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kellverona 
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Posted: 23 May 2006 at 12:25pm |
Hi,
I have heard when you are in labour that the midwife just grabs your boob and puts baby on them without asking, etc. I dont like the idea of that. Im a personal person. I know I prob wont care at the time but the thought is 
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pepsi
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Posted: 23 May 2006 at 12:45pm |
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Really do they do that? I know they want mothers to try and breastfeed asap after birth but does that mean you have to do it when they have just slithered out or what? I would have thought they'd let you clean up and have the baby cleaned first but from what people have told me this is not the case..
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Posted: 23 May 2006 at 12:49pm |
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I know my midwife didnt do that although maybe because Kobe was taken to nicu but I wouldnt be having it. I found most people really good with not touching me or anything unless they asked first.
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Posted: 23 May 2006 at 1:11pm |
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My midwife done that to me. At the time it didn't really matter. I was just happy to have my baby.
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Posted: 23 May 2006 at 1:28pm |
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if it happens, it will only be her helping baby to latch on, i dont think it will be every time or every person either. i had a nurse help me with breastfeeding that way - and they are professionals, so it isnt gross or anything.
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Posted: 23 May 2006 at 1:37pm |
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Mine didn't do it to me, either time - however believe me, after giving birth vaginally, you aren't going to be THAT concerned about personal space. Also, breastfeeding can be tricky to get a handle on, so if you are finding it challenging, ask for all the help you can get at the hospital while you are there - it will make things a bit easier at 3am on your first night home!
Oh - and talk to your midwife about what will happen afterwards and what you would like her to do etc.
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Posted: 23 May 2006 at 1:44pm |
i agree, have a talk to your midwife but I undestand if they do it, it's just to help with latching on.
and yeah, after delivery I suspect personal space goes out the window along with modesty! *lol*
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Posted: 23 May 2006 at 2:00pm |
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mmmm not to keen on that idea......
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Kelpa
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Posted: 23 May 2006 at 2:07pm |
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Yes after all that goes on in a birth....Personal Space and dignity are the last things on your mind!!!
You have a new little BABY!!!
YAY
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my2angels
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Posted: 23 May 2006 at 2:09pm |
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to be honest and sorry if this is the wrong thing to say but I was especailly sensitive to being touched and everything after giving birth, I felt like I had been poked and proded enough and just didnt want anyone touching me. I went straight back to being a prude even when they were cleaning me up afterwards I hated it. Sorry maybe its just me but once he was out I wanted my dignity again.
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Posted: 23 May 2006 at 2:13pm |
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I think it depends on the midwife and what you put in your birth plan.
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Posted: 23 May 2006 at 2:22pm |
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Really? It did not happen to me. I had a c section and after which I was taken to the recovery room and my midwife brought Zaara and asked me if it was ok to give her the boob. I said yes and she took my boob and gave it to Zaara. I could not move my arms (epi) so I couldnt do it myself.....
Put it on your birth plan that you do not wish any one to touch your boobs, specially if you give birth virginally (sp??).
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Posted: 23 May 2006 at 3:02pm |
i also had a c-section with jack and while in recovery my midwife told me it was time to get him to feed. she asked me if it was ok for her to get him to latch on and as i was so out of it i didn't care. through the night feeds too the nurses at the hospital did the latching thing for me as i couldn't sit upright and didn't have the confidence to do it either.
see how you feel at the time, you don't really know how you are going to react until it's happening 
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Alan & Bubbles Mummy
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Posted: 23 May 2006 at 4:40pm |
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My midwife helped I am a real prude and usually never like anyone touching me, but I guess as eveyone said at that piont I did not really care. I discovered you leave everything like that at the door when you go in and pick it up on the way out.
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Posted: 23 May 2006 at 4:51pm |
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At anti-natal they said the midwife will give the baby straight to you (assuming everything is OK) and then the baby will start to suckle. I think i would like help getting him to latch on, but I have been wondering about the skin on skin thing - cause right now Im not particularly keen to give birth with no top or bottom on - so I guess I will just take off my top straight after? Is this what other people did?
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Posted: 23 May 2006 at 6:08pm |
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Yeah I'd rather be wearing an old t-shirt at least...I'm pretty sure there are no problems with that.
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Posted: 23 May 2006 at 7:27pm |
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I had one of those lovely gowns on with nothing on underneath....but this time I think I will take my own trackies and big T-shirt of Marks...For some reason that makes me feel better!!!
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Posted: 23 May 2006 at 7:30pm |
i also had a c-section and james had to wait a hour for his frist feed and they did ask me just think of it this way that bub needs to feed and your if and only if u want to can lrean to b/f with as much help u may need
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Posted: 23 May 2006 at 7:35pm |
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I wore a big tshirt of hubbys that came down past my bum. I didnt want to be in hospital clothes at all and wasnt thankfully, I hate those gowns
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Posted: 23 May 2006 at 8:03pm |
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Definitely talk to your midwife. I formula feed so that wasn't a problem but I also didn't want the baby to be put on me straight after giving birth....I wanted him cleaned off a bit so discussed that with my doctor and it was not a problem. I felt a bit guilty thinking maybe I wasn't being very maternal but at the end of the day it was what I was more comfortable with. I was big on dignity all the way through (as much as you can)
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Invading own personal space
