Is 1 enough for anyone else?

Janine!

Yay am I glad I was the eldest! It's so good that family support is hugely increased since the 70's and 80's and even 90's though.

Ok so after much thought I am very dissapointed with myself for getting into a catfight (for want of a better word) this morning so I have now deleted my post's as I no longer think it is nessary for anyone else to read them. I feel really awful that I was part of the first ever on oh baby thanks Janine for making me aware.
Sorry again
Deb.

Isn't it funny tho how much 70's stuff is back in and all the "kids" of today think its just great? Ugh!!!

I was an only child and always got lovely new things! I only had one older boy cousin so never got hand me downs. Much to my Mums disgust I always chose "favourites" like my teenage mutant ninga turtle T shirt I wore practically non-stop for a whole year!

Couple of things you have to be aware of in only children is that it is easy to spoil them. I still struggle with money as I find it really hard to grasp that you need to work for it as I just got handed it as a child. Not to put too much pressure on them. Because they are your only off spring it is easy to want them to be the best at everything- luckily I excelled under that pressure (a real keen-to-pleaser here!) but some kids with different personalities may struggle with it. Aaand last but not least- get them out and about with other children lots. I still have major sharing issues and can be quite selfish at times- I have to really work on it not to be. I had a cousin I grew up with and was very close to, and always had friends over which helped.

In saying that I absolutely loved being an only child and wouldn't have it any other way. I have a really close relationship with my parents and never felt like I missed out by not having siblings.

LOl kinda glad i missed all of that...but had wondered how this thread got so huge so fast!!! LMAO!!

well seeing as no surrogate offers (tee hee) Im guessing our gap will be a year or so....I need to be back at work 6 months before leave etc again so need at least a year back...and will probably take me that long to lose bubs weight!
I always felt sorry for the kids I nannied for in states...he was nine months when his mum got pg with the baby...and he was still in need of his mum a lot yet she had baby to deal with too....so no nine month gap for me...and if god forbid that does happen then at least i am aaware of the difficulties of that kinda age gap from first hand experience.
I woudl still love three kids...but might need to aim for twins next time...Emma - might come to u for advice on that one next...LOL!

I would be a surrogate mum for you but unfortuantely i dont do the growing babies part very well. Horrible pregnancy, gestational diabetes, big babies, prem babies etc.... Imagine that, handing over someones newborn baby 'heres your baby but sorry you cant take it home yet cos its got problems thanks to my diabetes and your going to have to watch bubs get pricked with a needle every three hours and have lots of other tests' I wish i had nice pregnancies cos I would love to be a surrogate mum.
On the how many kids issue, cant remember if I added my two cents worth but I came from a big family and loved it, its even better now we are all older with kids of our own. My hubby only has a sister and the difference in family values etc... is very noticable. Money was always tight in our family but i dont really remember wanting for anything.

I think you have to be careful with spoiling at any age tho I am from a family of 3 girls (22, 20 me, 16) and we were very spoiled I have trouble spending money too and found it very hard when I moved out of home as I didn't know how to do very simple things like peel potatoes or work the washing machine.

However like Jen said I had the most fun childhood.

I said Rhyley would be the last but been thinking - will he? ?I am pretty sure he will be as i did not enjoy my pregnancy nor birth and at present Rhyley very wakeful during night so good medicine to put me off, but then again Rhyley is my third and so different to you. personal choice i say. my cousin is an only child my aunt and uncle didn't want anymore so stopped and there is plently only children outthere.