I need some man related advice!

So I have been seeing this guy for a couple of months. Not like boyfriend\girlfriend stuff, more just a casual thing. And we are both very happy with how it works with us.

At least we were. Until yesterday when I went and watched his vocal group performing at the Viaduct. I dunno, maybe it was just the situation at the time, but as I was watching him, I got this real rush of feelings.... I wouldn't say love, but a definite like a whole lot.

Now I'm not sure what on earth to do. Do I tell him, do I not tell him? Do I wait til I see him again and see if I still feel like this? Do I not seem him anymore? Aaaaaaaargh!! Because it is such a casual thing and we both wanted it like that I feel like I so should not be feeling like this.

Thanks everyone!

DP and I started out "just casual" and as great as it works for a while there will always come a point when you really start feeling more for that person. I think it's just a natural progression but I do think that is the point when you do need to re-evaluate your casual status to help save hurt feelings.
I would let him know that you do have feelings for him and maybe just talk about what casual means to both of you i.e. would you/he be upset if the other saw another person? Doesn't mean you have to be super serious or anything just make sure you are both aware or what each other expects from this arrangement. If you are on the same page then great if not then it may be time to call it quits before hearts get broken.

There's no reason not to carry on seeing each other only a few times a week though, even if you move things on from being "just casual" to being more exclusive or at least put it out there that you have feeling for him.

Eeek, nerve wracking though bringing it up. I would be too afraid to say anything and make a d*ck out of myself. BUT I get the impression from on here JR that you're not as sooky as me, so I reckon you will think of the right thing to say! Good luck!

Oh, believe me, I am a big sooky when it comes to matters of the heart LOL!

How's this for saddo behaviour... I've been perving on his facebook photos to see if my stomach goes all swoopy when I look at him like it did yesterday!

It does

DH and I started out "casual" as well...neither of us were interested in a relationship...

Oh go JR

Yeah, I'd talk to him about it. How to approach the situation, I'm not sure. I personally work well in written format cause I always balls up verbal stuff.

Personally though, if I were to find that he doesn't feel the same way, I would call it off to avoid my own feelings getting hurt. There is nothing worse than being with someone, wanting something more from them and knowing you can't have it.
I've had this situation before and I called it off, 3 months later we were back together as an "exclusive" couple. He just couldn't be without me apparently , but it took that break apart for him to realise it.

Oh you is in looooovvveeee!!! Or maybe in like!

Just go with it, for all you know he might be feeling the exact same way..

I would definitely not avoid seeing him just because you know your feelings have changed for him!

I dont' think you have to sit down and have a conversation about it just yet though... just enjoy being with him.

Yay you!

Awww, thanks you guys :-)

Yeah, Mel, I've just had a conversation with Jo and she gave me the exact same advice. She also told me to stop over-analysing stuff. Haha, think you two know me too well

So yeah, I think I'm just going to go with it for now. Its fab how it is, and if things get more... I dunno, emotional maybe then I think I won't need to say anything.

But gosh, its lovely to have a nice man to think about

And man oh man, but is he hot