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IVFGirl1111 
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 Posted: 01 December 2008 at 4:06pm |
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As long as you give her enough notice - then she just has to be fine with it. Maybe you need to do the tough love thing with her.
Maybe tell her now that you guys are moving out in the new year?
Doesnt help though that your DH doesnt like your Mum, that doesnt help :(
But you want to restore your relationship and keep wee Kaylah happy - so I say MOVE before its to late!
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MissCandice
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Posted: 01 December 2008 at 4:30pm |
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I really do want to work on our relationship and its just not working here. Our relationship and Kylahs wellbeing is more important than anything to me.
I spoke to mum before and told her that id help her find a place in the new year and that DP and i would get a place.
So January it has to be as i start tech in febuary and wont have the time to move.
Yup we could find a rentl here for about $220 thats 2 bedrooms. Then around $100 for food and power will be small. So about $50 more a week and we could have our own place. So im going to start looking. We just dont have a bond :(
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caitlynsmygirl
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Posted: 01 December 2008 at 5:29pm |
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Talk to winz Kandice, see if there is anything you would be entitled to as far as bond goes from them .
Good luck , you wont regret it , you'll probably find you feel more like a family unit in your own place
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Candkids
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Posted: 01 December 2008 at 6:18pm |
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been there done that ( apart from the blind part)
its your life and you have to do what you think is best for your family not what your mum thinks is best, yea she'll get sh*tty at you but im sure she will get over it, my mum did
id give her a few weeks notice and explian that youd really like to be out on your own etc and that she will still see kylah all the time
im sure in the end she will see it from your point of view
perhaps she could get in a few of the asian student borders??
they pay really good $$$ and some of them are fantastic! my mum had 1 for a few years.
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MrsH
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Posted: 01 December 2008 at 6:55pm |
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Pffft... Mothers eh... can't live with 'em, can't live with 'em.
Surely she managed before you were living there, so I'm sure she'll manage once you move out. Either you guys cost her $300 to be there or she has adjusted her lifestyle to suit all this money coming in. If that's the case, she'll just have to adjust it back again.
Remember to let her know that it's nothing personal (even though it really is) so that she's not all paranoid and angry about it. And if she guilt trips you, try to ignore it.
Aargh.. Mums.
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