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caraMel 
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Posted: 29 February 2008 at 5:28pm |
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They're too hard to explain but their constant demands and expectations are too much for me at the moment!
I'm just not what they want me to be and I never will be.
Why doesn't loving and doing my best for their son and grandchildren make me good enough?
Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah!!!
*tanties*
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MissAngel
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Posted: 29 February 2008 at 5:33pm |
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It never is good enough usually. My inlaws are retards - and I dont say that lightly either. BFs mum ALWAYS makes me do excessive amounts of work when I go over there - lifting etc, I got to the point where I had to be verbally rude to her to make her listen to me. I hope you get things sorted :)
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Posted: 29 February 2008 at 5:54pm |
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Mel you've married their little boy. Regardless of how old he is they will always see him as that.
I so can relate to you, I have a very difficult relationship with my outlaws. But I grin and bear it and bite my tongue ALOT.
You may need to stick up for yourself, and let it be known to them that you aren't putting up with their demands anymore, and that they are NOT to interfer anymore.
You can either tell Dh what you are going to do and have him backing you up, or do it on your own.
Be Strong Mel, it's the only way you can keep your sanity.
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Posted: 29 February 2008 at 6:22pm |
It sounds like me having another whinge again. My inlaws are right royal pains in the behinds. I am feeling very scared about bringing their first grandchild into the world they seem to ring and turn up at our house enuff as it is.
I feel for ya hun. but frankly if we get a man we get inlaws.
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Posted: 29 February 2008 at 6:40pm |
Awww Mel that totally bites for you. Spose I should be glad mine are getting a lot better.
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Posted: 29 February 2008 at 7:01pm |
*hugs* I have absolutely no experience with IL's having thankfully been spared PIL's (not that I wanted them to die or anything but it's worked out well for me  ) but big hugs Mel!
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Posted: 29 February 2008 at 7:49pm |
We need a dedicated thread for this, it is such a recurring topic!! You definitely have my sympathy Mel 
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Posted: 29 February 2008 at 7:53pm |
 aimeejoy wrote:
We need a dedicated thread for this, it is such a recurring topic!! |
Very true Aimee
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Posted: 29 February 2008 at 8:15pm |
Maya wrote:
*hugs* I have absolutely no experience with IL's having thankfully been spared PIL's (not that I wanted them to die or anything but it's worked out well for me ) but big hugs Mel! |
Same here....
Just remember, though, one day you will be the inlaw...lolololol!
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Posted: 29 February 2008 at 8:20pm |
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Posted: 29 February 2008 at 8:22pm |
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The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P
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Posted: 29 February 2008 at 8:22pm |
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or daughter.... she will be in the convent at 11...
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Posted: 29 February 2008 at 8:27pm |
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Hell yes, Daddy has a shotgun AND a pair of steel capped boots....
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Posted: 29 February 2008 at 8:36pm |
OMG I think I would be the worlds worst MIL when my boys get married. If I have a girl boys will have a lot to learn with her daddy in the Army 
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Posted: 29 February 2008 at 8:57pm |
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*note to self* don't let a gremlin marry Josh...
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Posted: 29 February 2008 at 9:43pm |
At least I won't have a DIL...at this rate
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Posted: 29 February 2008 at 9:46pm |
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I DEFINITELY won't have one!
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Posted: 29 February 2008 at 9:50pm |
Maya wrote:
I DEFINITELY won't have one! |
Um you can't say that, you never know how your girls may turn out.
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Posted: 01 March 2008 at 10:30am |
mummy_becks wrote:
Maya wrote:
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Um you can't say that, you never know how your girls may turn out. |
LOL! Charlotte was just saying today that she doesn't want to marry William anymore- she wants to marry Isabel AND Abby  So I may have a lesbian polygamist on my hands!
I must admit I am glad I most likely won't ever have a DIL! (I mean most likely in that the girls will most likely be straight NOT as in I might wind up having another child!).
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Posted: 01 March 2008 at 4:08pm |
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Ha ha - me too Jen!!
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