what would you do in this situation?

If a parent seems to be ignoring or not noticing I will sometimes move their hand away or tell them no - but I'm probably quite 'gentle' in my approach. If I was the other mother in this situation I would have actually moved my child out of reach of your bubba. 1yos don't really have much clue, they don't mean to hurt and they don't really understand 'no' too well. So it's a tricky one, but moving your DD out of the way seemed to be the best thing you could have done.

I agree with Busymum, I would just say "no" and move Lucy away or distract the other bubba

at our last coffee group ella was given a bumbo to sit in - but the little boy who is 1 knew it was his...well he pushed ella a bit, his mum intervened and i was grateful but she told me to just tell him off etc if he got too rough...i didnt want to do that - thats her job...so i picked up ella as well!

Id leave it to them to discipline their kids...and us to ours...

I would have done the exact same as you but also told the other child that it is not nice to hit or push and use gentle hands, we are trying to teach Sienna all about gentle hands at the moment as she can get a bit rough I don't think that she means to but I figure the earlier I start the better it will be.

I hate it when other mums don't seem to do enough to stop their childs behaviour. Jack can be a bit rough at playgroup but I always remove him from the situation.

ditto liz....i always tell jack to apologise when he gets abit rough and tell him it's not nice.
but if someone elses kid does that to mine without saying anything, i think i would say 'no, that's not a nice thing to do' and take my kid away.
but it depends on the situation as to whether i'd say anything.

Yes busymum right on the button...

I don't think he is a bully, but he definately is a boy!!!!!

 

i would of said something to the kid if the mother wasn't, although I read that she did but ignored when it was done again. I am all for ignoring the bed behaviour but there is a time and a place and not at the mercy of other children. So what imo and what I would of done is said in the nicest possible way to the kid that its not nice and it hurts Lucy and aww poor lucy and pick up lucy so that the mother sees its not ok. Because sometimes ppl don't care if their kid gets 'bullied' by another child as long as its not extremly hurting (does that make sense??) ie: rhyley had play date with two 'older' girls, there were times where he got toys taken off him by force some times and times where he nearly got hit with toys as they are walking he is not' Now it didn't bother me as he has to learn that some times things like that happens, but I did interveen when he was very happy with his little book and one of the girls took it off him, he looked very sad so I just said to the little girl - now Niamh give it back to Rhyley cause he was playing with it and swapped another toy' both kids happy,
now although they weren't hitting him I still took it upon myself to do the 'telling'off but very nicely cause really they are only just learning and a 1 year old can not realise that what they are doing is 'bad behaviour' they have to be taught.
Anyway thats my two cents worth I hope it made sense?!