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MummyFreckle 
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Posted: 19 April 2007 at 4:48pm |
I have new neighbours (the last ones were HORRID!!) and I met the lady yesterday. They seem very nice - so thats a relief. We were talking and she told me that her teenage daughter (who lives with her, along with her daughters boyfriend) is pregnant and due in late Oct / Nov time.
I have got a tonne of pregnancy books, and some duplicates (where different friends have all given me the same book!!) and I was thinking of taking some over to her to borrow, but would this seem a bit pushy? Wanted it to be a nice 'hey we are neighbours and pregnant and due close to each other' kind of thing, but am worried I might just come across as pushy and nosey. 
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busymum
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Posted: 19 April 2007 at 5:20pm |
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Hmmmm I think I would mention one of the books in a conversation but only go get it if she seems really keen to borrow it. I don't think it would come across as pushy.
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Bumble
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Posted: 19 April 2007 at 5:25pm |
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I agree with the mention in the conversation. Perhaps suggest that you found those books really helpful...Maybe her daughter might like them.. Or try and strike up a conversation with the daughter...
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AnnC
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Posted: 19 April 2007 at 5:47pm |
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I think its a lovely thought. I am sure she will say no thanks if she didn't want them or already has them but yes maybe mention it in a conversation over the fence and then take them round. I myself wouldn't mind if neighbour turned up with books but you never know some ppl. - although be prepared to not get them back sometimes things go missing etc....???
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miss
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Posted: 19 April 2007 at 7:06pm |
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She brought up the pregnancy, sO i think the gesture is lovely - I would have them on hand and say - would your daughter be interested in borrowing some preggy books?
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Posted: 19 April 2007 at 8:09pm |
Yes I agree miss, she brought up the pregnancy so maybe when you aare in conversation again, you can casually mentions the books 
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MILF
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Posted: 19 April 2007 at 9:26pm |
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i think it is a nice gesture, and not at all pushy. but yea, be prepared not to get them back as you dont know these people.
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Posted: 19 April 2007 at 9:39pm |
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I think it would be a great idea. Just say you were cleaning out a few things and thought you might like to read / look ??? at these.
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mum2emj
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Posted: 20 April 2007 at 7:36am |
i think it is a great idea too- not pushy, especially if you drop it casualy into a conversation with her. she might like to know someone due close to her too- i know i would of. your lovely
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Posted: 20 April 2007 at 8:33am |
Thanks ladies - feel better now!! If I see them this weekend, I will 'casually' mention that I have lots of books if ask if she would like to borrow them!! (I am prepared to not get them back!!)
ETA - the funny part of this story is that we live in a cul-de-sac with 7 houses, 2 of us are pg, 3 have had babies within the last 6 months. Something in the water maybe??
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Pushy vs Friendly?
