THANKS

so... one week on and victim support have NOT been in touch with my brother.

Neithe rhas his social worker, who SHOULD be aware of the situation after my phone call to them on monday night.

His work is going to set up councelling for him, people have been so good, but I just can't believe "the system" hasn't been in touch. The system our tax dollars go on. There is an investigation into the CAD person who turned her away last monday and there is a claim being put in thorugh ACC. I have told them to make a complaint through the health and disablitities commission, and they may go to the media at some stage as well. The whole thing was handled VERY VERY badly.

He is being very brave at the moment. We are still all numb and in shock. I have a new respect for him now I know the whole situation, and he is so far doing waaay better than I would have thought, but I know that probably won't last.

Today they were packing up their homes and he has moved into his friends place. They had the house blessed and it will go on the market at some stage.

Oh the hurt. And Mel, I am off to PM you now.

I can't believe that! It is so sad to know that the system has failed so badly for both of them. Thank God your brother has you all there supporting him and helping him to get the help he needs to survive this.
Big huge to you Annie. Thinking of you and your family xx

Annie, please let me know if there is anything I can do! I hate feeling so "helpless" and not being able to make it all better for you.

Just know that I am always just a phone call away, even if you just want to hang out, we don't need to talk about anything!

Hugs and love, you know you have all been in my thoughts all week.

Hi Jade. He lives in CHCH. Victim support got in touch with him last week, and he said they were great. maybe in hindsight last week was a good time as most people had floated back to their own day to day. He sounds ok, he has been at his DR getttign anti depressants and stuff, he knows what he has to do to keep healthy. He sounds logical and reasonable. I know it won't always be like that,though. He moves into his new place this weekend I think. I know he will find that hard, and I know he is also looking forward to being able to cry all the tme... its the being alone thing that worries me, but there isn't alot I can do at this time about that. I have faith his friends will see him through. he started back at work today, he said it felt pointless, but he needs to move forward a bit. Things are moving in regards to complaints mediations etc. He said the hardest thing is not knowing anyone who has actually found someone/a loved one dead like that. It's something he will never forget, I guess. He said he forgets she is gone, sometimes, like she is just away for a week or something and that he will have alot to tell her when she gets back. He said thats one of the biggest reasons he had to move, he would forever be waiting for her to come through the door. He forgets to do washing and stuff, thinking Oh ange will look after that.
Poor man.
Thanks so much for all the support on here, ladies.

God that is so heartbreaking.your poor brother.Im glad he has good support from you guys.I hope oneday something amazingly wonderful happens for him in his life.It will never heal the hurt and shock of what has happend but maybe after lots of time and tears and talking he may find a way to understand her decision.I know lots of people feel angry at suicide victims but they truly believe they are doing the rite thing and there isnt an option anymore.Its so sad.It leaves alot of guilt and sadness for those left behind.My love to you all in this time of sorrow and confusion.Im sure she is sorry for the hurt

Annie your such and awesome sister and your bro is lucky to have you. What an awful thing to happen to your brother and his family.

Argh at medical people that let your SIL fall thru the system.

WIshing your brother all the best