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kellverona 
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Posted: 26 November 2007 at 4:12pm |
tonight...
Im pretty nervous actually...
I wonder what they do??
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AnnC
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Posted: 26 November 2007 at 4:19pm |
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oh good luck i hope it works for you all
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Posted: 26 November 2007 at 4:23pm |
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Good luck, don't be nervous they are there to help.
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Posted: 26 November 2007 at 4:23pm |
i have no idea what they do....probably just sit and talk i guess.....good luck hun!! and good on you both for going 
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Posted: 26 November 2007 at 7:24pm |
Good luck Kelly, i'm sure it will help you a lot.
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Posted: 26 November 2007 at 7:26pm |
Hope that tonight goes well and helps you guys on the road to getting things back on track.  will be thinking of you and big pat on the back to you both for doing something about it all.
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Posted: 26 November 2007 at 8:15pm |
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Hope everything goes well tonight I was actually thinking how things were going for you this morning and yay for both of you going and doing something about.
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Posted: 26 November 2007 at 8:15pm |
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Hope tonight went well.
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Posted: 27 November 2007 at 7:23pm |
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How'd it go?
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Posted: 27 November 2007 at 8:08pm |
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Hope the counselling was worth while Kelly. Big hugs. Really hope you are able to sort things out between you.
Slightly off topic/ and slightly thread jacking (sorry kel )- has anyone attending a relationship course / couselling or whatever they called, before there is an actually "issue/problem",...like to help open lines of communication etc? Was iy any good etc? Where do u go? TIA
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Posted: 27 November 2007 at 8:19pm |
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i did it after a problem(his problem not mine..long story) and initially i was quite annoyed that she implied i needed to change a bit too..but she was right i needed to learn to listen more and it really really helped with our communication..our relationship is a million times better...partly due to a fabulous councellor though...
personally i would recommend it before a problem..would have been great for us!
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Posted: 27 November 2007 at 9:08pm |
 Kellz wrote:
Slightly off topic/ and slightly thread jacking (sorry kel )- has anyone attending a relationship course / couselling or whatever they called, before there is an actually "issue/problem",...like to help open lines of communication etc? Was iy any good etc? Where do u go? TIA |
We had to do pre-martial counselling before our pastor could agree to marry us...he was the one who took us through it.
Highly recommend it.
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Posted: 27 November 2007 at 10:29pm |
Best of luck for you and your family....
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Posted: 28 November 2007 at 9:56am |
Hope it went well, Kellie - good on you for going, too. Sometimes counselling seems to make things feel a bit worse before they get better, so don't kick yourself if that happened, heaps of people find that's how it goes!
Kellz, we did pre-marital counselling with our pastor - it was pretty good (though could have gone further, I think). The course was one that heaps of people offer - called "prepare" or something like that - anyway, it's a course designed for couples about to marry who have not yet lived together, and the creators of it also have others for people already married, one for people living together, one for blended families, etc, etc - I think the one for married folk is called "enrich". Maybe a local church would be able to tell you who offers it?
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Posted: 28 November 2007 at 10:01am |
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Hope it went really well! :hugs:
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Posted: 28 November 2007 at 11:48am |
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How did it go Kellie?
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Posted: 28 November 2007 at 1:36pm |
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kellz....my Dh isn't really that into the church so our place wasn't church related and was really good..
9and free for 6 sessions) just letting you know there are heaps of options..
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Posted: 28 November 2007 at 1:42pm |
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cool thanks everyone,...sorry again for thread jacking!
I hope it went well Kellie.
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Posted: 28 November 2007 at 3:33pm |
Hey everyone.. The session went well until i burst into tears when i had to explain why we were there...
Anyway we both feel it went well.. We are going back for a few more sessions and working on a few different goals... First is open communication...
and then the trust thing and also Im continuing alone to help with my low self esteem... help me become a sronger person.
Hubby and I are feeling alot closer than we have ever felt which feels great...
Looking forward to next session in 2 weeks time...
Thnaks everyone
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Posted: 28 November 2007 at 3:34pm |
also we are making an effort now to try and organise some time alone together...
Bring the romance back into our relationship///
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got our first marriage counseling session
