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SquishysMum
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Posted: 05 March 2008 at 9:59pm |
No kids here yet either, but my DH is just wonderful (most of the time!)
he does the dishes every night, and cooks when I'm too tired or working late. He will peg the washing up before work if I've put it on before I go out. And when I came home tonight, he'd tidied the living room, kitchen and dining table! Admittedly it was because we had a potential flatmate coming round, but it was nice to not have to stress after a long day. I think I'll keep him...
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lizzle
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Posted: 06 March 2008 at 6:41am |
My dh, well he tries. i work full time during the day and he works during the night so we share the child care duties and the kids go to daycare at 12. he will do some housework - but I usually have to leave a list of some sorts. at the moment he will do the dishes and washing without prompting - but anything other than that needs to be reminded. Taht said, when he is with the kids he will not do housework - he plays with them. He encourages me to do the same.
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IVFGirl1111
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Posted: 06 March 2008 at 8:39am |
Seriously Kaiz how do you cope?! I couldnt cope if DH was that organised - I like to call my house organised chaos lol
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Posted: 06 March 2008 at 10:22am |
I dont know booboo...
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Posted: 06 March 2008 at 10:26am |
LOL Jennz & Pepsi. I am in that same boat.
Need to trade my "typical" male. Up for offers?
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SMoody
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Posted: 06 March 2008 at 10:43am |
I am the SAH mom so it is naturally for me to do most of the housework. But just taking evenings in consideration and weekends I will say it is about 75% me and 25% him in the house.
He baths McKayla if she has a bath that night. Some days she showers with me or her dad. He makes the hot chock for her at night and sometimes tea for me. I cook at night (but that is while he is still at work.) I do the dishes and cleaning of kitchen and lounge before bedtime. I entertain McKayla most nights while he does his thing and his chill time. He does play with her a bit during the week.
He locks up when we go to bed.
In the mornings I take care of McKayla. Make breakfast and his lunch and if we go to Playcentre morning tea for bubs. He just gets ready for work.
On weekends he will help out with nappy changing ect. It depends who she goes to for a change or who she is closest to at the time. He doesnt try and get out of it. He plays quite a lot with her. Does the garderning. I am not allowed to mow the lawns at all as he feels it is too dangerous. He refuse to do the shopping with me but did go do clothesshopping last weekend with me for McKayla.
He will totally take care of her while I study even if it is during the weeknight.
He is a full on Dad and some days I wish he can help more with cleaning over a weekend but that I think is just a typical male thing.
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ElfsMum
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Posted: 06 March 2008 at 10:45am |
i dont agree with typical male thing...my Dh is very clean ;...loves to have things tidy..and more of the messy people i know are women:) lol.
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Andie
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Posted: 06 March 2008 at 2:15pm |
Hmmm yeah I have to say it was all women who were my messiest of flatmates, and the guys were generally fab!
Well my DH does the renovations here (yes, the saga of our marriage!). I don't help with those - I helped with a rental we had, but here have only scraped away lead paint and haven't done anything more for almost 2 years! So he doesn't bust a gut on the housework - or "your jobs" as he calls them!!! (yeah, he got that from his parents; his siblings still refer to helping with housework as "got stuck having to do one of mum's jobs" ). But since I began part-time work he's done most of the vacuuming, which I've appreciated. And he empties the dishwasher most mornings, and if Ella wakes around 6ish, he'll feed her brekkie while I shower. I don't like him bringing laundry in but lucky for me, he's not champing at the bit to do it anyway!
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Posted: 06 March 2008 at 2:32pm |
Jennz wrote:
I pretty much do it all. He does bath time at night and plays with them alot but I do all the housework/cooking/chores and pretty much all the the child related 'work'  |
Same around here!! The standard rule is that I do inside and he does outside... I think I lost out somewhere...
But the best bit is that mum thinks that I SHOULD be doing everything - as he goes to work and I am at home all the time! So I am trying to keep up with all the washing and housework - not as easy as I thought it would be.
DH loves helpig with Luke and is fine with changing nappies, bathtime etc, so that helps me out, because I can then get dinner ready. Now that we are moving to formula, he can do bottles too
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Posted: 06 March 2008 at 2:40pm |
i do most of the house work but DP does the out side so iam fine with that, we normally take turns with the cooking.
He always takes over with DD when he comes home from work which is good.
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Posted: 06 March 2008 at 2:55pm |
We share the cooking, doing alternate nights each. DH baths Eva, dresses her and changes her nappy whenever he's home.
I do most of the housework, but he'll help out if I ask him to. He also does his own laundry and ironing.
It's funny how traditional the roles can get once a baby is born. Prior to Eva's arrival, we shared the housework more evenly. However, as I'm at home all day, I think it's only fare that I do more HW.
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Posted: 06 March 2008 at 7:57pm |
We're pretty 'traditional' here - DH does outside, I do in. Prior to Jack we did all cleaning on a Saturday morning and it would be quite equal, but we're not really back into a routine as such yet. DH looks after Jack when I work (usually 3-4 nights a week) and takes a feed in the weekends one night so I get a full nights sleep. If I ask him to he'll help with hanging out washing and drying dishes, but I wouldn't want him to fold clothes or clean the bathroom as I'm very pedantic about all of that!
He's pretty good really. I think I probably cut him a bit of slack though as he's in a job he doesn't particularly love just so we can have a house and a baby, so he has to be commended for that
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The_Stuarts
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Posted: 07 March 2008 at 10:58am |
We share pretty much everything. I work at an office 37.5 hrs pw, he works 30 hrs pw. He looks after Michaela from 6:45am - 3:30pm mon-fri and I do the rest of the time (including taking her out on one weekend day so he can have a rest).
As far as housework goes we're pretty much even too. I'll do more 'cleaning' than he does but I don't vacuum or do the mowing and gardening.
I do all the cooking but he organises Michaela's breakfast and lunch 5 days per week and occasionally makes me chocolate fudge (mmmm) and is always happy to help if asked.
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Rachael21
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Posted: 07 March 2008 at 11:09am |
Mine is so great now. He used to be terrible and hardly even held Jack let alone did any housework.
Now we all get up together around 7, sometimes I lie in bed for a while lol he makes everyone breakfast (including me) while entertaining the kids and making his lunch. When I make it up I feed Caprece or instruct him to feed her and then he changes Jacks nappy if he has time before work. I only do the washing during the day, the rest of my day is kid time or relax time. I cook tea and when he gets home around 6 30 I'm usually bathing the kids. After bath he gets Jack dressed and puts him to bed and read his stories. Caprece is really clingy to me at the moment so I get her all ready for bed. I do the dishes and clean up toys after the kids are in bed and one of us vacums. I do all the other cleaning on the weekend and he does all the outside jobs on the weekend. Ben sometimes gets up to the kids if the wake in the night if I'm too tired. Its 50/50 with childcare on the weekend.
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Posted: 07 March 2008 at 3:53pm |
I confess that I am the slob in the marriage! I plan all the meals for the week, usually do the groceries and cook about half of them (depending on how tired I am). DH does the rest of the meals, the kitchen and the cleaning. We do 1/2 the washing each, depending who has run out of undies first. I sleep in on the weekends and DH gets up early so tends to get the housework done while I'm asleep. And if I'm lucky, I get breakfast in bed  .
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Posted: 07 March 2008 at 3:56pm |
Im another lucky lass: DH cooks, does teh washing, hangs it out, brings it in, folds it, takes care of teh bills does teh food shopping!!
I do the rest
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