Showing your man respect

Good luck with that!!!   Did you read that article in the Womens Day?

I reckon it has a lot to do with building your man up and making him feel like he's a great provider/worker/partner...etc. People laugh at me and think I'm mad for getting up at the crack of dawn everyday to make brekkie in bed for DH and a packed lunch, but to me it's a small thing that he loves and appreciates. I think alot of Woman 'de-man' their Men these days and the Men are left wondering what their role is. While I am all for the liberation of Women, I still think there are Men's tasks and Women's tasks. I think recognising this shows respect to your Man...
Works for us anyway!

SMoody wrote: We also have our own jobs and dont see it is sexist. He is just better at certain stuff than I am and vice verca.

I agree with this. I know Ben loves having the bed made over him and being made milos so I do it and he takes out the rubbish.

Mine's trying not to mother him - you know, actually respecting his opinions although you know that you would do it a different way etc. A lot of women (especially me) seem to have a lot of power in that regard, so I try to give some back to DH.

I guess for us it is that when he does something i don't tell him how to do it (unless he wants me to, we do lots of things together!) and I dont' 'fix' things if they are wrong and I don't take over if i don't like the way he is doing it. He is as capable as me at doing anything and in some cases more so!

I agree robyn sometimes i have to really try hard not to tell him off but it can be hard

my2angels wrote: Ive been struggling with this lately, i think we are at that stage where we take each other for granted and dont really appreciate each other. I try not to nag and tell him off like I would the children. I try not to moan and b*tch at him the minute he gets in the door and I try not to be jealous that he has been at work all day, having adult conversation, having a coffee or even lunch in peace without fingers trying to steal his food or fighting and just be happy he came home to us at the end of the day cos to be honest some days I wouldnt want to be coming home to me!

that is so true! has made me think about what it must be like coming home to me and the kidlets.... poor dh some days!

i think BSDH is asleep on bed watching tv....hes had a hard day on the water....!

actually they broke the boat so am just leaving him alone....LOL....well apparently is was already broken but.....

Interesting thread

It's funny because in some ways I am a "traditional hausfrau" and like to try and make DH realise that I do appreciate his working "for us". I get up and have brekkie with him and try not to be too bitchy I often sneak little notes into his pockets or lunch box or bag saying I love him or Thank You or I'm proud of him. I cook dinner every night and have it ready for when he comes home, we clean the house together on a Saturday morning (especially at the moment where I am finding it harder and harder to move with my bump ) but this is something we also did before children when I was working full time too, I do all the tidying, washing etc. but don't really mind.

On the other hand... some days I do get really "jealous" of his "time out" at work and am bitchy as hell when he gets home LOL, and some days I just can't be bothered doing everything and I think that is OK too.

I think it is important to show your love, appreciation and respect BUT not in a way that diminishes your own self worth. My hubby knew what he was getting when we got married, LOL, I'm not changing now