Am I Wrong?

No contact from them is bad...

I went thru the hospital team with my first two pregnancies and they were fab! A much better experience than the independent mw i had thats for sure!

I think i would be on the look out for a new mw tbh....

Hope you are doing ok hun

Hi Tastic, so sorry to hear you are having such a tough time with your midwife/s. Whatever concerns you have you should be able to call them anytime and have them contact you back as soon as they can. I think it is really unacceptable that no-one has got back to you yet! I would say that if you are not 100% happy then look into another midwife.

With my first child I changed my midwife when I was 38 weeks. I felt like she wasn't worried about my concerns and just brushed things away when I asked.   I got a hospital midwife and she was just FANTASTIC. My new midwife even called my old midwife to tell her I wouldn't be needing her anymore e.t.c because I didn't feel confident ringing her. I felt like in the 3 weeks (went overdue) I got to know the new midwife I felt a better bond then I did with the old midwife.

I think if you have any bad feelings towards your midwife you need to sort it out because you need to feel 100% supported and trust your midwife.

Anyway, hopefully you can get things sorted and feel better *HUGS*

I think it's shocking not to get a reply, especially by now! Grrr. I've not really been classed as high risk either but my MW still contacted me ASAP whenever I texted or called her with concerns and I couldn't get hold of her straight away.

If you are uncomfortable with the level of care you are receiving then I would definitely think about changing MW.

Tastic wrote: Am I wrong to be really pissed off at my Midwife/s?

Nope not at all! I think the way you've been treated is terrible! If I've contacted my MWs they both contact me as soon as they can even if I've said its nothing urgent.

I'd look for another mw too.

I presume Trish's high risk ended at 27wks as that's when her prem boy was born previously HB. It would be different for every high risk mum due to their particular situation HB.

How are you getting on Trish - any decisions made?

thanks everyone.
HB - how horrible for your friend I really hope she doesn't get dropped like I did. because her baby ended up dieing she will most probably be classed as highrisk for her entire pregnancy

Aidan was born at 26w 5d and once I got past that I was no longer classed as high risk but get this. I had the 2 infections that I did which caused Aidans early arrival (strepB and ureaplasma) they didnt even do any tests or anything to make sure they had gone away. the OB I seen at the time was just a fillin so said yeah because Im past his gestation Im not highrisk now.
Ive been in hospital twice since then and both times the register has been highly upset that Im not being seen my an OB or more regularly from the mw
Like I say, I just feel on the back burner. Left to it . (and I even had the comment made that because Ive had two labours Id know whats going on!)

no decisions yet as have slept most the afternoon!
will make some phone calls in the morning

i do find it very bizarre they just dropped you..i dont get why you are suddenly not high risk..though i guess they wouldnt even test me and i had same infections as you:( all because i had not had a pre term..if i had they would have been in big trouble:(

that is terrible treatment, and i would be changing asap - you need someone to be supportive, and if they dont get back to you, they are of no use!!!

I was high risk for my first two DD's also, and was seen thru the hospital and used hospital midwives and I cant speak highly enough of the care i received, and there was someone on the end of the phone 24/7.