Feelings

Hi Everyone

Well this is a tricky sort of question to ask. Im 18 weeks pregnant this Sunday and have been feeling baby fluttering since i was 15 weeks 4 Days, Im only 18 years old and me and my partner have a good relationship and have been together for awhile. Hes really excited about this baby and so am i . I love going out and buying some baby things every now and again and also feeling the baby flutter. We get to find out bubs sex this Thursday but for some reason, even tho i know there is a baby inside me and i can feel it move, i still cant feel that bond with it while it's inside me, i know it will be different when bubs is born around 16th April, but i feel really stink that i cant feel that great bond with bubs, i cant bring myself to read to my tummy or sing or any bonding things like that. Is this normal , and how do i overcome it ? I feel really bad for feeling like this, We already have some names picked and im really excited to be a mummy but just cant seem to bond with the baby atm ...

I can't really help because I feel the same. It's still 'the kid' or 'her' and we're on the final countdown. I did feel a bit closer after we found out what she was though, but still haven't been able to call her properly by any of the names we've come up with.

I don't think it matters if you read to them or not while they're in there. They still hear your voice as you go about your day, and at this point in your pregnancy I think they're only just beginning to hear that.

yeah i didn't do any of the reading/singing etc with DS either, and felt really stupid the few times i did try it!! even though you can feel the baby i remember it still feeling quite surreal until quite late in the piece, after i'd seen him on a couple of scans (the 3D one was awesome) and was getting really big kicks. don't stress hun, it'll happen

I wouldn't worry I think what you are feeling is what a lot of mums feel. Its not at all easy being pregnant and really it can feel strange and weird.
I know I thought the whole process was quite gross really while I was pregnant but after he was here for a week I couldn't have been closer to my little boy. So just relax and go with the flow I'm sure you'll bond and make your baby a lovely mum.

With my second , I forgot half the time that I was pregnant, the only time i would "talk " to my stomach with him , was when I was in the bath , but as soon as he was born , I felt the same as I had when my girl was born .

Good luck for your scan ! its very exciting finding out the sex, can we start taking bets? I say its a girl

And also, keep in mind tha some women don't even bond with their babies at the birth-it can take longer than that. When my son was born I immediately felt a great responsibility towards him & obviously I would never let anything happen to him, but it probably took me about 6 weeks to actually fall in love with him. I was worried because I didn't feel this immediate bond & immense love for him, but then I spoke to a lot of other mums who had the same experience. Some mums fall in love with their babies the moment they find out they are pregnant, some at the first scan, some at the birth, but for some it takes longer. You didn't fall in love with your partner at first sight, so why should it be that way with your baby?
After that first 6 weeks though I fell absolutely head over heels inlove with him & now I could never imagine being away from him.
So don't worry-it'll come. Give it time.

I was the same. Because of the type of person I am, I find it completely nuts to read or sing to your bump I would rub my tummy (sometimes, only in preg #2 when I had a bump) and say 'hi baby' and DH would make strange noises to make the baby move, but that's it.

I never really hade a huge connection with either baby in utero, but love them to bits now

I think some people are different, and most people aren't like that I've found (being completely in love with the bump and treating it like its an already-born baby).

Thank you girls :):) , this has helped alot and made me not think im a total nutta :D thank you soooo much :):)