Do you feel like ur DH’s mother?

*sorry this is a bit ranty*

Do you ever feel like your DH's mother?

I do all the washing in the house (semi fair enough) but what really annoys me is when I do a load every day that is 3/4 full and then DH will dump a whole pile of clothes to be washed in the laundry on the weekend. Grrrrrrr! I told him I won't go looking around the house for his dirty washing. I'm not his maid but it's really pissed me off that he does this every weekend, if he put the clothes there each day then I wouldn't have an extra load to do. And he will never think to put the washing on himself.

He cleaned the kitchen this morning. But the rest of the house is a mess and will he clean that, no he won't. If I start cleaning then he might help but I'm sick of doing 80% of it and he will only sometimes do a little and only if I'm doing it. I'll clean the house mid week by myself and when he gets home he walks in with his shoes on which brings bits of dirt and crap in the house, then leaves them lying around, I do most of Daniels night time routine, he will dry him and leave me to it. Then after dinner leave his plate sitting on the couch or the floor (wtf?!)a nd I end up picking it up in the morning otherwise Daniel plays with it and makes a mess with it.

I don't think I've ever seen him mop.. vaccum maybe 5 times since Daniel has been born.

Why can't men just get off their butts and think about what needs to be done in the house and do it by themselves?

It annoys me even more because we have always had an arrangement that these types of things should be 50/50 because we both are busy and both enjoy our own time.

Even outside the house where we have a deal that he does the lawns. He will leave it for 6 weeks and usually longer than that so its like a paddock rather than a lawn and only gets off his butt when I tell him all week that it needs doing then it finally gets done.



I need sleep!

And yes I am going to "discuss" this with him. But when Daniel is in bed.

Edited by kebakat

Yep. And what you typed could easily be something I would have typed. I agree it would be awesome not to have to ask for things to be done, or have to repeat things you have asked to be done. It's a wonder I'm not a lezzie.

Dh does the exact same thing with the washing,he doesn't put anything in the basket until the weekend, so I have a whole weeks worth of socks and boxers and his work uniform.  Then he has the nerve to get pissed at me if I haven't washed his uniform.  I have said numerous times to him, if the uniform isn't in the wash on Friday night it won't get washed.  Conor knows the rules, he knows he has to put his uniform in the wash after school on a Friday.

My only suggestion to you is to stop doing his washing.  Wash yours and Daniels.  As for the housework, suggest to him that perhaps he would like a roster system or even a list system!  They dont know how to use their initiative.  Tell him if he doesn't improve you will start treating him like a child.

My DP is lazy and you know why? cos like many boys hes a mummys boy, sorry to be blunt but its true .
Honestly from the patients ive seen, men and teenage boys, you should see the way their mothers mollycoddle them , actually no, you shouldn't,its disturbing , i mean 17 and your mum holding your hand? WIMPS ...anyway, my DPs mother has admitted to me that she has always done everything for DP , good on her, doesnt mean i will

Grant will do the lawns but sometimes I actually have to "ask" him to please do it. He doesnt want me to touch the lawnmower. Housework? Ha ha ha ha I think he will do the dishes about twice a year if that. He will do the vacuuming about every 4 months and that is when I ask. He doesnt even make the bed if he sleeps late (granted he would have been called out during the night adn is tired). He does however clean the shower after he showered.

His mom while she was here made him coffee the whole time and commented that her poor boy work so hard and I cant even make him coffee. Well if I start doing that too I will literally be his slave and I am not about to start doing that at all. He does however help with McKayla and do nappies ect but I sometimes really would appreciate some help over weekends with the house.

Pearls wrote: I can't really add much except to say I agree with the list idea - I think most men need to be told, rather than expected, as far as housework goes. Half the time DH is the one reminding *me* to do stuff!

Lol same here I am always behind on any sort of cleaning so Ben has to come home and help me. I feel bad cos I know its my job but oh well.

DH is exactly the same regarding mowing the lawn. he hates doing it and I have nag and nag for it to get done...grrrrr.

kebakat wrote: The stupid thing about the lawn is that he says he likes doing it but he still doesn't do it

Call his bluff and tell him, if he doesn't want to do it that you will take money out of your budget to pay someone.  Worked for me

Omg I feel your pain!!!

Just had an argument with my DF tonight about housework, all I asked him to do is carry the washing basket to the laundry for me, I had to ask him 4 times cos he was sitting there itching his feet like mad man(has a heat rash thing) and in the end I was like FINE ILL DO IT MYSELF, so I did, then AFTER I had loaded the machine he comes in and I was like well theres no blimmin point being in here now Ive done it myself grrrrrrrrr

Now he is doing the dishes, if I get the vacummne cleaner out I wonder if he will offer to do it for me......hmmmm

MEN!

Sheza, damn right he should be doing the vacuuming, you certainly shouldn't be!