cheating husband???

Firstly big hugs
It's possible he says he's not cheating because he hasn't done the actual deed - it's funny how guys think. Maybe try and have a chat to him once you are calm and ask him exactly what is going on.
Can't think of much else at this time so just big hugs really

ETA: fixing spelling errors. Big hugs again

Edited by yummymummy

Big hugs and I too hope he is totally honest about it when you talk about it

Hunny big hugs to you, glad you have got a friend coming over today to see you , It's hard when your world comes crashing down aye! You'll get through this one way or the other whatever the outcome you have your precious wee boy to think about, If you are going to stay together then maybe some counselling through the family courts would be good you get 6 free.

No matter what the outcome I hope you're ok.

This is my honest outlook on the whole thing, but it's not to say I know for sure about your own situation....I hope for your sake it's not true...

One thing I have learned about this kind of thing is that your gut instincts are usually right..Usually there are more signs around cheating than just the texts, and if you have other suspicious things happen which come to mind it will probably all fit into place.

I was in the same situation too with my ex...He always tried to hide his mobile and would fight tooth and nail for me not to get it off him. He also denied denied denied!! The other girl also denied at first but couldn't deny it when I caught him at her house!!! (Yes I did lots of digging!). But I had to know for sure and not just end an 8 year relationship on a theory..

For me, I would ask DH to sit down and discuss what's happened. Even if he feels it's nothing, YOU don't and because of that, he should want to address it. Explain to him how you feel, and you want to know what has happened.

I'm really sorry, but if he managed to break his phone getting it off you, then it can't be as innocent as all that, and he obviously knows it, or he'd have just let you see for yourself.

Sometimes, the reality of what someone is doing and where it could lead, and the associated huge fright in the face of possible consequences is enough to get life back on track forever.

I'm thinking of you, and desperately hope that there is a resolution for you. I'm so sorry you're going through something so awful.

You will come out this at the other side still in one piece and we will all be here for you no matter how the tunnel looks or the path you have to take.

I hope that you are able to have a sit down with hubby and chat to him and perhaps come to the bottom of this.

Awm hun, that completely sux.  Whether he has cheated or not, that's a helluva lot for you to go through trying to get to the bottom of it. 

...how much effort does it take to break a cellphone?!?  Was it the kind of thing that could have easily happened accidentally, or did he put in an effort to bend the SIM card?  Cause if he did, ruining his phone must have seemed the better option than having his wife read what was on it.  Hugs to you, girl, because whether he has been unfaithful or not, it's not fair on you to have to question it. 

Thanks everyone... You are all so supportive. It helps..

Hubby at work today but wehave talked and he has admitted that he has crossed the line but has not even met this lady as yet. Im still waiting for proof in which he is trying his best to get right at this moment.

If its not good I will look at that path if that happens and if it is just the texting etc then we will look at trying with counselling etc and see if we can get over this hurdle but will be the last time.

I still cant sleep!!! Need some sleeping tablets... Hoping he comes home this arvo from work to sort this out... Im a bit worried cos part of the text i did read was telling thsi lady he cant wait till the afternoon meaning today and keep up the energy. he says he has a training session on which he cant get out of but Ive asked him to come home . Took a bit of persuading but I think hes going to now since I told him I was feeling a bit insecure about the lady on phone.

I dont believe he is actually having an affair , well not in person anyway..

MY hubby just does not seem that type of guy.. We have had a great relationship apart from the sex life since Jaxon arrived, lol but other than that we are happy and he says hes not concerned.

I dunno Im starting to look into it a bit more I think... I better wait and see if he can get these texts or give me her number...

 

I'm sorry to hear what has happened.. i hope it all works out..but if he was planning on meeting her without telling you 'he cant wait till the afternoon meaning today'

or does that say meaning today? either way he has betrayed your trust and the counselling sounds like a good idea.. as others have said personally I would trust my gut feeling but breaking the phone and 'trying to get the info back' sounds very suspect:(
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i hope it works out for you and your family though..!