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jimbob 
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Posted: 07 November 2009 at 1:51pm |
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how do you deal with it? My 25 month old son has just started doing this, and always in a very dangerous or inappropriate place. It's very scary, and always unexpected - he'll be walking along very nicely with me, either holding my hand, or just beside me chatting away, and next hting you know he's dashed off sideways onto the road, or down a driveway, or this morning, on his bike out into the carpark. Eek - very scary!
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SMoody
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Posted: 07 November 2009 at 2:10pm |
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Okay I will give the answer that I will get a lot of flack from others:
Harness.
Seriously it is the best thing out there. Some kids will hold hands real nicely and then all of a sudden see something and just start running and it is easy to slip out of your hands. However with a harness and you holding their hand it is almost impossible for them to get away from you.
And speaking from experience it stopped my girl a few times of going out in the road, as well as stopping her from falling ect.
You get some of them that have a backpack at the back with animals on it. Google it.
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Posted: 07 November 2009 at 2:11pm |
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with a leash. Taine hated it, so we 'trained" him. Walking down the road, if he held my hand, he was okay, but if he took off- he got "the leash". we did this for a few weeks in our neighbourhood, and then he got the drift, we used the same techniques in more riskier areas - like town. we would also just put him in his pushchair - which he also hated.
When he was a bit older we played "stop, go" as in i would yell go, he would run off, then i would yell stop and he would freeze. both kids loved it and it stopped them running off completely.
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Posted: 07 November 2009 at 2:13pm |
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Yep, I agree-harness. I know some people don't think they are very PC, but it's better than having a flattened or lost toddler. They are too unpredicatable & too fast.
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Posted: 07 November 2009 at 2:55pm |
Harnesses are good, but if you can and he's ready for it talking to him, negiatoating with him, setting rules e.t.c
He may be a bit young for this around 2.5yrs - 3yrs is a good age. using praise and encouragement or rewards, works better when they are older.
Go with the harness 
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Posted: 07 November 2009 at 3:02pm |
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Just wanted to add-the harness we have for DS is a monkey backpack & the tail is the leash you hold. We got it off trade me. He loves wearing his monkey! It looks much better than just a regular leash too.
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Posted: 07 November 2009 at 5:11pm |
Yep I would get a harness .. although I dont really care what other people think about the "mother with her kid on a leash" 
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Posted: 07 November 2009 at 5:20pm |
 lilfatty wrote:
Yep I would get a harness .. although I dont really care what other people think about the "mother with her kid on a leash" |
Same here,
it means they cant get away and get hit or taken.
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RinTinTin
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Posted: 07 November 2009 at 5:41pm |
Yeah harness.
I had one when I was litle. Apparently, the story goes, that I tried to take off oneday in Auckland airport. Dad just stood stock still and I ended up hitting the deck. NEVER ran away again.
He'll learn pretty quick.
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Posted: 07 November 2009 at 5:46pm |
Retractable dog lead  Seriously....seen it done & congratulated the mum on a fabulous idea.
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Posted: 07 November 2009 at 5:51pm |
Jake did that once and got a firm spank on the bum and never did it again! But yeah a harness is a good idea (or retractable dog leash!!). We have one (harness not dog lead though we've used that once or twice too ) and on the odd occasion we've used it its been great.
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Posted: 07 November 2009 at 7:34pm |
Aliasmum wrote:
Retractable dog lead Seriously....seen it done & congratulated the mum on a fabulous idea. |
I often thought about this one too
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Posted: 07 November 2009 at 8:35pm |
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thanks all, am currently searching on trademe for one of the monkey backpack ones. Love the idea of the retractable dog lead....just don't think I could go through with it! Harness here we come though!
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Posted: 07 November 2009 at 9:29pm |
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Harnesses are WONDERFUL! I've just started using one with Thomas, he will pull his hand away from mine and take off quicker than i can catch him. Why should he have to be confined in a pram when the harness gives him safety :D We have a little sheep backpack which I put a latch on the back and did myself!
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Posted: 07 November 2009 at 10:12pm |
I bought a monkey backpack/harness for my nephew from K Mart a year ago. They had about 4 different styles. Not sure if they still have them or not, but worth a shot.
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Posted: 07 November 2009 at 10:28pm |
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I got one of the monkey bags off trademe, the boys hate it but I said if they don't listen when we are out they will have to wear it!
been good since
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Posted: 07 November 2009 at 10:34pm |
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i had a wrist strap for mine. i remember once going out and the boys argued over who got to wear it - they both wanted it!
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Posted: 07 November 2009 at 11:55pm |
and your 25 month olds would wear a leash???? Geeesh...my stubborn little so and so wouldnt.  i just have to trick and distract him throughout the whole walk so he doesnt get a chance to run off....and when he does, he gets a smack! I dont care what people say...in my opinion, thats a life and death situation when there are cars nearby.
but I have a very tight grip when needed too
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Posted: 08 November 2009 at 12:00am |
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i think that basically you have to just hold tight to them - wether it be a leash or hand - or put them in a pushchair or a bike with a handle for you to push. (cause a smack aint going to do much after the kids been hit by a car!)
they eventually do out grow it - my boy was a runner and he did. i usually kept him in a pushchair or held his hand when walking near roads or dangerous places.
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Posted: 08 November 2009 at 8:09am |
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I bought a puppy backpack harness & my toddler loved waring it, great for piece of mind & safety.
I never cared what anyone thought about a child in a harness, better that than a child hit by a car or lost at the shops & anyway there are some really cute ones out there.
It did not take long for my 2yr old to learn the rules of not running off & he now holds my hand when we are out & about, he is 3yrs.
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