Absent Father

Thanks becca. Needless to say my return email was stright to the point asking him when he thought he would be over. No sympathy for his money worries as he only has himself to feed, house, clothe, entertain...i could go on......

hey emma they dont even know who he is. i dont talk about him cos i really have nothing to tell them and   because they wouldnt have a clue.
Was one of the things i wanted to talk to him about as I know he will be "upset" boohoo that they dont know who he is but I wanted to explain to him that if he wants to be known as dad then he needs to see them all the time.
And if hes not prepared to put in that effort then he has no right to be upset when i do meet a charming loving handsom rich man who loves me for all my good and bad points and loves my boys so much that he wants to be their father figure (well thats what i wish for each night but my bloody genie isnt doing to hot of a job)
Anyway i do think he will eventually get round to seeing the boys but i wish he would hurry up so i can get all this stuff off my chest!!

well gona have a moan now. The whole meeting the boys thing as yet has not happened. The last email i got was over a week ago saying he had been trying to ring over the weekend (previous weekend). Dont know how true that is as was away. Anyway he said he would come over last tuesday but i didnt get to send him an email until last tues so i suggested thursday (ended up being no good with the road closed anyway). Never heard back from him. Rang the number his dad gave me and left a message for him to ring but not sure if the right number.
So i feel like an idiot for thinking this time he would be a man and do the right thing. Im so angry at him for doing this again and mad at myself for gettng excited about it for the boys - I even had a couple of chats to them about who he was to get them ready.
I feel like sending him the snottyist (sp?) email about what an arse he is but i know that will get me nowhere although when I have calmed down I will send him one telling him I am abit mad and disappointed in him - once again.
I would so love to find him and give him a big kick in the goolies (if you know what i mean)

Just had to vent

thank you Maree. Its so great to hear that. I have been strong so far in not emailing him. Hopefully i can be in the future

oh marlene that suxs for u and the boys if uneed help with the kicking i,ll help ya

Marlene, my god he deserves a lot more than a kicking. I'm sure there would be a few of us here to give you a hand with it. It's with these situation that people like me are really lucky that we have the dad around and to fall back on to if things go bad.

I wish you all the best with the usually thing your boys have to call a "dad"

And how is this for an absent mother. My friend and her husband have his son from his past relationship. She has to have him (ordered by the court) every second weekend and 1 full week of the school holidays. He is to be picked up at 5pm at the designated place and dropped off at 5pm Sunday night. She won't have anything to do with my friend even thou she is his primary carer. She is the one that takes him to school, make his lunch, cleans up the tears and clood and scraps etc. She asked for his "birth mother" to give her a break and start dealing with the fact that she is now his mum. The "birth mother" turned around and said I am his monther I pushed his out. Does anyone else thing she is his mum just because she pushed him out??? - Touchy subject I know.

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