I think my marrige is over

Sorry to hear that things are not going well for you.

It sounds like this has become a huge problem that the two of you may not be able to solve on your own. I agree with the suggestion of counselling. It may not work but at least you tried for yourself and your family and you can tell your kids one day that you did your best.   Having a teenager around must be really hard. Your DH probably doesnt know how to handle it so may learn some great tips/info from the counsellor to do with that as well as your relationship.

All the very best. I really hope it works out for you.

Oh Annie, I'm really sorry to read this sad post.

I'll send you a PM.

Hi everyone

Thanks for your kind words and thoughts. To be honest I just don't know anything anymore. I am going to apply thru the courts for some councelling, I think we need it, we had some issues before SS moved n and things just compounded.

The main thing is the fighting and N and his attitude and fight picking is affecting the little ones. Jake gets very upset, and as much as I try to reassure him I'm not mad or Dad or N isn't mad at him, its hard to know what goes on in their heads. Charlotte just crys and has become very very clingy.

Someone asked if I still love him, and to be honest, I just don't know anymore. I don't know if its just my anger and hurt clouding over things or what at the moment. I just want it to be good again, and if I'm honest for DSS to patch things up at his mothers and go back, but I know that is never going to happen and I just have to suck it up. He is here for good and I have to learn to live with it, this is the new normal for us now. He is on school holidays now, and I am praying he gets a job, or I am scared I will go postal by the end of the holidays.

I know alot of it is my selfish issues, but I am really struggling. Like I said we wee very rocky beofre DSS moved in. I said to R last night I felt he cared more about his ex wifes marriage problems than his own at the moment.

Agh. I hate this.

Thinking of you too , being a step parent is the hardest job in the world especially to teenagers! So I take my hat off to you, I have a step daughter who is 16 but we hardly have seen much of her since she hit the teens as she now has a social life. We have been through a few ruff patches in our marraige and have had time apart on two ocassions for about 6 months each time, the second time we did the counselling through the courts and it was very helpful, we have been back together for just over 2 years and while life will never be perfect it is alot better than it was before, has it's moments but we get there, wishing you all the best with the huge decisions you need to make and well done for talking about it

No advice for you, just some cyber hugs.

Same, have been thinking of you. I hope that things have improved somehow. Hugs

haven't seen you around for a while hun.......hope things are improving for you??

hugs hun