Maybe it’s the hormones.....

or maybe it's coz I'm not well but I'm just about ready to pack up & leave Spencer
I've really had it! Yesterday was Mother's Day, ok wasn't expecting anything special but was kind of expecting to have him home for the day since I've been coming down with the flu for the last few days but yesterday I was crook as a dog, hardly able to lift my head off the pillow by midday. And what did my man do? He went motor-x riding & left me to it. And my little man had the sniffles too so it was NOT a pleasant day. AND I find out today that he pinched $30 out of my account without a word to me so he could go riding.
Money that I'm saving for when Bubs arrives in the next 2 weeks or so.
He had to go to Auckland today to drop off a friend and "since he is up there" he has taken his motorbike & going riding again! And he couldn't understand why I called him selfish this morning! So am I being too harsh or hormonal or what???????

Ug, Toni! I think (not having been there yet myself) that maybe having hormones up the woop doesn't help your ability to cope, but I think that it was extremely bad form for him to leave you to it, sick, heavily preggers, with an ill little one as well. I think you need to have a chat to him in a few days, when you feel a bit stronger yourself, and make sure he understands why you were unhappy. Sort of like ...dealing with a kid!! A relationship is a partnership and being in a partnership does mean sacrifices, and your (I'm sorry - I have no idea!!) partner/husband has let that slide on this occasion

hi toni, maybe its my hormones too but i'd be really pissed as well!! i agree with ginger, maybe give yourself a couple of days to recover and gain a little perspective, then talk to him about it. i find that is the easiest way to deal with things while i'm pregnant, since i don't often know whether my hormones are blowing things out of proportion.
in the meantime, take care of yourself and your bump. i hope you're feeling better soon!

Oh Toni.....How horrible. I sure hope that your man comes around and gets his priorities sorted.

You are a brave girl tho...cause so many times I said "thats it"...I never actually left. I sure hope however that you have him around when bub is born and can be a family.

to you. We will be thinking of you and please let us know when you have your bub.

Take care hun.....good luck!!!

Thanks Roksana.
Its pretty tough, I've done the threatening before too but I never make it out the door. So its very scary for me.
I'm hoping its only a temporary thing though

awwwww toni

i agree with becca, hopefully being apart for a while will make spencer realise how he's been treating you and how selfish he has been. sometimes time apart can do absolute wonders for relationships (speaking from experience).
i'm glad you've taken your threats to the next level, things obviously weren't working the way they were and you are so strong for following through this time! spencer needed to see that you were seriously unhappy

take care of yourself and your babies, will be thinking of you over the next couple of weeks.

I am sure it will be temporary Toni (well I will pray that it is). As you said that he sounded upset on the phone....so may be his drive back home will give him some time to think.....Hang in there!!!

We are here when you need us!!!

Well Toni. just to add my two cents, it sounds as though he's a boy who deosn't want to grow up (much like mine!). I hope he can reassess what's important! And GOOD FOR YOU for not putting up with sh*t!

Oh I hope it all works out! I hope he grows up and sorts out these issues and can see its not worth losing a realtionship and two very special little ones
! Men can be such brats sometimes.Ive got one that is causing grief at the moment of the financial kind - well amongst a few other incidentals so I know where you are coming from!
Reading all this has made me very sad for you.
Big hugs..take care...XX

Toni, I think you are so brave and strong for leaving! I'm sure that once he sees you are serious he will change. A bit of a short sharp shock, and he'll realise how unfair he has acted.

Good luck!