james has

had his appoinment at vera haywood center today which involves him being whacthed by a physio,occupational and speech therapy they played with him and my baby has verbal dyspraxia and fine motor probs which mean he will need inteance therapy to help him talk and to help his fine moter skills this is from brith and i,m soo upset my poor baby has to work twice as hard to learn how to talk and i feel its my fault which i know its not and atleast i know now (sorry a big ramble but i have to keep wipeing my tears for my baby to see what i,m writing)

Roksana wrote: Oh Hun....... You are a great mum and it is not your fault. I know James will have to work twice as hard but he has an amazing mum who will be there to give him hugs and praises and this will make it so much easier on him.

Well said Roksana.  I will just add more  from me.

Just curious how did you know he had to be tested and how early did his speech difficulties become apparent?

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Big Hugs Lu, definitely not your fault. You're a wonderful mother.

All the best with James and his therapy, he will get there! My brother didn't really speak until after he started school, he had to go through intense speech therapy also. He got there in the end, he's now 15 and you can't even tell he was a late starter!

Take Care

Big big hugs Lu

You are an amazing mum, and never forget that. There are lots of resources out there to assist you and James with these difficulties. And we will all be here to listen when you need us

Big hugs. My sister's oldest was diagnosed with dyspraxia (must be verbal and motor, I think) about 3 years ago (she is 5 now and has just started school). She got into a really good programme through the Champion Centre at Burwood hospital here in Christchurch and improved out of sight. I don't know where you are, but its likely other cities have similar programmes, and with the right input from physios, speech and language therapists, play specialists etc. you will see a dramatic improve. Let me know if theres anything you want me to ask my sister.

What everyone else said.

James is a strong kid and he'll do really well with you supporting him. It'll be tough but I have no doubt he'll come out the other side fine and dandy.

Much love xoxox

(Obviously that is for when he's old enough to go to school (duh me))

Oh hun its a natural thing to blame yourself but honestly its not your fault. And at least they are on to this relatively earlier on rather than when he began school etc....

I know when Josh was diagnosed with aspergers I so blamed myself thinking I did something to cause it... like I was drinking and smoking till I was 6 weeks pregnant unaware that I was pregnant....it didn't matter that but you still wonder and blame yourself.

caitlynsmygirl wrote: It means that your boy will work twice as hard , and you will have even more reason to be twice as proud of him

My thoughts exactly!

Big hugs to you, lovely!
It's great that you caught on so early.
Best of luck. With a Mummy like you he'll be just fine

thanks ladys it relly does mean alot thank you