What new mums want new dads to know...

I wish it were possible for guys to understand how exhausting all the "invisible" work is: pregnancy itself (especially first trimester when you can't see anything), and then the bf as well.

I also would like all new dads out there to know how important positive words are: from "you look beautiful" to "push honey, you're doing great" and even "you're a great mum". It makes a huge difference to life, especially as a SAHM (whether that be for 2 months, a year, or forever!) (Thanks Babe, cause you've said all of them more than a few times! )

tashzmum wrote: and he made choc self saucing pudding for like 2 weeks every night.

He WHAT?!?! Does he and his cooking skills live anywhere near my place?? Yum!!!

Ok, I have lots to add as my DP has done so many things to annoy me and also so many things that are very helpful, so here it goes.

Morning sickness is not like that time last year when you felt a bit sick so you went outside for a walk in the fresh air and it magically disappeared forever. Morning sickness is there no matter what you do or do not do and no amount of 'brisk walking' in the heat of summer is going to make it go away and if you don't stop pestering me about getting some 'fresh air' I will purposely not make it to the bathroom the next time I have to puke, I will aim for your pile of washing that you have left in the middle of the bedroom because you're too damn lazy to help around the house you bastard.

Does that help? I have more..

OMG you SOOOOOO dont want to get me started here Emma.....

Well I can only comment about early pregnancy...

I so appreciate it when DH does the things I'm too darn tired or sick to do - like cooking dinner, doing the dishes, doing the shopping etc. And being understanding that my body is exhausted!! Sometimes he washed my hair in the bath when I was too tired to do it but I felt gross and dirty And not making me feel bad about asking for stuff I need. He also brings me breakfast before I get out of bed every morning so I don't feel as sick - that helps heaps.

I'm pretty lucky really, DH is awesome.

Eating is really important while bfing so watching the kids while mum gets breakfast can make a difference to the whole day.

Complaining about a sore wrist while your dp is in labour can make someone very

daikini wrote: The thing I seem to say the most often is: "I'm pregnant, not disabled!"

I totally agree, I was out mowing the lawns at 37 weeks pregnant and my elderly (but lovely) neighbour told me that I should be doing that in my state. I stopped and asked what state i'm not sick. He said but dear you are pregnant, you can't be doing things like that.

Oh my gosh where shall I start without taking over.

My pregnancy was pretty good, but I hated the leave it I will do it....you shouldn't do it in your state.

After I had bubs,  I was bed ridden for 2 weeks so DH had to do everything but that didn't mean if he spent 30 mins cleaning that he could then spend 1 hour playing Xbox....1 hour cleaning 2 hours Xbox ARGH

I did appreciate the company, I suffered from PND and no one knew what to say or do, but I had a good freind just show up to sit and talk, or to just sit. That was huge for me!

My outlaws showed up with a roast 1 day, heaps of meat and vege...fantastic  But maybe cleaning up after it all would have topped it off for me! Took us 2 hours to clean up the mess!  (no lies)

Sorry I have so much more.....1st time mum you know

I cant comment on what it will be like when the baby arrives but during pregnancy...

Dont expect us to be happy & chirpy all the time, even if we are happy to be pregnant! Recognise that its not as easy as people think, hormones are raging, you are exhausted, you have indegestion, constipation and a sore back.....so dont expect us to be the all singing, all dancing - show of happiness all the time!

Heres one, just because I'm resting when baby does dosen't mean I want to have sex.