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ellen 
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 Posted: 03 February 2009 at 7:07pm |
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Common courtesy to ask. I don't think it's unrealistic for them to expect you not to bring your baby, especially if they have no children themselves - quite possibly haven't even thought about the breastfeeding issue for you? If they don't want children at the wedding they would also have to accept that you may not be able to attend, which would be a shame, but at the end of the day it's their day, their choice.
You would hope though that they would realise a 4 month old baby would be pretty unobtrusive and as long as it wasn't making noise through the ceremony and speeches that it wouldn't be a problem.
Hope you get to go! Weddings are so much fun.
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mummyofprinces
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Posted: 03 February 2009 at 7:42pm |
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Like everyone else has said, just ask. If bubs cant go, then unfortunately you may have to pass on the wedding.
Personally, I would not expect a mum to leave behind her baby unless she wanted to. My 9 month old neice was at our wedding and we have some gorgeous photos of her in her pretty wedding day dress. That said I did invite everyone's children... I feel weddings should be a family affair, but only my neice came in the end.
You may find that they expected you would bring bubs.
Good luck.
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caitlynsmygirl
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Posted: 03 February 2009 at 7:44pm |
 ellen wrote:
Common courtesy to ask. I don't think it's unrealistic for them to expect you not to bring your baby, especially if they have no children themselves - quite possibly haven't even thought about the breastfeeding issue for you? If they don't want children at the wedding they would also have to accept that you may not be able to attend, which would be a shame, but at the end of the day it's their day, their choice.
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I agree with this , its just common courtesy to ask .
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JoJames
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Posted: 04 February 2009 at 8:45am |
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Well I emailled her and shes fine with him being there so thats good cause he's being such a toad lately. Thanks everyone
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sweetpea
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Posted: 04 February 2009 at 11:43am |
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Just to put my two cents worth in here. Like the other ladies have said i would most definmatley ask especially if the name of kids aren't on the invite. An option to consider is if the respetion is at a hotel there maybe baysitting service avaliable where someone can wsatch bub while you are having a good night you can still go in and feed when required.
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Bobbie
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Posted: 04 February 2009 at 12:12pm |
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Lucky you! When Rowan was 3 months we had to leave her with my mum to go to a wedding (originally they said we could bring her so we RSVP'd for both me and DH and then they changed their mind).
Luckily it wasn't too bad but I did have to go home between the ceremony and the reception to feed her and then had to leave by 9:30pm as I felt like my boobs would explode.
Oh and I was so unimpressed to get there and see a 12 month old running around. So much for no babies.
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Chickoin
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Posted: 04 February 2009 at 1:48pm |
That's so annoying Bobbie! We went to a wedding a few years ago that stated on the invites that kids were not invited. A lady turned up with her daughter (about 8yrs old?) and boy did they get stared at!
Jo, yay that your friend said it is ok :) I will be looking forward to pics in our thread 
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minik8e
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Posted: 04 February 2009 at 7:03pm |
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Funny you say that...I just had a message from a guest who said they weren't coming. Now she's thinking of coming WITH their son (who will be 15 months old and is NOT breastfed), because apparently as we aren't paying for the babysitters so people can leave their kids at home, we should just put up with it. Oh, and she doesn't mean to be a bi*&h, she's sure other people feel the same. I replied that no, we're not paying for the babysitters, however we are paying for the whole wedding and therefore it's our decision, not hers. And our family's children aren't invited, so no-one else's children are invited or welcome either. This was from the partner of one of DF's friends (who was kind of invited due to history - they're not so close anymore).
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Bobbie
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Posted: 04 February 2009 at 7:18pm |
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oh my gosh Kate that is *so* rude. There's a huge difference between a small baby and a toddler at a wedding IMHO. I think you said exactly the right thing.
ETA: And I would not even take a small baby if they said no kids without checking first.
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Posted: 04 February 2009 at 9:49pm |
We have just been to a wedding last weekend and our 4 and half month old was not invited. He is exclusively breastfed and at first I was not going to go as I did not want to leave to feed DS or have him starving if the sitter missed his cues. The wedding was at a Hotel and my parents decided to rent a room as all family was invited, so we had the sitter be in the room with DS so he was close for feeds. It worked out well in the end the sitter took him for walks and for a drive after his feeds and he was very happy 
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