008 at 11:21am |
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thinking of you ................... and as for mental health unit never had to use them but from what I have heard from other peoples experience they don't seem to be much help, don't get me wrong I am sure they do a good job but I have not heard much good things latey.
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Posted: 22 May 2008 at 1:28pm |
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It really depends on the type of system thats in place in your area. I've had to use the mental health system for a family member and they were extremely efficient. The GP this family member dealt with picked up really quickly on the dynamics of the situation and within that consultation was informed about mental health services. The CAT team, as they were referred to, visited and called regularly to check on this particular person, they even had nurses to stay over night when new medications were introduced. They really were supportive. I'm sure it differs from region to region. It's issues like this were we need to rally for better support structures to be available for those who need it. Many tragic endings could be avoided if there was that support available.
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Posted: 22 May 2008 at 2:24pm |
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I'm so sorry to hear this sad news.
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Posted: 22 May 2008 at 2:44pm |
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Posted: 22 May 2008 at 3:05pm |
ooEvaoo wrote:
It really depends on the type of system thats in place in your area. I've had to use the mental health system for a family member and they were extremely efficient. The GP this family member dealt with picked up really quickly on the dynamics of the situation and within that consultation was informed about mental health services. The CAT team, as they were referred to, visited and called regularly to check on this particular person, they even had nurses to stay over night when new medications were introduced. They really were supportive. I'm sure it differs from region to region. It's issues like this were we need to rally for better support structures to be available for those who need it. Many tragic endings could be avoided if there was that support available. |
yes but often they dont think you are 'bad enough' and then it escalates:(
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Posted: 22 May 2008 at 3:08pm |
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Big hugs Annie, I hope tomorrow is as kind as it can possibly be on your family given the awful circumstances. Will be thinking of you.
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Posted: 22 May 2008 at 3:21pm |
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Such a tragic and terrible time for you and your family, my thoughts are with you. Big hugs.
P.S Yes the system does bite big time.
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Posted: 22 May 2008 at 3:41pm |
Sooo sorry to hear of your loss! This will be a tough time for you and your family . How heartbreaking for you. Lots of hugs coming your way. Thinking of you.
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Posted: 22 May 2008 at 10:16pm |
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Yeah I see you're point. Things need to be nipped in the butt before it escalates to a high risk situation. The health sector really need to open their eyes dont they. No one should be turned away, no problem should be too small. There needs to be change.
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