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kellverona 
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Posted: 25 May 2008 at 9:02pm |
Okay this might sound really silly but my son is almost 21 mths and I have never been away from him for a night yet... I am just dreading it.. I am soooo attached to him its not funny.. I just dont want to be apart from him.. I am with him 24/7. I do enjoy it as he is such an angel. We have so much fun together..
Is there anyone else out there like me or am I the only one??
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Kellz
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Posted: 25 May 2008 at 9:03pm |
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If u are dreading it, then why are u doing it?! You are soo not the only one! I seem to moan about isla a lot, but I hate being away from her!
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kellverona
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Posted: 25 May 2008 at 9:06pm |
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Hiya Kelly, Hubby and friends feel I need a girls night away and there is one that has been organised next month... Would like to go but yeh dreading leaving my lil man.. He will be in good hands with his Daddy but I will miss him sooo much...
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Posted: 25 May 2008 at 9:06pm |
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OMG I must be a hard Biarch! I can quite happily leave my kids. They quite happily go and stay where they are directed too.
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Posted: 25 May 2008 at 9:07pm |
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I didn't leave Charlotte overnight until our wedding night! She was 23 months. I have only left her over night on 2 other occasions since then- every time it isn't as bad as I think its going to be and I wind up having a good time, but I still miss her terribly and worry the whole time!
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kellverona
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Posted: 25 May 2008 at 9:08pm |
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haha we ended up taking Jaxon with us on our wedding night when he was 6 mths old...
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Posted: 25 May 2008 at 9:11pm |
I'm like Mel. I can quite happily leave my children, but I do like to know they are safe, so they usually go to the inlaws.
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I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived!
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Posted: 25 May 2008 at 9:16pm |
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There is no way I could go out of town for the night without Isla!
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Posted: 25 May 2008 at 9:18pm |
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Aboslutely nothing wrong with feeling like that. The first night I was away from Jack was when Caprece was born.
Maybe have a special day with Jaxon before you go? You could plan to ring just before he goes to bed and then concentrate on having a good time?
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Posted: 25 May 2008 at 9:23pm |
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i too am a hard biatch ,C has stayed over night at her fathers since she was 2 or 3 months old.
She has gone down to wellington (with her nana , but still , away from me ) since she was 2 and a half and has gone 3 times to australia for a week , also without me.
Hasn't done her any harm, hasnt done me any either, just makes seeing her again more exciting.
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Posted: 25 May 2008 at 9:24pm |
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I think i would cry if I spoke to him on the phone, lol.. but yeh I will be happy once I know he is in bed sound asleep for the night so I would prob just give DH a quick txt or a call...
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Posted: 25 May 2008 at 9:27pm |
 caitlynsmygirl wrote:
i too am a hard biatch ,C has stayed over night at her fathers since she was 2 or 3 months old.
She has gone down to wellington (with her nana , but still , away from me ) since she was 2 and a half and has gone 3 times to australia for a week , also without me...and i know shes great staying with other people, cos its nothing different for her .
Hasn't done her any harm, hasnt done me any either, just makes seeing her again more exciting.
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Of course, it was different for me, her father and i werent together and i wanted him to be as involved as possible ,so didnt have much choice.
Just remember he'll be fine with his dad, and you can always take your phone and organise a time DH HAS to call you .
And hate to say it , but Jaxon will probably just fall asleep and wont even miss you :-P, wont do him any long term damage or anything .
Annnnd if you really miss him , you can always cut the night short, your friends might be miffed but if they are your real friends , they will at least try to understand .
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Posted: 25 May 2008 at 9:28pm |
weird , i just quoted myself, what a dumb as* 
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Posted: 25 May 2008 at 9:35pm |
lol... Im going to be about 3 hrs drive away.. and all going in the one vehicle but yeh Im sure he wont even miss me at all..and probably wont even notice me coming home. hehe.. I think once I have done it once it will just get easier...
I just know wen he gets really upset he always wants me... and thats all I can think about... but I guess if Im not there he wont want me. if you know what I mean...
Im such a sook!! lol.
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Posted: 25 May 2008 at 10:10pm |
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Michaela's nearly 26 months old and I've never spent a night away from her either.
I've been out for 3 girls nights since she was born but I've always made sure I've organised transport home and never stayed out past 1am.
I can count the number of times in her life that she's been babysat on one hand (2 x weddings, 2 x when we moved house then went back to clean our old house the next day & 1 x when we moved my MIL). She's never been babysat for more than a few hours at a time.
DH & I are very clingy parents.
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Posted: 25 May 2008 at 10:31pm |
kellverona wrote:
lol... Im going to be about 3 hrs drive away.. and all going in the one vehicle but yeh Im sure he wont even miss me at all..and probably wont even notice me coming home. hehe.. I think once I have done it once it will just get easier...
I just know wen he gets really upset he always wants me... and thats all I can think about... but I guess if Im not there he wont want me. if you know what I mean...
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awww 3 hours is different, they should go easy on you ...ease you into it :-P, does it HAVE to be 3 hours away?
my friend was the same , she was always worried about her daughter waking up and crying for her, so she didnt go out until her daughter was 3 (and then the night she does go out ,she witnessed her sisters boyfriend get killed  )
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Posted: 25 May 2008 at 10:52pm |
I'm hard, in fact last night I went out with friends as DH is away and shipped the little tike off to my Mums for the night 
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Posted: 25 May 2008 at 11:49pm |
my "baby" is going to australia for 8 days in July ...im more jealous than anything else
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Posted: 26 May 2008 at 8:34am |
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No you are definately not alone. I had left McKayla however. Two nights for about two hours while we attended a course. I leave her a lot with her Daddy when it is exams or want to pop out to shops. Then left her when I went on the mommy's evening out and I think everyone remembered me having a hard time with that. It is easier these days as I leave her quite a lot with Playcentre stuff ect but that is easy as she is with her Daddy. I find it more difficult when it isnt with him and someone else.
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Posted: 26 May 2008 at 12:02pm |
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I've left Joshua with my inlaws maybe about 5 times overnight. The first time was horrendous - I had a work christmas do which started at 12pm so he was there from mid-morning til the following morning. I phoned about 10 times to make sure he was ok, and was at my inlaws by 10am, absolutely beside myself!
Now, I'm ok leaving him over night, but I by the next day I am getting twitchy wanting to see him.
We've had people babysit him while we've gone out to dinner, and I don't mind that at all. And it's always family who babysit, so they love it, he loves it - win/win situation!
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