What/how to say?

When my parents seperated last year I just told the kids that nana and grandad wanted to have a house each and they didnt seem to think that was strange. Even when nana went on a date and my neice was talking to Kobe about nanas boyfriend they didnt even seem to think it was odd.

Ditto what Rach said, hope you're doin ok. DH was affected a bit when his parents separated when he was in his 20s.

Sorry I don't have any advice on what to say, I know there's some great books out there about parents separating (one in particular by Babette Cole that I think is about having 2 of everything or something?) but you'd want to have a look to make sure they were relevant. Your librarian would be able to help you.

I think the best thing is to tell the girls and then just take your lead from them - answer questions honestly as/if they come up.

That book is called 'Two Homes'. We have it. But not sure that it would be ideal for your situation as it refers to mum's house and dad's house.

I think the suggestion of saying that nana and grandad want to live in different houses is a good start. And once they get older you can go into more detail. As long as they still feel loved by both nana and grandad they should be ok

Good luck T.

Thanks everyone. I liked the idea of "they want to live in different houses" so I took that to the girls tonight. I didn't want to delay because we are thinking of seeing Mum's mum tomorrow and it will likely be that she will find out while we visit. I doubt Mum would have told her. Anyway Miss 5 asked the dreaded why but I think we were able to sort that out okay.... they think they will be better friends that way, and when she suggested (but not concerned) that DH and I might think the same someday, I said I love her dad very much and I don't think I'll ever want to live away from him.

I told them that my mum and the kids will still be living at the usual house and that grandad hasn't decided where he'll be living for now. (He's only found temporary accommodation so far, it's out of town and he doesn't want to be visited there). But for the most part when we visit Mum he is working so he visits here... so I think not much is going to change in that way. Probably just as well.

Thanks for the hugs and support too. Dad has been talking about separating for a year and I never thought he'd have the guts to. But it still kinda rocked me yesterday. I'm a lot more settled and "wait and see" today.

awww hun i,m sorry to hear my arents split lasy year big hugs hun

oh hun that is so hard. Big hug's. Hun like other 's have said its hard at what ever age you are when your parent's split.   No advice as my kids were too young to even notice when my parent's split. Just take care hun. thinking of you.

I know who your parents are from band stuff.