This is killing me....

DH and I have decided that tonight is the night that we are going to teach Zoe to sleep through the night. And we have also removed her dummy that she has had since a newborn.

She is screaming and crying and has been doing this for the past 40 mins and I am sitting here crying as I feel for her and want to go in and tell her everything is ok.... but if I do, all this will be a waste of time.

I know that it will be worth it in the long run, but she is sooooo sad and so am I. That is why it is called tough love.

Edited by Lisha

Good luck, I had to do the tough love with Josh, took a few nights but so worth it in the end.

hhhhhm good luck.

but, just a wee thought.... if you are trying to teach her to sleep through the night - maybe try that first before ditching the dummy, cos you'll never get her to sleep thru the night if she hasn't got her little comfort thing to turn to when you refuse to feed her.

Little steps sometimes get there faster..

I agree with Biz and Janine too, two things at once would be so hard for someone her age.

She's crying because she doesn't understand whats going on....

oh so brave, we are just trying to teach our litte on to settle herself during the day, not wrapping and letting herself get the dummy. We still wrap her at night and give her the dummy.

We were lucky and tried changing her feeding patterns and that got her sleeping through the night, we are now at 2.5 weeks of 12 hours!

no wonder DH is keen for the next!

Well...... 5 mins after I sent the post, she went to sleep, it took 45 mins, and with NO dummy. She woke at 2pm but settled herself down and went back to sleep.

There is no way that we can reintroduce the dummy now as then all of our hard work would have been a waste of time.

I suppose doing it cold turkey has been good as now she is no longer wrapped. That was the big thing, we would have her wrapped with the dummy in and then she would scream because it falled out and she had no hands to put it back in. Now she doesn't have that problem.

Edited by Lisha

Thats awesome that she settled down, I remember it only took 3 nights of "tough love" with Neosha before she was sleeping through all the time and it was bliss

U did well chick!

Good job Lisha and DH, hope your sleep was a bit more restful and that it only gets better for you

good luck for tonight alisha!   
i remember having to do the same thing with charli when she started waking during the night (after sleeping through for months) while she was teething........she then realised if she woke up and screamed, she'd get a cuddle and another bottle

only took a couple of nights of tough love and she got the point.....now if she does wake, DH goes in because she usually only wants me

Good luck again, stick with it ...... think of all the good nights ahead when you are successful!!!