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nikkitheknitter
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Posted: 01 December 2006 at 8:58am |
I'd not slap ya in a female toilet! I mean... there are doors for a reason. I'd be just as offended if a female watched me pee as a male
And go you!
Personally, I didn't mind who saw my boobs... I found the only guys that were gross about the whole breastfeeding thing were my own freaking friends! All other males used to look away or busy themselves with something else.
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pepsi
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Posted: 01 December 2006 at 9:01am |
pepsi wrote:
Yes, I also agree that parents rooms are for fathers too but the specific breastfeeding area should not be. In the instance of the mall we were at, there were two seating areas - one near the entrance by the microwaves and changing tables and the other in the back where the mothers go and breastfeed.. This guys girlfriend was the one who was breastfeeding the baby (and yes I believe he was probably the father of the baby) - but I'm not sure why he would be required to sit in that area? Surely he should have sat and waited in the other seating area?
I guess personally I would never expect my husband to sit there with me out of respect to other women. |
Yay a male member!! Welcome!! It will be great to have some fathers perspectives :)
Back to the topic of the thread, I would like to clarify what I have been saying as I think it has been misunderstood based on some of the responses. This is why I posted further details about the circumstances (above).
I didn't mean males shouldn't be in the parents room...of course fathers are parents too...I meant they shouldn't be in the breastfeeding area - which is separate to where the nappies are changed and yes, there is another seating area they can sit in to feed and relax as well..
Anywhoo...
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Paws
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Posted: 01 December 2006 at 11:24am |
I guess we're lucky in that one of parents rooms has a parent/child toilet in it so a guy wouldn't have to take his daughter into the mens or risk being slapped in the ladies.
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rug_nz
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Posted: 01 December 2006 at 11:45am |
Haha I kind of like the idea of a slappin  just to stir ofcause.
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mumandbubs
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Posted: 01 December 2006 at 1:37pm |
The parents rooms I've been in (I've only been in 3 or 4, after working in one for a year I'm no longer a fan of malls) have all been 'parents' and all but one had curtained off feeding areas. The other didn't have a specific feeding area.
I always took Adam in with me, he's used them by himself and there are toilets for littlies.
I always wondered about men and taking their little daugters into men's toilets, I know my dad did it a couple of times and it was ok (the urinal was a point of interest for me as a three year old though) better than leaving me to go alone.
Mums always take in their sons!
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busymum
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Posted: 01 December 2006 at 1:58pm |
I've only ever seen parents rooms which don't have separate areas for b/fing. It's one point which makes Palmy "small".
As for taking the toilet-trainee to the toilets, it's a bit confusing sometimes. Last time I went to toilet Hannah at The Warehouse she said "This is the wrong way, Daddy took me that way" lol. She's nearly 3 but she can't climb on without a stool... not that I'd want a 3yo going in alone
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BaAsKa
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Posted: 02 December 2006 at 11:23am |
I certainly wouldnt feel uncomfortable with a dad going in to feed or change his bubs i would just feel strange if it looked like a random guy doing nothing but sitting there!!
I think its really great seeing fathers go in a feed and change their bubs! my hubby threw up everytime he tried to change Bay so no help there!
Its awsome to see a dad on here too!!  welcome
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james
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Posted: 02 December 2006 at 3:08pm |
you guys are lucky we have one pernents room in dunedin in the mall or you can take your baby to maccers but the change table is upstairs  we do have curtain araes for b/feeding mums and if a dad had to come in it would,nt worry me a bit
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Posted: 02 December 2006 at 3:43pm |
If a man was in there I would assume he wouldn't be bothered by it so I'd whip my boob out. When we are out if there are males around I normally go somewhere else because I know my DP friends feel uncomfortable but they don't expect me to go somewhere in my own house.
I like the ones with cutains cos I think dads should feel comfortable in there and mums too who don't really wana see a boob.
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rug_nz
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Posted: 02 December 2006 at 11:24pm |
Thanks Baysmum, It's good to talk to adults.
I should go down to the Mall next week sometime and see what sort of reaction I get if I take Ash in to change her. I havent been in one by myself well with Ash that is. Henderson Westfield will be the place, hope its got a nice room.
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Bombshell
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Posted: 03 December 2006 at 8:34am |
Im going to go check out the parents room in every mall i go into now...might be kinda weird if people in there as no bubs but im so big now im sure people will understand...after reading this i think planning ahead will help too....it sounds like there are some great ones and some hopeless ones and as we are surrounded by malls i should suss them out now...
BTW welcome - a mans perspective will be nice. Esp that of a SAHD!!! My Dh would love to do that...and may be able to do one day a week when bubs is here...which i would love him to do!
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Posted: 04 December 2006 at 9:06am |
my panter comes in with me as long as we have the curtian ones
I mind be a bit dumb but what does SAHD stand for??
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KH25
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Posted: 04 December 2006 at 10:00am |
Nicola - SAHD = stay at home dad...
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rug_nz
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Posted: 04 December 2006 at 10:11am |
Ya bet me to it KH25
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Paws
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Posted: 04 December 2006 at 10:39am |
I think Henderson is a Westfield isn't it so it should have a decent parents room.
Don't be shy about using it rug_nz...I always get a kick out of seeing dads in them 'cos I love seeing dads so hands on!
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Posted: 04 December 2006 at 10:55am |
Paws wrote:
I always get a kick out of seeing dads in them 'cos I love seeing dads so hands on! |
Ditto !!
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Posted: 04 December 2006 at 11:41am |
I'm not shy when it comes to looking after my girl.
I just have never needed to go in one, she is #2's potty trained and her cloth naps are good for 3-4 hours, and remem I am a man and don't spend hours looking at shoes I can't afford and don't need to buy  haha.
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