Who is getting any....

Ha ha I wish! I barely get a kiss goodbye in the mornings these days .

I could've written your post myself as just today I was thinking how being a SAHM is damn hard work. I barely sat down all day today

Hugs to you. Maybe you could try telling DH how you're feeling. If he's anything like my DH, he simply doesn't get "it" & needs to be told...

My DH doesn't have a romantic bone in his body, well he prob does but I am no good at things like that as I am a little self-conscious

Maybe you could set up a date night somewhere in the mix for just you and DH that is. Get a babysitter and have a night just for you 2 once a month or so especially if it's important to you.

Ok so now I have to take back my comment about DH as he has seen it. I am to say he has tried to be romantic but I just laugh and call him a geek so he has given up.

I always get a kiss goodbye in the morning (I'm usually still asleep) and one when he gets home.  I get phone calls or texts through the day to say "hey babe".  I guess thats close to romance.

Have you tried romancing him?  It's not a one way street and although we women seem to want it more than men do they like to be romanced too. 

My theory is the more romance you instigate the more he'll start romancing you too.  You might even want to plan an evening together and tell him exactly what you have planned and then see what he brings to the party too.  You don't need to plan a big night out.  We have had lots of lovely romantic 'dates' at home after Michaela goes to sleep. 

Couldn't agree more MrsMojo. My DH loves surprises and being lavished with extra attention.

What do you all class as romance though?

We're quite affectionate people and enjoy a little make out session most days We go out for dinner a lot and all that stuff but it's actually the little things I like the most. Like the bottle of lemonade he bought me the other day coz we had people over and he thought I might like something bubbly too, and the little bag of lollies he got me at work (that's a big thing because the packet was unopened when he gave it to me) but one of my favourites at the moment is on a nice sunny day we get fish & chips and have a little picnic out on the deck.
On Sunday morning he got up and went to the shop to get some things for breakfast then brought it to me in bed with a little flower he'd picked from the garden.

Some things that my DH likes; when I let him talk through my programmes, making him lasagne, keeping him company outside while he's doing the lawns or whatever else, greeting him at the door when he gets home. And his two favourite going out things are a night at the casino or the movies, we go to the big comfy seat ones and order as much food as we can.

mrsg1 wrote: Romance! What's that!

haha was just about to say the same thing!

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Kellz wrote: Good point Jo. I was moaning at DH the other day about being so unromantic,..and he said 'well u arent either', and its tru. I dont know where to start!

Ditto. Last night in bed I said to DH that he hasn't done anything romantic lately & he said neither have I!! I think I'm definitely going to try to make more of an effort. Somehow . Will get thinking.

Romanace does not exist in my house!

This is vague as I can't remeber it very well, but there was an add on the radio or TV, a women wanting something like flowers delivered and the guy says when was the last time you brought me beer.
Can't remember exact details....anyway for Valetine's this year I brough DH a box of beer....I kid you not it was the best present he has ever had! He loved it.....and got me a long way

We have the opposite situation in our house - I'm usually the one blobbing in front of the TV

Good point about giving as well as getting.

anyway back to romance!
I asked DF what the nicest romantic thing I ever did for him was , and he said when I wrote him a letter for christmas one year, telling him what I loved most about him and how happy he made me etc etc , (haha sucker! he got a letter and I got a GHD )
so perhaps even start with a card or something , you dont need a special occasion to give a card ...

My DF has a habit of coming home and going straight to the computer (ok to be fair he always kisses me and Caitlyn hello first) , so now I laid down the rule that he spends half an hour playing with C, cos by then shes been waiting for him all afternoon (im now "boring" ) then he can go on the computer for an hour til dinners ready then we eat as a family , I get C sorted for bed, whilst he goes on the computer again (must explain , he works in IT , so a lot of the computer time is work hes bought home) then after C's in bed , we watch a movie together , or just chat about our day , until I tell him im tired and am going to bed, he usually has to finish job sheets on the computer for a little bit longer ,so im often lately asleep before he hops into bed .
He doesnt resent my bossiness, he almost enjoys our "date" part of the evening more than me