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JoJames 
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Posted: 03 February 2009 at 2:58pm |
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We have a wedding in 2 weeks, they haven't specified no kids but the invite didn't include DS' name. Is it unrealistic for them to expect that we wouldn't bring our 4 month old baby to the reception? He is exclusively BF and so far has only taken a bottle for DH and myself, he also isn't the easiest baby to settle so not really a big fan of leaving him with my brothers and sister to look after. What are peoples apinions on babies at weddings?
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Posted: 03 February 2009 at 3:01pm |
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Hmmm I would probably just ask.
Even though it didnt specify no kids, I would have thought if the kids were invited, they would have been listed on the invite.
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Posted: 03 February 2009 at 3:01pm |
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i would have thought it would be okay at the reception - you can always go off and find a quite corner to feed him / soothe him.
I guess it depends on how well you know the couple getting married
If i ever get married again (hmm) i would think the more babies the merrier!
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Posted: 03 February 2009 at 3:05pm |
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I would ask the couple and explain that he's exclusively breast fed .
My friend is getting married this weekend (im a bridesmaid ) and C is not invited, as much as she loves her its just not that kind of wedding, I don't mind (in fact, im glad) ,shes fine with Tyler coming tho haha
I have kids and babies coming to my wedding, I love kids and babies and think they make a special occasion ,even more special (plus it keeps C from getting bored )
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Posted: 03 February 2009 at 3:12pm |
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i'd take your baby, we had 6 babies at our wedding.
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Posted: 03 February 2009 at 3:17pm |
I would ask - if it's OK they'll still appreciate you thinking about it. They mightn't realise that you're exclusively BF but might be happy for bubs to be there if you explain 
For our wedding if the kids were invited we included them on the invite. We had babies at our ceremony and reception but I've always loved kids so I particularly wanted them there IYKWIM.
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Posted: 03 February 2009 at 3:29pm |
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Well i've emailled her to see what she says, hopefully its ok, it would just be annoying to have him stay in Mt Eden with my sister and be in Northcote and have to go to him if they can't cope
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Posted: 03 February 2009 at 3:37pm |
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At our wedding we had my cousin with a newish baby and only put him and his gf on the invite but definitely didn't want a bubba there. We wanted adults only.
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Posted: 03 February 2009 at 3:54pm |
We didn't put 'no kids' on our invites, cos we thought it sounded a bit rude. But we didn't particularly want them there either. However, we got approached by several friends who wanted / needed to bring their children along. It kind of irritated me at the time, since we hadn't put their names on the invites, and a couple of them just assumed it would be fine - but in hindsight I was really glad they all came! The kids made the day so much more special. Those that were really young / breastfeeding were totally fine and all the parents did a great job of taking them outside if they got a bit loud.
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Posted: 03 February 2009 at 4:18pm |
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I would ask. Reason being, we're getting married in just over 4 weeks, we have specified on our information sheet that it's an adults only event (it's not a suitable venue for kids) and we've still had problems with people believing they should be able to bring their babies "because they're family". We're having no children, and there's no exceptions.
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Posted: 03 February 2009 at 4:46pm |
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We were happy to have babies at our wedding but were against any older children or young teenagers as they would just get bored. Lucky it only effected my cousin who was happy to make other arragements. Also, her children are hard work. In total I think we had 3 or 4 babies there.
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Posted: 03 February 2009 at 4:49pm |
Definatley ask, we specified the children by name who we invited to our wedding and they were associated with the bridal party.
I was a guest at a wedding where there was a young baby who was tired and upset during the speeches at the reception, it was horrible.
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Posted: 03 February 2009 at 5:21pm |
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I would ask for sure.
Im getting married in march and dont want any babies except Caden there. We only have a few "kids" and they are my counis and DF's cousins so thats it, no family friends are bringing their kids, apart from the ones that have teenage kids.
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Posted: 03 February 2009 at 5:25pm |
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I would ask. Reason being, we're getting married in just over 4 weeks, we have specified on our information sheet that it's an adults only event (it's not a suitable venue for kids) and we've still had problems with people believing they should be able to bring their babies "because they're family". We're having no children, and there's no exceptions. |
no children huh ? I can think of a certain baby whos gonna be there ....safetly tucked up inside the bride mind you ! 
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Posted: 03 February 2009 at 5:26pm |
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I have gone to 4 weddings and receptions with my boy in the last 3 months and no one even questioned the fact that he'd be coming with me as he was exclusively bf.
I think its when they start walking around and eating the adult food that people don't want them there.
GOod luck with the wedding.
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Posted: 03 February 2009 at 6:06pm |
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We have had four weddings in the twelve weeks we've had Harry. For each of them I asked if it was ok for him to be there. Two of them we had to fly to get there and I couldn't have gone if he wasn't able to be there. I accept that it is people' choice but I think that they also have to accept that if the breast fed newborn baby can't come then possibly neither can the mother. Everyone was fine about having him there and he was no bother I would never have let him cry and distract people and at the first one he was only a week old and just slept in his wee cocoon under the table. Nobody would have known he was there. It is often a really big effort to make it to weddings when you have young children and I think that if they are good friends then they will be understanding of that.
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Posted: 03 February 2009 at 6:07pm |
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By the way I think there is a big difference between a wee newborn at a wedding and an older baby - I never would have expected my toddler to be there!!!!
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Posted: 03 February 2009 at 6:11pm |
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If he is exclusively bf I would say the discretion is yours. If he was nearing 1yo, I'd say check with them before you take him with you.
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Posted: 03 February 2009 at 6:18pm |
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I would definitely ask. We got married last March and specified no children to the reception. They were all invited to the ceremony but as we got married on a Thursday, they were all in school. If we had invited everyone's children, there would have been 36 of them!
Having said that, we had four lots of guests (two family, two friends) due around the time of our wedding. I contacted them all separately and told them they were welcome to bring their babies.
Turns out my cousin couldn't make it (their twins were born a week later) and our friends' son was born on our wedding day. The two babies that did come were absolutely perfect and I'm pleased they and their parents were there.
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Posted: 03 February 2009 at 6:38pm |
Ask like the others have said. But it comes down to if baby can't be there then you can't either as bub is BF.
At our wedding (ceremony) we had a few children there and that was fine. But at the reception the only "child" we had was Andrew. We had a couple of 16 year olds stay as we had paid for an adult but they couldn't make it on the day. TBH I didn't even notice them at all.
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